It’s definitely like this. I don’t entirely mind it for myself, because it reminds me to log off before I can get into a doomscroll where I’m assailed by my family member’s awful opinions. I only use FB for marketplace/buy nothing groups, and the barrage of shitty ads/promo posts helps me log off as soon as I’ve found what I need (or have given up on finding what I need).
Hej all! I’ve gotten into knitting lately but don’t always have ideas for what to make. My partner suggested making a little sweater or something like that for our haj son and I love it! Has anyone done something like this? I’m a total beginner so don’t know anything about making my own patterns (or reading them tbh -...
Is there a typo here? If you make 140k a year in the US it puts you in the top 10% of earners, but still below average. Yes, part of the richest in the sense that most of the world probably makes less than you, but nowhere near the richest in terms of what these statistics are talking about when they refer to the top 1% - ie. people who make close to, if not more than, a million dollars per hour.
That is to say - someone making 140k is not capable of the levels of pollution that people with private jets, who take dozens of flights every year - not even scratching the surface of their shopping and eating habits, and the pollution caused by their businesses and investments.
This is my first attempt at regrowing (baby) bok choy from kitchen scraps. The growth is great but the outside is super wet and mushy. Is there any fixing this, or is this stalk a total goner?
Thrifting is always best IMO. The selection depends on your location; I’ve noticed smaller, more rural areas tend to have better selections than suburban areas or cities. There’s also online thrifting through sites like thredup and vinted - obviously, your mileage may vary. I use FB marketplace to get home goods but I’m sure it’s good for getting local used clothes, too.
The area where I’m struggling is the fact that, to my knowledge, Lomi doesn’t actually make the organic matter “decompose” - which means, presumably, it would still decompose when disposed of, right?
I got mine when I moved (used as well - only 150 bucks!) because it became way less feasible to drop off my organic waste in my new city. It definitely drastically reduced the amount of trash I had to take out (as compared to just… throwing everything out), and reduced smelliness in the trash. If it does actually reduce methane emissions, then I would say it’s a great option. If it doesn’t… then, well, it probably cuts down on trash loads and things like that, but I’m not sure that it would otherwise be worth it.
I’ve seen some people unhappy with the end product in terms of using it in place of regular compost; I know their “lomi pods” are pretty much required if you want to use it for plants - so you’ll need to buy those (as well as filter replacements - although I’m pretty sure you can just use regular activated carbon pellets) - and it’s possible some people weren’t using those. Just something to keep in mind!
I don’t know if I’m just becoming overly sensitive to my own language or if this is an actual issue, so feel free to let me know if it seems that I just need to grow thicker skin, but still....
I’m not mute, but to me, using “dumb” to describe someone who is mute sounds… worse? It feels like the equivalent of recognizing that “crazy” has baggage and not using it in everyday speech, but continuing to use it to describe mentally ill people. I understand that it’s not a perfect comparison, but it feels like sometimes, words become too enmeshed in their modern-day insulting uses to feel okay using them to describe a community, even if it is the technical definition of the word.
If anyone who is mute/nonverbal/nonspeaking sees this and I’m wrong - please let me know!! I don’t mean to overstep, I just want to share my perspective.
I think it’s a super complicated topic. My understanding of the quote is that ableism is much bigger and more complicated than language, but we should be aware of how our language reflects ableist views - like the normalization of ableist slurs into our everyday vernacular, for example. In other words, our society is so comfortable with ableism, that even disabled people and advocates for disability rights may use ableist terminology regularly, whether or not they’re aware of the origins.
I, personally, don’t believe that “lame” is necessarily a word that needs to be changed, but I do believe it’s a word with ableist origins. Like our conversation on “dumb”, IMO most people don’t think about the technical definition of “lame” anymore - but I might be wrong, or it might be regional. It’s ultimately a personal choice whether or not it feels hurtful - and obviously, if someone tells you to not use a term around them, that’s important to respect.
The key takeaway, to me, is that we should be mindful of how much ableism is normalized in our lives. I think you’re definitely doing that, based on this post. It doesn’t mean that using terms on this list is only ableist if you’re thinking negatively about disabled people when you use it; it means that we should be thoughtful with our language, but more importantly, thoughtful of how our words and actions may be reinforcing hurtful systems. To use the example from before - if someone doesn’t use the word “crazy” except when describing mentally ill people, that can speak to how they see mentally ill people as not just people who are ill, but as people who are undesirable boogeymen.
Take it on a case-by-case basis, IMO, and follow your gut if you feel shitty about certain words - better safe than sorry. But, at the end of the day, it’s just… complicated!
The dentist will probably tell you everything you need to know, but after having spoken to someone who had 3 dry sockets due to using straws after removing her wisdom teeth, it feels like the most important point to drill in.
My partner had a lot of soylent, fruit/veg juice, soup, apple sauce after the procedure. Get some ice cream or a shake (WITH A SPOON) afterwards if you’re not nauseous - you deserve a treat. Apparently the weird ice from Sonic is really good when you get a tooth out, I’ve never had it lol. Good luck on your procedure, and don’t delay it!! Just get it over with so you never have to think about it again. You’re gonna be fine 💖
These new science fiction and fantasy novels from S.L. Huang, Temi Oh, Kiersten White and others challenge our understanding of what the good life entails...
