Having a group is only half the battle, the other half is getting that group together when one person works odd hours, another has chronic illness with lots of medical appointments, and a third has a bitch of a commute during the week so often can’t get home in time.
For years we had games every Friday and Sunday, all it takes is a couple of people changing jobs to completely disrupt that setup.
The trigger warning is because the topic can be emotionally heavy for autistics since it talks about the social abuse autistics endure and how we react to it by masking. The guy has an apparent justifiably angry tone throughout the video. Otherwise, I think it is fine and there are no sensory issues to worry about....
I want to give them the benefit of the doubt and say perhaps it’s a deep freezer that is only opened occasionally, and I guess is pretty well sealed as long as it’s closed....
Yes, putting an electrical appliance in the bathroom is weirder than putting an appliance that requires both power and plumbing in the room that always has both power and plumbing.
We’ve all heard the labels – vegan, city dwelling, young affluent, anti-capitalist hippies… the list goes on. But beyond the rage-baiting media’s depictions, what’s the funniest, most surprising, or common misconception someone has had about your minimalist lifestyle?
I also buy second-hand whenever possible, and try to fix things instead of replace them, and for the stuff I’m buying it’s usually more expensive, not less. Especially when big stores offer free delivery on just about everything while your average ebay user obviously doesn’t.
Recent example: I got a shoulder strap for a clutch bag and the clasp on the strap broke. It was only missing a tiny spring, so I found a tiny spring online and repaired it. The strap cost £5. The spring to fix it cost £6 including postage. But it worked!
I had lessons from various people every summer for the first few years after I turned 17 (age you can start learning on public roads in the UK). I’d get to “test standard” each time on the mechanics of it, but navigating other drivers was too much so I never actually took a test, and never intend to.
I’m now in my 30s and have structured my life around not having a car. My house is on a 24-hour bus route into town where I work, and walking distance to most amenities. My husband does have a car, so he can drive us places that aren’t on public transit routes (such as our parents’ houses) but the vast majority of the time I’m doing my own thing while he’s at his job an hour’s drive away.
I get the same feeling like I failed a math exam, like I should’ve known better but didn’t. I know I shouldn’t feel like this, I know nobody cares, but I can’t help it. It makes it hard to just relax and enjoy things.
No idea whether it’s their reason, but anecdotally I’ve found it has a few benefits. If coordinated properly it’s significantly easier to train new(er) staff, it improves cross-organisational understanding to overhear other departments’ conversations either at desks or in break rooms, and it stops people becoming isolated pockets of knowledge and culture because they only ever see or interact with the same one or two people.
On a quick search, I found this Forbes article and this article from Autism Housing Network. The Autism Housing Network appears to be a treasure trove of resources about this very interesting idea in general....
My instinctive response is that it’s a terrible idea. While having no expectation to mask is great, it seems to me that gathering a group of people who generally struggle to take care of themselves and their environment and who have very low tolerance for certain environmental stimuli and a deep need for other environmental stimuli is a recipe for chaos.
I attend a local autistic adults zoom group every other week, and it’s great for support and understanding, but if I had to be in the same room as one of the other members their stims would give me a meltdown. I over-empathise emotionally, an autistic friend has almost no emotional empathy, as a result some of our interactions do not go as intended. Multiply these kinds of issues with having to effectively live with eachother and I just don’t see it going well.
I honestly feel bad posting here again, I feel like a burden. It’s just me struggling… so feel free to skip this post and look at more interesting things...
This is why I concluded that I can’t live in shared housing. Thankfully my social phobia isn’t triggered by living with a partner or I’d be fucked as far as affording housing.
I don’t have any useful advice or way to help, but you’re not a burden and you’re not the only one to feel this way. Sorry if that’s not exactly comforting.
Given the context of the article, the alternative suggestion isn’t “set up your own server” but “use software that doesn’t require a server”, which sidesteps most of that list.
Some businesses are offering special hours and events for people with sensory processing disorder that makes sights, sounds and smells feel overwhelming...
That point about how sensory processing issues can affect your health is so on point, I had no idea how much of my general anxiety was caused just by the world being too loud and bright. Earplugs and sunglasses worked instantly where 5 different medications failed to do anything.
We broke the Anima system in half with overpowered characters. Not that it holds together very well normally. One mage character boosting the tank’s strength high enough to lift a mountain and creating him a giant tungsten lump, another mage opening a portal directly above a bad guy’s tower, apply tungsten to tower at great speed. No more tower. The GM was too amused to be mad that we wrecked his whole plan. We used the same trick to launch a necronomicon into the sun (or near enough). Also so many magically created artefacts, creation mages are just bullshit. But I got away with it because I made some for everyone.
Because the number of people who won’t buy it because of the LCD screen is smaller than the number of additional people who will buy it if it’s $X cheaper at launch.
That may be your experience, my partner and I use it co-op on every game that has it and watch each other play singleplayer, so it’s almost never out of the dock. I imagine many families with multiple kids and not enough budget to get everyone their own would do the same.
Link to an Instagram reel Audio “I will grow under any conditions” Text “Me before I unmasked, working myself to what looks like irreversible ASD burnout”...
