What has everyone got for their dad's, who are usually particularly hard to buy for?
Also, to add a caveat, totally fine to have a complicated relationship with your dad. If this is the case, please be kind to yourself and ignore this post!
Yeah it's so tricky, people seem to assume that you should have a great relationship with your parents, I certainly don't . Instead, treat yourself nicely this weekend!
My local football club I support had a father's day promotion, but a couple weeks beforehand they sent out an email allowing people to opt out. Really nice to see
I'm with you here, I have a very complicated guilt filled relationship with my dad and often this time of year causes issues. I always think it's nice to focus on the positive father figures or even mentors in your life and reach out to show appreciation and know none of this is on you!
Eh it's been 11 years since he went off the rails so I'm pretty much over it. Sucks around his bday but on weekends like this I'm mostly just happy to not have to spend time and money on an awkward meal out like most people I know. Gonna lounge in pyjamas instead and nobody can even make me feel bad for it lol.
Honestly I admire you so much for this. I am feeling the guilt to go have to spend time with my dad over spending time with my partner (who is an amazing dad). As you say it's always awkward and toxic but still the guilt remains. Great that are prioritising yourself, have a wonderful weekend!
Well I hope that whatever you do, it's as bearable as possible and you get to come home to your awesome partner asap. I don't know your situation so can't comment any further on that, just remember your feelings in all of this matter too.
Get something useful if you can't think of something "good". Some kind of flashlight or tool might be a good bet. I've also gotten my dad tech stuff before. Another thing could be merch for some sports team they follow.
For metal items you could have it engraved. I've done that on a multi tool before. Common for things like watches too.
Bought a part to fix his car door window mechanism and told him I'll fix it. I don't really know a thing about fixing cars so he'll probably be losing a window.
I love your caveat. My relationship with my dad is very complex, and it brings me so much anxiety to go through father's day every year. Same for mother's day, but father's day is upcoming so it's more pressing for me right now.
I feel the same and especially around this time of year there is lot of pressure to have this hallmark style relationship that is often so unrealistic for so many. I think either celebrate the mentors in your life regardless of who they are and/or treat yourself extra nicely (well we should all be doing the last point).
I never knew my dad, so I'm off the hook for buying a gift. I have 2 small children of my own tho, so I'll be spending the day with those little shits before I have some tattoo work done. That is my gift to myself.
I'm fortunate enough to have a good relationship with my dad. We see each other once a month, including later on today. I know he's not on the fediverse so I can openly say he's getting a couple of books from a series he's currently enjoying, and a box of biscuits. ;)
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