Shelena

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Shelena,

Het komt vast goed met je examen. Als je nu al zulke hoge cijfers hebt, dan kun je het gewoon. Waarschijnlijk is de truc vooral je hoofd koel houden en dan komt het goed lijkt me.

Leuk dat de Computer Science gaat doen! Studie waar je ook wel echt wat aan hebt de komende decennia. Weet je al een beetje naar welke Universiteit je wilt? Op zich zijn alle studies op zich van goede kwaliteit in NL, maar de sfeer is wel heel anders per universiteit.

Shelena,

Lijkt mij leuk om elke week zoiets te doen! Ik post uit mezelf niet zo snel, maar dit motiveert me wel om te reageren. :-)

Shelena,

Dat snap ik! Helaas zit ik helemaal aan de andere kant van het land.

Shelena,

Hahaha, probeerde die vraag juist een beetje te vermijden. ;-) Wil de sfeer niet bederven. Maar heb niet echt wat leuks te vertellen. Raak binnenkort mijn baan kwijt omdat ik dan twee jaar ziek thuis zit en heb allemaal vruchtbaarheidsbehandelingen die steeds mislukken. Dus ben niet zo blij op dit moment. :-(

Shelena,

Beetje een pechweek dus. Gelukkig was het in de bus wel gezellig. Hopelijk maakte dat het weer een beetje goed!

Ik ben denk ik een beetje te oud voor echt goede tips over hospiteren. Toen ik 100 jaar geleden studeerde was er wel al enorme kamernood. Van mijn studenten die ik onderwijs geef begrijp ik dat dat nu niet echt anders is. Het was toen echt nemen wat je kan krijgen en daar wat van maken.

Ik wilde bijvoorbeeld eigenlijk graag in Utrecht wonen, waar ik studeerde. Uiteindelijk is dat Houten geworden omdat Utrecht gewoon echt niet haalbaar was. Was wel lastig als ik uitging omdat de trein niet de hele nacht ging, maar ik kon eigenlijk altijd wel bij iemand op de bank crashen. Daarna nog een tijd op zolder gewoond bij een Turks gezin. Daar had ik gewoon veel geluk mee omdat veel studenten blijkbaar racistisch waren en niet bij Turken in huis wilden. Mooie kamer, lieve mensen, belachelijk veel baklava gegeten. Was leuk.

Ik denk uiteindelijk dat de mensen waar je mee woont het belangrijkste zijn. Daar zou ik echt geen concessies op doen. Als het daar echt niet mee klikt of als je je niet veilig voelt dan ga je je niet thuis voelen. Voor de rest is denk ik overal wel een mouw aan te passen.

Edit: leuk idee trouwens om dit te posten. Zou ik zeker blijven doen. En sterkte met je rug.

Shelena,

Klinkt wel echt zonde. Heb je bij je huidige werk dit wel aan gegeven? Dus dat je er graag zou willen blijven werken maar dat je het financieel niet redt? Misschien valt er wel wat te regelen. Soms kan er meer dan je denkt. Zeker als ze ook blij zijn met jou.

Shelena,

Ja, dat zou schelen. Vaak kom je een eind met eerlijk je zorgen voorleggen. Dan heb je dat in elk geval geprobeerd. Ik zou niet heel duidelijk zeggen dat je anders weggaat, omdat ze dan misschien schrikken. Maar ik zou gewoon vragen wat de mogelijkheden zijn.

Shelena,

Gefeliciteerd!

Shelena,

To be honest, I was thinking about the man who was trying to show me his penis when I was hiking in the woods a couple of weeks ago, when I heard this question. He was white. Actually all men that harassed me were white, thinking about it now.

Racist stereotypes are a real issue and I am not trying to deny that. And if women needed to imagine some hypothetical situation when thinking about dangerous men, you might be right. However, I think you might be underestimating the number of women who have been harassed, or worse. Most women do not need to imagine, they can just remember.

Shelena,

Mooi zo. Hopelijk gaan ze ook van Twitter af op een gegeven moment. Je ziet dat vooral politie bijvoorbeeld veel communiceert via Twitter. Het zou beter zijn als ze andere kanalen ontwikkelen om dat te doen.

Shelena,

Dat is goed nieuws dan!

