I hate the word ‘Consumer’ or I mockingly call it ‘CONSOOMER’. Because that’s to imply everyone in the world is just cattle, but with wallets. We’re no longer customers. We’re consumers now. And a consumer’s purpose is to consume shit, whatever is put out there. Got money? Shut up and consume, it’s what...
Intellectual capacity is a social darwinist fantasy.
That includes insults that go along the lines of, “Trump supporters can’t read.”
[Aside: I dislike Trump supporters, mind you. But if they couldn’t read (especially reading Breitbart, or the Epoch Times, or the text part to Russia-funded propaganda memes) that would actually be an improvement right now. Lower cognition would be an improvement if it were real.]
Anyways my reasons are as follows: I’ve tutored quite a few people, and never found one actually incapable of learning a particular concept.
I have, on the other hand, found a large number who were underconfident about their ability, citing their “low” intelligence specifically. And unlike their intellectual capacity, this belief in IQ was actually limiting. And harmful.
I have also encountered people (outside of my tutoring) who thought their “intelligence” was a source of superiority over the masses.
They were not superior people. Their vocabulary – which people often use as a misguided proxy for intelligence – was offputting because they often used words they had clearly never heard used in context. Indicating these words were added to their lexicon unorganically, pulled from a dictionary or thesaurus rather than an adventure novel, highlighting a strange set of priorities that always made these people suspicious to me.
Every time someone calls me smart, I tend to suspect they’re trying to scam me.
Every time someone calls me stupid, I shrug because they clearly haven’t met all of the people who call me smart.
But in all cases, they are invoking the idea that some people are just capable of more, and others are just capable of less. It’s social darwinism, like I said.
And I find it disgusting.
If you want my respect, never appeal to social darwinism in my presence.
“Marjorie Taylor Greene’s remarks on “globalism” should be alarming to anyone who has encountered the phrase ‘the International Jewry’ as they studied history.”
I also can’t help but notice how her personification of businesses (as things that can “really sweat”) and empathy for them far exceeds the level at which she humanizes workers.
It’s almost like “Mary Elizabeth Elkordy, founder of the remote-based company Elkordy Global Strategies,” has a keen sense for which team she belongs to.
As Bobert said elsewhere in these comments, there is a massive mental health benefit to having any adult at all who provides the child with presence and emotional support.
To add to that, I have received treatment from numerous therapists. And I have seen siblings and friends receive treatment as well. From my experience – and I might get some flak for this advice – even though a good therapist is better than no therapist, a bad therapist can actually be harmful. Your little pal will easily get more out of a well-intentioned friend than he would get if he wound up placed with a mediocre therapist. It’s the unfortunate state of mental healthcare in this country.
Ten years from now, if he’s eighteen and still in your life and starts asking for monetary assistance to pay for therapy? Great. Pay for his therapy. (Also make absolutely sure he keeps shopping around until he finds a therapist who really clicks with him. For the above reason, you know? The odds of him getting a great one on the first spin aren’t high.)
But until then: there’s a good chance he’s missing very little. And a very good chance there’s nothing to feel bad about if you can’t get this little guy into therapy. There are more surefire ways of improving his outcome.
So, like the other commenters said: offer the mom help. You noted that she’s guaranteed to dump him on you for long stretches of time.
Also, offer to pay for his phone plan. (Like another commenter said, phrase all offers as a benefit to her.) If she agrees, put yourself in his contacts, let him know he can always call you, and try to make sure he knows the number “988” and never feels too shy to reach out to that number.
Usually, when you open a website, that site might be pulling live data from somewhere, but it’s from a database on the same server. If you click a Fediverse link, and no-one else from your instance has already done so, it seems like your instance has to contact a remote site, pull the data and render it, in the same timeframe...
This isn’t really an answer to the question, but I just saw a Mastodon post about an online store that’s opening this October called Artisans.coop
It seems to be a cooperatively owned Etsy alternative, (and I can only assume it’s a response to whatever shenanigans went on between Etsy and Silicon Valley Bank.)
My assumption that this was about SVB sounds totally off the mark now that you’ve put it this way. From your story, it sounds like this is about an entire culture shift that’s been alienating Etsy’s original community of artisans for quite some time.
Replacing Uber AND Amazon? And on top of that, this same country got sued a few years back for offering cheap, generic alternatives to expensive drugs to their populace. (Big pharma wasn’t happy)
my reddthat.com was where I thought I would settle, but
the instance mod over at lemmy.myserv.one posted a reddit post requesting more users for his load-distributing instance, and I was like: “well that’s reason enough to switch.”
My only complaint is that this place isn’t federated with beehaw. I think Reddthat was federated with them?
My eyes hurt. Is this real? Did people add cuts after it became a meme? The Know Your Meme page doesn’t mention any added cuts, but it’s just so hard to believe something this ridiculous is real. I get a little bit of vertigo just watching it.
