BackOnMyBS

BackOnMyBS, 13 hours ago

“we”. mfer is sending other people to war. he is not involved in any fighting. eff outta here

BackOnMyBS, 3 days ago

it’s not authentic until they gang up on the autistic kid

BackOnMyBS, 3 days ago

Congrats on hearing BB King! The dude is a legend, basically creating a whole new genre. Imagine making music so good that it becomes a genre. That’s BB King.

BackOnMyBS, 4 days ago

oh no, is this an autism thing too?? guys, it’s hitting me how autistic my entire life is. there aren’t any areas that are NT at all. zero. everything is autistic, even how I eat, watch tv, and wear shirts. the last one is passive, yet I still do it autistically 😆

Funny story:

Before I found out, I had a friend that I would think was “a little autistic”. Remember, I didn’t really know much about what people said autism was. Anyway, once I found out about myself and told people, most of my long-term friends told me they were too. That means this guy I thought was a little autistic must be raging autistic to NTs 😆. So, I told him that he was def autistic, and he said that he wasn’t, then started talking about the material in the soles of his shoes (you can’t make this up!). I said, you’re literally a world-renown engineer (I swear he had over 40 patents), your mom is a social worker that works with autistic kids, your parents have like 20 pets including chickens in the middle of Miami, and your daughter is diagnosed as autistic! the dude ignored me.

Later on, he got into some problems at work where he was accused of some bs by a person that wanted his position, so he got a lawyer. The lawyer told him that there are some high achieving people with certain traits that often get attacked by lesser performers for their position. I told him something like, “Yes!! High-achieving autistic people because they piss everyone else on the team off! You’ve got over 40 patents halfway through your career and are showing up still drunk from your little BDSM party the previous night, while these people are busting their asses off to get maybe 3 patents their entire careers. Then, when they complain about how hard they are working on a problem for the past 2 semesters so they look smart and focused, you solve it for them on the spot, making them look stupid af. Meanwhile, you think you helped them out, so you act like you didn’t just punk them in front of everyone and invite them to lunch, ‘Dont worry. You don’t have to pay for me just because I helped you out.’ Think about it.” Last time I spoke with him, he was still “not autistic”.

BackOnMyBS, 4 days ago

If I remember correctly, NordVPN keeps logs So, if a govt ever subpoenas their data, users can have their privacy violated.

BackOnMyBS, 4 days ago

1. It obscures your IP so that sites don’t know who you are by that, but really, they can just fingerprint your browser if you’re not addressing that too.
2. You can present your location to a site as being from any where the VPN has a server. Say you want to watch something that is only available to users in Canada, but you live in Mexico. You can use the VPN to present yourself to the site as being in Canada and watch it. Unfortunately, some sites are blocking content from being accessed by known VPN IP addresses. I think Netflix is one. Frustrating to me, lemmy.world doesn’t let anyone post or comment while using a VPN, though I understand that it’s for valid security and admin purposes, such as to reduce CASM material.
3. More importantly, it encrypts your data between you and the VPN. That means that no one between you two knows what the info you’re transmitting means. This includes your ISP that likely collects/sells your data or could report it to authorities. Additionally, it protects you from people that can join your wifi and steal your data that way, say at a public wifi like a coffee shop.

Personally, I use a VPN as much as possible, especially when I’m connected to any wifi outside of my home. In fact, I will absolutely not access security-sensitive sites (e.g. bank accounts, credit cards, etc.) on public wifi without using my VPN.

BackOnMyBS, 5 days ago

Kenya stop telling me what to do?

BackOnMyBS, 6 days ago

I seriously did that on a date just a few hours ago, but it gets better. It was Immortal Technique lyrics:

🎶I took a shit on a development deal from Sony🎶

nailed it. someone fist bump me 🤜

BackOnMyBS, 7 days ago

https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/d1735504-5220-43c5-b056-a95b324c705b.jpeg

BackOnMyBS, 7 days ago

Can you and @haui_lemmy please let me go to sleep. I can’t tell if I’m laughing from validation or humor. 😂😂

BackOnMyBS, 7 days ago

I got this from a few friends lol. Apparently, it’s pretty obvious that I’m autistic, but I had absolutely no self-awareness. I have a natural tendency to choose other autistic people to socialize with. I would think they were normal, authentic, interesting, easy to communicate with, and accepting. Meanwhile, I thought most people were inauthentic, shallow, hard to understand, and judgmental. Now that I know I’m autistic, I understand that:

• inauthentic = social conformity amd social construction of reality
• shallow = small talk
• hard to understand = speak using “polite” indirect implications and social cues
• judgmental = upset that I “ignored” their indirect politeness and broke social norms by speaking directly. Ironically, I was being judgmental of them, too.