Shelena,

Ja, ik denk ook dat het ontwijken is. BBB is er voor de grote agrarische multinationals, dus zullen ze doen wat in hun belang is. Dat is niet het minimumloon verhogen, want dat kost die ondernemers meer.

Shelena,

The article by the Guardian that is linked is very interesting! I can really recommend reading it to people interested in this stuff.

Shelena,

Yes, that is an interesting question as well. I am wondering what the people with near death experiences could still experience from their bodies, because that would make a big difference as well.

Shelena,

This hits home quite a lot today. I am pregnant from a blighted ovum (embryo has not developed, but the amniotic sac it is supposed to be in did develop), for the second time. Today that was confirmed with an ultrasound (they already did one last week).

Last time I waited for the miscarriage to happen naturally (on the advise of a doctor) and that took months and then I gave up and got an abortion (pills and surgery). I can tell you being and feeling pregnant while knowing you will not have a baby is a horrible feeling. So, this time I told the new doctor that I did not want to do it again and that was fine. Within 15 minutes after the appointment I had the abortion pills in my bag and was on my way home and able to use them when I want.

It is a shitty situation I am in and taking these pills is not fun. I got quite ill last time. But the fact that I can get them so easily in this situation does make it better. I can take them and in a couple of days I will feel better and can process things. I do not need to wait for months carrying an non-vital pregnancy.

I feel so bad for the women who are in the same, and often much worse situations as me and that do not have access to abortion anymore. I really hope this will change and also the attitude towards abortion will change. I do not judge women who get it for non-medical reasons. They should be able to also. But besides that, it is a normal medical procedure that is sometimes life-saving and often just helps to make a horrible situation more bearable. I feel like people sometimes forget that part.

Shelena,

Thank you. I think this is a reason for abortion that happens quite often. I really hope that it helps if I share it.

I think I will be okay. I am very sad as I really wanted a baby and I am not sure whether I can have them as I have fertility issues. However, last time the sadness got less over time, fortunately. It is still a bad memory, but it is not constantly in my mind anymore. I think this time the same will happen.

Shelena,

No, it is not junk science. Research about it is published in many serious scientific journals. Just check out Scopus or something. You cannot say that it is junk science just because you do not like the results.

You also seem to not understand it. It does not say that you can escape the law of physics. It also does not say that in my explanation. It says that you energy expenditure goes down if you get below the setpoint. So, eating less becomes less effective. At the same time, you appetite will go up. This makes it very difficult to maintain the weight loss and this is why many people fail to keep the weight off in the long term.

Criticism of any research is possible, of course. However, just saying it is junk and misrepresenting what the theory actually says are not good arguments.

If you disagree, then what is your explanation of why most obese people tend to not keep more than 10% weight off over time without medication or surgery? What scientific evidence is there for that? I would be very interested in hearing about alternative research on this topic.

Shelena,

No being obese is not healthy. It is clearly associated with many health risks. I have no idea why you would infer that I would think it is healthy from what I have said. Obesity is clearly a problem. However, to solve it, I think we should look at the mechanisms behind it and try to understand it. So, that is what I am trying to do.

Saying that something is “just fat people bullshit” is also not a good argument. Maybe we can leave the emotions and especially the anger out of it and just look at the research. You seem angry and I have no idea what I have done to you to make you angry. I just tried to discuss some research on this subject.

Shelena,

The fat storage cells definitely play a role as well. One of the ways in which the mechanism I discussed works is via leptin, as leptons regulate energy expenditure. Leptin is primarily produced by adipocytes. So, I believe that is where the connection is. This paper says some interesting stuff about it: https://doi.org/10.1242/dmm.008698.

The issue that I was discussing is that most people do not succeed with keeping the weight off. Most obese people do not manage to lose significant weight in the long term as they tend to regain the weight. We need to look at why that is to solve it. The research on setpoints offers at least a partial explanation. However, if you know about research that further explains this, I would be very interested. (Some sources if you are interested: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17469900/, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11684524/, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19175510/)

Shelena,

That something sounds like bullshit does not mean that it is bullshit. I mean, I believe we should look at the data and the research. I did hear something about the role of gut bacteria but it was more about issues like depression. Might be interesting to check out further. Thank you.