I read this at first on a browser and missed out on most of it. (it cut off at “canrefuteapointsoq…” but when I pressed a button that said, “view source” it actually showed the whole thing. Anyways,) That was a journey, @RojoSanIchiban
I’m glad the aliens turned out being so understanding. 😂
at least I can rely on people online to call me privileged because of my genitals and skin colour
Dude. Life is too short. Spoons are too hard to come by. Whoever is saying that to you, block them. Block them right now. For good measure, block one or two people for the mere crime of showing clips containing this bullshit rhetoric.
But if you’re following some internet personality, and they show these weird extremists to you, and all you feel is anger afterwards… get rid of the people showing you the crazy man-haters. You do not need that in your life.
There will always be some portion of the population that seeks to invalidate every form of pain. Every, single form of pain!
saying rape victims are "asking for it"
saying poor people just need to work harder
saying ADHD folks like you and I are only held back by our laziness
saying black people who get the shit kicked out of them by a police officer "should have tried to deescalate"
saying white men live easy lives
Often these people are narcissists, and are fed by the outrage they generate. Sometimes they are just set in their ways, and don’t realize that science and society have moved past their obsolete worldview.
But in all cases, these people aren’t worth your limited energy.
Block them and subscribe to ADHD groups on all of your apps.
Yeah, that “gentleman that he was” comment was A-tier sarcasm – vicious and beautiful. I wouldn’t be surprised if the 14 downvotes were just people concerned that a burn like that would speed up global warming.
That last bit was a joke, but the rest was true: it was a well-researched, incisive comment and did not deserve the downvotes it got.
I can see why there would be a danger here. If it wasn’t for the 64 upvotes, a deconverting Muslim might find this and feel like criticism of their “prophet” was somehow off-limits. They should always feel like they can come here and trash their religion just like we trash ours. It should never feel off-limits.
Although… now that I’m trying to imagine how it must look through the eyes of a deconverting Muslim, I’m very sorry, but I badly need to go on a rant now.
Why does the meme have to use an “cleric approves / disapproves” template instead of a “Drake approves / disapproves” template? The Drake meme template is pretty standard and well-established for this kind of structure. Not to mention, Al-Ghamdi’s latest news presence is him turning against (and getting cast out by) Saudi Arabia’s religious police. That’s the picture this meme came from! Uncrop the picture! His wife is next to him, and the two of them are making such a bold statement by having her face uncovered in that 2014 live television interview that this is actually why he got kicked out of the religious police. He has also advocated for allowing the country to celebrate Valentine’s day, which might seem like a small step to us, but it marks a whole culture shift in the country.
I’m not convinced this is a good show of solidarity and support for the ex-Muslim and de-converting Muslim comrades who live in Saudi Arabia or have any family there. A deconverting Saudi Arabian might very well admire Al-Ghamdi as a man fighting for good causes (albeit one with a authoritarian past who still holds incorrect beliefs.) I don’t get why we need to use Al-Ghamdi – especially a picture that crops crucial details of this particular interview – when the Drake approves/disapproves template can accomplish the same goal.
What simple changes should people do in their lives to make a positive impact on climate change?
I do believe the biggest impact would come from regulating large companies and billionaires, but it’s not one or the other.
What's a 'dirty word' that you hate hearing when it's used to describe something or someone?
I hate the word ‘Consumer’ or I mockingly call it ‘CONSOOMER’. Because that’s to imply everyone in the world is just cattle, but with wallets. We’re no longer customers. We’re consumers now. And a consumer’s purpose is to consume shit, whatever is put out there. Got money? Shut up and consume, it’s what...
Medirulecation (lemmy.sdf.org)
It can be a frustrating experience collecting Bing Rewards points while trying to learn Emacs. Microsoft understands, and is there for you. (lemmy.myserv.one)
Tech workers react to UPS drivers landing a $170,000 a year package with a mixture of anger and admiration (www.businessinsider.com)
cross-posted from: lemmy.world/post/2936916...
Seattle becomes first in U.S. to protect gig workers from sudden 'deactivation' (kuow.org)
Push For A 4-Day Work Week Picks Up Steam — And Critics (www.foxnews.com)
How do I take care of a kid that's not mine/unofficially foster a kid?
Hey, so… I may be in this situation soon, and I may just be in over my head here, but I’m a sucker who really couldn’t say no to this....
A lot of gays on jupiter (feddit.de)
Genital mutilation should be illegal (lemmy.world)
From a networking perspective, does the Fediverse strike anyone else as "optimistic"?
Usually, when you open a website, that site might be pulling live data from somewhere, but it’s from a database on the same server. If you click a Fediverse link, and no-one else from your instance has already done so, it seems like your instance has to contact a remote site, pull the data and render it, in the same timeframe...
TIL "The Rise of Skywalker" was released in December 2019 thanks to 137.241.250.130
Rule (lemmy.world)
What websites do you use as an alternative to Amazon?
I’ve been trying to avoid shopping on Amazon for several years. For computer parts, I look at Newegg. For pet stuff, Chewy....
How many fediverse instances are you signed up with?
Title....
Jump cut rule (imgflip.com)
On a more serious note... try to be a bit kinder to yourself today. You're not lazy, you're doing your damn best. (i.postimg.cc)
One group playing dress up has definitely hurt children (lemmy.world)
Muhammad was a pedo (lemmy.world)