When the number of people’s lives destroyed by an accusation numbers even 1/10 of the number of people’s lives destroyed by being assaulted, maybe we can talk about it 1/10 of the time instead of bringing it up every time women talk about being assaulted.
You don’t get to make me shut up just because you don’t like what is said. We will continue to talk about this, no matter how much fragile male egos try to manipulate us.
It doesn’t take being a Ted Bundy to represent a danger to women. That’s kind of the point. Statistically, women aren’t as safe near men as they would be near a bear.
And I get that you’d like to think that you’re somehow protected from being in danger. But whether or not someone is assaulted has very little to do with who they are as a person. Claiming otherwise is thinly veiled victim blaming and does little but display your own ignorance on the subject.
If you’d like everyone to sit down and listen, maybe start by listening when women speak up about their lived experience instead of trying to minimize it. You can’t have a genuine discussion about this when so many are trying to “what about” every time the topic comes up.
It’s so charming how women say “I am afraid” and the first thing men do is say “you’re delusional.”
Discounting women’s feelings is one of the reasons we are afraid. We have to daily interact with people who treat us as less than fully human, even when they aren’t raping us. Your daily behavior makes you more unpredictable than a bear.
At least with a bear, you know where you stand. And you won’t be actively hunted.
It bugs me when people say “the thing is is that” (if you listen for it, you’ll start hearing it… or maybe that’s something that people only do in my area.) (“What the thing is is that…” is fine. But “the thing is is that…” bugs me.)...
Once they become teens, the joy is in seeing them realize how much they don’t yet know. It happens rarely, so make sure to document it.
Nothing is more entertaining than being a parent.
There is also nothing to explain the disassociative feeling of having them kidsplain to you things that you taught them, or were actually there for. It’s like, dude, you didn’t know how to wipe your own bum until I taught you. I think I have a handle on 9/11, liberal vs. conservative politics, the Cold War, collapse of the Soviet Union, or how to drive/ shop for groceries/ pay taxes/ vote/feed my dog/apply a bandaid, or whatever thing you think just came into existence because you learned it.
Cold frames only buy you a couple of degrees. They are best for more cold tolerant plants like lettuce, spinach, etc. Sensitive plants like tomatoes and peppers do best with just planting them a bit later, in my experience.
I had trouble with growing peppers from seed until I got a heat mat.
Not where I live. Cold frames tend to overheat during the day, then lose too much heat at night. Even if you open them during the day.
I’m not saying they don’t work at all, I’m just saying I’ve not found the benefit for hot weather plants to be noticable. I just move them in and out during hardening, and make sure to not plant them until night time temps are high enough. That’s given me the best yield and least BER.
This is like saying a buddy who doesn’t want to hang out with you is the same as one who shoots and kills you. Neither activity is great, but there isn’t really a similarity.
You don’t have any new arguments, do you. I’ve already addressed that.
Ultimately, I don’t care if you are mad about it. Women are still going to give you a wide berth when they feel like it, and apparently with reason. The men who react the way you do are part of the reason men are perceived as a threat. I’m done trying to invite you to have a bit of basic comprehension.
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What linguistic constructions do you hate that no one else seems to mind?
It bugs me when people say “the thing is is that” (if you listen for it, you’ll start hearing it… or maybe that’s something that people only do in my area.) (“What the thing is is that…” is fine. But “the thing is is that…” bugs me.)...
What looks easy peasy lemon squeezy but is actually difficult difficult lemon difficult?
More starts going and more potting ups. My peppers haven't even germed, so I'm gonna have to buy some more than I planned. 21ish more days till planting. (lemmy.world)
What’s your guys thoughts on a cold frame? I think it could be worth the investment, just for hardening off, but can they take some snow weight?
hmmm (file.coffee)
Son, we need to have a serious talk! (lemmy.world)