“Skill regression” is such an awful term. It would be like taking a severe workaholic who is getting stress ulcers, having them develop a proper work-life balance, and calling that “productivity regression”.
I don’t seem to be able to reply to WookieMunster so I’ll say here:
I don’t get the hype over OLED screens, honestly. The difference isn’t enough for me to care, and it’ll be plugged into a TV most of the time anyway. It’s only a downgrade in that one area and only if you have an OLED Switch, whereas I don’t have any kind of Switch and couldn’t tell you which model my husband’s (the one I’ve played) is.
Well I think I might be autistic, I’ve wondered why I feel so different from other people, why it feels like I am taking my entire life, why when I lose focus, or am not being focused on i become completely silent and struggle to make even simple comments, and why I have had to watch and learn from others to become remotely...
I’m so glad you’re feeling validated, it’s so miserable to be adrift in thoughts of “what’s wrong with me”!
Stimming is one of those things that everyone does to an extent, since it’s basically just “doing things that feel nice”. The difference for neurodivergent folks is that it helps us emotionally regulate in a way that neurotypical folks don’t need, so we tend to do it a lot more often (or feel extra stressed/anxious/irritable).
Sure they do, NTs do a lot of stim activities, the difference is that they don’t need to stim in order to remain calm and centred, they can just do it because it’s fun.
There is definitely an underlying assumption that everything is infinitely replaceable or accessible, especially for books and media, which is simply not true. But starting from the assumption that everything is valuable is just as bad. If you can identify where the value actually lies for you it can help.
E.g. for me the thing that’s valuable is knowing what I thought of a book when I read it and how it made me feel, because my memory is very poor. Now I’ve started keeping a digital notebook with a private review of each thing I read, so I only have to keep books I want to read again. Which is still a lot, but much less than it was.
My world shall go unused (lemmy.world)
[Trigger Warning] Fawning Causes Abusive, Toxic Relationships for Autistic People (youtu.be)
The trigger warning is because the topic can be emotionally heavy for autistics since it talks about the social abuse autistics endure and how we react to it by masking. The guy has an apparent justifiably angry tone throughout the video. Otherwise, I think it is fine and there are no sensory issues to worry about....
Is this a refrigerator in the bathroom? (lemmy.ca)
I want to give them the benefit of the doubt and say perhaps it’s a deep freezer that is only opened occasionally, and I guess is pretty well sealed as long as it’s closed....
What's the most common misconception others have about your minimalist lifestyle?
We’ve all heard the labels – vegan, city dwelling, young affluent, anti-capitalist hippies… the list goes on. But beyond the rage-baiting media’s depictions, what’s the funniest, most surprising, or common misconception someone has had about your minimalist lifestyle?
Learning to drive?
Hello lovely people,...
I don't think I've ever seen a BBEG bard in a campaign before. (startrek.website)
Anyone else feel like shit if they don't retain what they've learned with their special interest?
I get the same feeling like I failed a math exam, like I should’ve known better but didn’t. I know I shouldn’t feel like this, I know nobody cares, but I can’t help it. It makes it hard to just relax and enjoy things.
End of an era: Zoom tells employees to return to office for work (nypost.com)
I guess this could just as easily be posted in an anti-work community
How to Declutter Your Home Fast - The (mostly) Simple Life (www.themostlysimplelife.com)
Google Street View car leads Indiana police on 100 mph chase, crashes into creek (fox59.com)
Anyone know of any interesting resources about autistic/neurodiverse intentional communities or cohousing? And how do we feel about this movement?
On a quick search, I found this Forbes article and this article from Autism Housing Network. The Autism Housing Network appears to be a treasure trove of resources about this very interesting idea in general....
inability to socialize
I honestly feel bad posting here again, I feel like a burden. It’s just me struggling… so feel free to skip this post and look at more interesting things...
The Cloud Is a Prison. Can the Local-First Software Movement Set Us Free? (www.wired.com)
It’s a busy, noisy, bright world. For some, going out is hard. (wapo.st)
Some businesses are offering special hours and events for people with sensory processing disorder that makes sights, sounds and smells feel overwhelming...
Powerful PCs = using more fun monsters (ttrpg.network)
Or magic items to encourage shenanigans, looking at you Alchemy Jug
Nintendo Switch 2 to Feature as Much as 512 GB of Internal Storage, 8-Inch LCD Screen - Rumor (wccftech.com)
Skill Regression upon Diagnosis (www.instagram.com)
Link to an Instagram reel Audio “I will grow under any conditions” Text “Me before I unmasked, working myself to what looks like irreversible ASD burnout”...
Nintendo’s Switch successor is already in third-party devs’ hands, report claims (arstechnica.com)
What now?
Well I think I might be autistic, I’ve wondered why I feel so different from other people, why it feels like I am taking my entire life, why when I lose focus, or am not being focused on i become completely silent and struggle to make even simple comments, and why I have had to watch and learn from others to become remotely...
Sentimentality vs "Historicity"
This may just be a “me thing”, but a decluttering-related musing I’d like to share in case it resonates with anyone else....