I am not saying people should not fight their cravings. But the cravings of someone who is obese might be very different from someone who has a normal weight. Like I said, if you get below the setpoint often appetite will go up. Considering that most obese people are not able to lose significant weight in the long term, these cravings seem to be too strong and it seems to make people unable to “just eat less”. So, we need a solution for that.

I am not sure whether this is what you are referring to, but I know about this study that says that prenatal exposure to famine in early gestation increases the risk of obesity.

Shelena,

Thanks for the name. I will check out Rhonda Patrick and see what research I can find on the topic. I thought you were calling the different theories bullshit, but maybe I misunderstood you and you only meant to say that they sound like that. If that is the case, I apologize. I got so much negativity just for mentioning the research that I might have responded too harshly.

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with weight so much. I think obesity has to do with eating habits. However, there is a reason for why you have this eating habits. One reason for that could be gut microbiome.

What often happens is that people just get angry with themselves for eating too much. And that anger might help in the short term to force yourself to eat less, but in the long term it will not work and it will just make you feel bad about yourself. However, if you look at the actual underlying causes, such as gut microbiome or setpoint theory, this might provide the insight needed for long term weight loss without the extent of suffering that most obese people have to endure.

It is the only study I know about this. I checked it out, because I have a lot of people with anorexia in my family as well as some people with eating disorders causing obesity. I thought maybe being anorexic and pregnant is similar for your body as being in famine and pregnant. So, that is why I know about this study.

Shelena,

I am not an AI. I am not sure how to prove that, but I am not. I am a scientific researcher, but in another field than the medical field. Maybe my scientific background shows in the way I communicate? Also, English is not my native language, so that might be why I sound different as well.

The reason I checked out so much research on obesity (as well as on being underweight) is that many of my family members suffer from eating disorders. I lost my little sister to anorexia a couple of years ago and my mother had it. However, some of my family members are obese as well, also due to eating disorders. I think trying to understand why people eat in a certain way and to help them instead of just judging them, might change things. And for me, scientific work and data is the best way to understand things. Maybe that gives you a bit of understanding where I am coming from and why I am interested in this subject.

If something is the result of research, it cannot just be called bullshit and set aside. It is not just another opinion that you can just decide to disagree with, considering the care that usually has been taken to reduce bias and ensure validity. Of course, research can be wrong and it is important to have a scientific debate. However, such a debate should be based on clear reasoning and arguments and other research results.

I was not pitying you. I was being compassionate. There is a difference between the two. I tried to be kind and understanding. That’s all.

Edit: I also wanted to mention that the study I linked refers to a study on women who were pregnant during the famine in WWII in the Netherlands. Maybe that is what you meant.

Shelena,

Thank you, I appreciate that very much. I try to be accepting of other ideas and to be understanding. But sometimes it is difficult for me too. Especially if I get many negative reactions and I do not completely understand why (I do not mean you, but some of the other people that responded to me). Then I get defensive as well, even though I try not to be.

Your work sounds nice and very useful! As a researcher, I know a lot about a very small set of subjects. Sometimes, I am wondering whether I am actually contributing enough and whether what I am doing is actually useful. When you are building homes, at least it is very clear who you are helping and how they benefit from it. I would not be able to do it. I have two left hands, as we say in my language. I am not good with the practical stuff, I am only good with theory.

In any case, thank you for the discussion. I checked the gut microbiome out a little bit already and there is a lot of scientific work on it. Very complex and very interesting! I am looking forward to delving into that. I hope you have a nice day (or evening depending on the time where you are).

Shelena,

I think the person who thought I was an AI explained it quite well. Thet said they just got jaded. However, they believed me when I told who I was and apologised. I appreciate it when people are able to revise their idea and it shows they did not have bad intentions.

I would not say people are crazy, there is a lot of manipulation going on on the internet by businesses and some governments. I think a lot of people fall for bots all the time. For example, Twitter and Reddit is full of them. So, I do not think it is that weird that people sometimes are not sure whether they are talking to AI.

What happened to you when you even showed pictures of yourself and they still were convinced you were AI is quite extreme. I hope that that does not happen too often, because that seems like the other person is either a troll or paranoid.

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