Gaywallet

Gaywallet, 1 year ago

This article does a good job of highlighting some of the major issues with the bridal industry and how there's an irony in the wedding being touted as a bride's happiest day when the burden of designing the day often falls on the same person, bringing with it a high stress and anxiety inducing several months of planning in which the bride has to manage everyone else's happiness and expectations.

As an aside, I found the word choices in the writing to be rather odd. Not that I mind words like 'tradwifery' and 'bridalcore', but I found them somewhat odd flourishes that may be lost on some readers.

Gaywallet, 2 years ago

One of the labels I’ve found hardest to wrap my head around is aromantic. Unfortunately I don’t know many who are aro who aren’t also ace, so it makes it a lot more difficult to help quantify just exactly what romance is. As with any socially defined construct, I struggle a lot with what it’s supposed to mean, and therefore have issues identifying whether I am aromantic or not. I’ve been leaning towards ‘probably’ for awhile now, but I’m unsure whether the label would help or hurt to describe who I am - it feels like conversations tend to be better for this and explaining to others that I don’t know what romance is and asking them what romance is for them tends to help.

Gaywallet, 2 years ago

yikes, he’s just gone full shill huh?

Gaywallet, 2 years ago

Sadly this is entirely unsurprising and a clear focus of the republican platform. Trans rights are going first, because they are the easiest to deal with, but with it will go out the edges of other gay rights and gay rights eventually. It would not surprise me to see bills mimicking the various abortion laws going into affect having a similar reach but on queer issues instead - the ability to sue individuals who do what they don’t want happening. With a supermajority of conservatives on the supreme court and the absolute unwillingness of the democrats to solve these issues, I only expect this to get much, much worse before it gets better. I’ve been talking with a lot of my more liberal friends who live in the midwest and urging them to start thinking about moving, because I see this as a slippery slope which is only just starting to kick in.

Gaywallet, 2 years ago

It’s always struck me as particularly weird that the government likes to make possession of many drugs, in any quantity, illegal. I can understand making laws that say if you have say, 10 years of use for one person, that it might be questionable whether that is entirely for you or for resale. But if the argument is to stop people who are not the government or pharmacies from selling a substance, the laws should explicitly call out selling the substance or having an extremely excessive amount, one beyond any reasonable expectation of personal use.

But then again drug scheduling was created explicitly as a way to start a war on drugs, so it doesn’t surprise me that they didn’t think through the medical implications of making drugs which people regularly are prescribed and need to live happy healthy lives. We’ve had decades to fix this, however, and have been entirely unable.

Gaywallet, 2 years ago

I think it’s an interesting problem because at the heart of it is the fact that many queer people live much happier lives than straight people because straight society enforces such strict standards on what a relationship should look like and how you should live your life. Rejecting one form of social constraint makes people more likely to consider and reject additional constraints such as a societal value placed on how much money you earn or your status in a community or other things which can be irrelevant to whether someone enjoys their life.

Because of this queers often end up making the places they live desirable because they are full of happy people who are less judgemental. They’re busy doing what makes them happy and others see it and desire to live somewhere free from the same burdens of society. So the rich who have access to capital end up moving in and gentrifying further.

I think it’s also important to note that this happens in other microcosms as well. Queer women tend to make less money and tend to get pushed out of an area by queer men. Artists often get pushed out of artist collectives and areas by folk with more access to resources over time. Minority communities with thriving art scenes of various sorts also get pushed out - this is incredibly common when new music styles catch on mainstream.

I don’t think there’s an easy answer to any of this, but I do find it amusing that it definitively proves that queers and minorities are inherently more cool. 😎

Gaywallet, 2 years ago

I sometimes wonder if small changes like this might spur people to action, because long term 'we're all probably gonna die' hasn't worked so far