I still prefer autistics because they’re just my people and we get along much better, but have more understanding and acceptance of NT behaviors. Anyway, when I found out I was autistic, a some of them were like, “We thought you knew…it’s pretty obvious.”

BackOnMyBS, 9 days ago

AM I WRONG‽

BackOnMyBS, 7 days ago

yooooooo! Before I found out I’m autistic, I asked a friend if I had any toxic traits/patterns/behaviors. He said that the only thing he could think of was that quite often, people can’t tell that I’m joking. According to him, people have to get to know me for a while until they recognize my humor. If they didn’t know me, then I would come off like a complete jerk. This is probably why people would call me an “asshole” so often at parties.

BackOnMyBS, 9 days ago

neato burrito 🌯😋

BackOnMyBS, 9 days ago

Same. My ex told everyone that I was abusing her so that they wouldn’t believe me when I started coming out about how she was abusing me. I’m so happy to have gotten her out of my life. I feel bad for the two guys married to her sisters. They’re nothing but punching bags for those monsters.

BackOnMyBS, 9 days ago

If it were me, I would love it if my coworker would tell me I stunk. Otherwise, I would internalize why no one wants to be around me and think I’m shitty. My preference would be for them to pull me aside somewhere private and directly tell me.

BackOnMyBS, 12 days ago

i love it ❤️

BackOnMyBS, 13 days ago

I don’t know. It’s all the same experience to me lol

BackOnMyBS, 8 days ago

omg, don’t get me started! The pirates were sooooo interesting! They were revolutionary for their time. One of the things they would do is assault slave ships and free the people that were enslaved. Then, those people could join the pirate ranks. They formed a democratic republic in the Bahamas. Then, individual ships would elect Captains. Outside of live combat, the Captain could be replaced by a simple majority vote at any time. The majority of them really preferred to avoid hurting others, so they tried to employ fear tactics that would cause the ships being assaulted to surrender without a fight. One time, a group of them mounted a ship completely naked except for their weapons. The other ship was so terrified, they surrender without any fight. Can you imagine a pack of pirates mounting your ships ready to fight completely naked?? lol

BackOnMyBS, 13 days ago

Share away! It’s hard to come up with questions about an experience I’ve never had. What stuck out to you? What was different between your expectations and experiences? What do you think most people don’t understand about AmTrak travel?

BackOnMyBS, 13 days ago

awwwww beansssssss :(((

BackOnMyBS, 13 days ago

This is one of my top two reasons for not using Windows. Wth can I not put the panel where ever the hell I want?? So freaking frustrating how they control what you can do just in terms of user preferences. Or like, why can’t I click on whatever window I want regardless of a prompt being open. “Oh you took a screen shot and want to save it, but you need to look at the site to remember the name? lol, fu.” Unbearable.

Fyi, the other top reason is that they shove a bunch of garbage in that I don’t want, like that Cortana bs they did a few years back. No thank you.

BackOnMyBS, 8 days ago

My perspective on that as an autistic adult is that it makes no sense in hiding things. It just seems like things would be a lot easier if everyone was straight forward and truthful. I also have trouble understanding NT social standing/hierarchies, so it’s hard for me to grasp why being truthful could affect anyone’s social standing unless it’s pretty damning info. I know that NTs see it differently, so I really hold on to truthful information until I feel confident with the person, which lately has been taking me about 12 months of frequent interaction to achieve.

However, I’ve more recently started using a boundaries concept of thinking of people as a sound mixer. Each dial represents a person’s reliability on a domain of trust (e.g. finances, secrets, emotional stability, etc.). This has helped me develop a “spectrum” of trust with others. It’s a lot of mental work because I have to analyze things more, but looks promising.

BackOnMyBS, 8 days ago

Thank you very much! I have to really work at it because I have trouble seeing the big picture as a whole. My process is to focus on minute details, so I start drawing a part of the scene and work out from there. Yesterday in class, my drawing teacher saw me doing that with a bird picture and gave me the recommendation to draw the outside of the whole thing first, so that I could fill it in a lot easier. I tried it, but messed it up. I guess it’s my bottom-up mental style 🤷‍♂️