No problem! I have been reading it for a while, the author is a good person and took the time to make well-thought responses to my emails. Feel free to drop some yourself, he will appreciate it.
I totally agree with the authors point that opposite genders should be able to be friends. But I find her edit kind of odd… sure she doesn’t “owe” him anything but he doesn’t “owe” her anything either. The guy clearly misunderstood the relationship and being rejected by someone you really like hurts. It’s as if she expects him to immediately turn off his emotions and start hanging out with her platonically.
Edit: Also as soon as the guy said men and women can’t be friends she shoulda noped out of that friendship. Total nice guy material right there.
Or assume the default is sexual attraction. I’m not attracted to every woman that crosses my path, and it’s sexist to think I can’t see them as people, attraction or no attraction.
I get there can be damage from past relationships, because people are crappy. However, there needs to be trust there.
Amused myself for a while with this and got, among other things, some kind of philosophy of mathematics blog, an impenetrable biology thing and then a writeup of a band jam session with photos of the members looking like they’d had the best day.
It’s like a window into multiple alternate worlds where I only understand about 50% of what’s going on. Love it!
Someone has to make an edit of that one xkcd comic, where the whole modern infrastructure depends on one person in Nebraska, and change the text to “misspell of the word ‘referrer’.”
Thanks, I’ve subscribed to the RSS feed. I’m not yet in the habit of reading RSS feeds rather than my lemmy feed, but at least I’m populating it.
Also, in the spirit of !savedyouaclick, the main thing he wishes he had known was that it was more important to strive to be prolific, not good, because in doing that you learn so much.
He didn’t mention this, but this reminds me of another story I heard, apparently from Art & Fear by David Bayles and Ted Orland:
The ceramics teacher announced on opening day that he was dividing the class into two groups. All those on the left side of the studio, he said, would be graded solely on the quantity of work they produced, all those on the right solely on its quality.
His procedure was simple: on the final day of class he would bring in his bathroom scales and weigh the work of the “quantity” group: fifty pound of pots rated an “A”, forty pounds a “B”, and so on. Those being graded on “quality”, however, needed to produce only one pot – albeit a perfect one – to get an “A”.
Well, came grading time and a curious fact emerged: the works of highest quality were all produced by the group being graded for quantity. It seems that while the “quantity” group was busily churning out piles of work – and learning from their mistakes – the “quality” group had sat theorizing about perfection, and in the end had little more to show for their efforts than grandiose theories and a pile of dead clay.
Like why would I try to actually formulate a sales pitch for something objectively bad for humanity? Like Tesla or NFTs or any other extremely destructive “innovation” of capitalism?
Because as far as products those would top the list.
If you want to be a good salesperson (make commission not matter what shit you are pushing) you have to remove any semblance of morals or ethics from your soul.
Being a good salesperson != being a bad person good at sales
Those of us who are good at this shit have the luxury of choosing our gigs, which means we have the responsibility to choose things that are worth selling.
I’m currently using the paid version to host my occasional writing and am very happy with it. It’s not perfect, but what is?
One thing I like about it is that it’s not just a blogging platform, but it’s own little slice of the web. The home page is a list of blog entries from all the blogs sorted by some combination of “toasts” (likes) and age. (And the trending algorithm is both simple and publicly viewable.) I don’t explicitly subscribe to anyone else’s blog, but enjoy just browsing “trending” and “recent”.
I really enjoy reading thought-provoking content in a niche I’m not accustomed to. Like the author is deeply informed on the topic and offers an introductory primer to the niche.
Same. Too bad Indie Web is full of techy geeks and I happen to be one too. It’s really hard to find someone who is not a software developer/sysadmin/web designer/qa/etc.
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