The YA series Uglies will always be one of my favorites. I remember reading it as a tween and not knowing quite how to describe it; a friend called it a dystopian novel, which is true, but… it didn’t feel quite “right”, or at least, like the complete truth. The setting is utopian, bordering on solarpunk; no more worrying about climate change or overconsumption - we’ve fixed the climate, everything we own is infinitely recyclable in minutes, nature is healing! - the only thing we need to worry about is looking good at the party. But, it turns out, living in a society where the most important thing in the world is being beautiful - even if everyone is beautiful - is maybe… not great? Almost by design?
It was written to be a critique of plastic surgery, but I think there’s so much to dig into even as an adult in 2023. It probably lit a nice rebellious fire in teenage me, questioning authority and the seemingly unquestionable rules of the world. The relationships between the characters are still fascinating to me, and I’m still mesmerized by the beautiful, terrible world they live in. Even though the writing style is very simple to be easily digestible to early readers, the ideas the book explores are as complicated as you let them be. Surveillance, nature vs. nurture, institutionalized self-hatred, autonomy, sustainability, forced metamorphosis… there’s a lot to unpack.
It’s extremely frustrating to me as a native Russian speaker (just commented about this in another thread), since Hollywood looooves Russian villains but hates hiring Russian actors. I actually could not watch later seasons of Stranger Things because of this. I’ve lived in the US my whole life and am now way more fluent in English than Russian, but chose to watch some episodes in Russian because it was way more bearable.
I believe some of it is cold war sentiment, but also, the fact that Russia has remained a political enemy of the US. I also suspect a part of it is that it’s harder to find Russian (or Russian-speaking) actors who would agree to play such dehumanizing roles, but obviously, a lot of actors don’t have the luxury of choosing. A big improvement would be to have actual Russian-speaking consultants involved in casting - which, IMO, would be good for casting any actor for a foreign-language-speaking role. It’s bizarre to me that it’s not already a bare minimum requirement for people to be fluent in the languages they’re speaking.
Totally agreed. I’m Ukrainian and nothing gets me as heated watching any movie as Russian villains (almost always played by non-Russian-speaking actors). Hollywood looooves movie villains that reflect the government’s Big Bad Wolves and it’s just disgusting to me. Beyond the obvious facts that xenophobia is bad and using the film industry to stoke the fires of the US’s international feuds is bad, it just fucking hurts the way it feels like people put on costumes to approximate my dad’s appearance and voice because it’s the most basic shorthand for “evil” they can think of.
Can we see the results of the surgery? We’re thinking about sending our little guy to the doctor (me, a hobby mender who doesn’t entirely know what she’s doing) but are worried about how intensive it might be and whether the results will be worth it. Hope your haj is doing well now 🦈
Hello, The 4 people in my family who I was considering telling my truth have previously shown acceptance of LGBTQ+ people. They are my mother, father, grandpa (mother’s side, probably the most vocal ally I know), grandma (father’s side). I recently came out to my mother. She stated that I was too young to be gay, too young...
Hot take, but you don’t actually have to come out if you don’t feel like it. Or, you can come out in another way - for example, when the time comes, be like “hey, I have a [boy/girl/whatever applicable term]friend and I want you to meet them.” If you still want to be out but don’t feel like it right now, maybe wait a little bit and then come out to the people you’re most sure will respond well.
Good luck with your journey and I hope it goes better next time. Just remember to listen to your needs and not push yourself out of any sense of obligation.
Exactly this! I pick and choose who knows based on how comfy I am around someone. Like you, I’m bi in a “straight-passing” relationship, so many people aren’t aware; my dad will probably never know unless I date a girl, or he finds out in some random way, but I just don’t really care to share that part of my life with him. The older I get, the less effort I make to keep anything a secret. But I don’t make a strong conscious effort to come out to people if I don’t feel like it.
I get what you mean, but I disagree. As a teen, I thought I had an obligation to come out to everyone, and make a whole big announcement. It was a huge relief to hear that actually, I don’t owe anyone information that would be exhausting to share and could make my life harder. It was my choice, and no one else’s, and there was no timeline I had to follow.
That’s fair. Are you in a place where everybody knows each other? If your parents aren’t really likely to hear it from anywhere else, you can also come out to other people, like at school or in your social circles, without necessarily having to come out to your family.
the details aren’t super important and i’m not going to go into particular depth here but, in summary: i am on break. the burnout is quite bad. the “avalanche analogy” is pretty apt for what i’m dealing with here....
Get some rest! Hopefully when you come back the mental load is lighter and things work out, but at the end of the day, none of this is more important than your health and well-being.
Hi all. I am an adult non-binary person. I plan on coming out to both of my parents individually soon (they are separated) and would really love to hear some stories of people who have done this before. I am in a situation where I think one parent will be accepting and one will not. Hope you are all well ♥
Not parents but I just accidentally came out as an NB person (also adult) to my brother yesterday. He had a hard time with me coming out as bi, which confused me, but it’s been nearly a decade since then. I told him I wanted to change my name and he was very confused; I mentioned I wanted something gender-neutral, and he asked if I was nonbinary.
I think he was skeptical, and surprised - he’d lived with me since I was a child, surely if I wasn’t cis, he would’ve known, right? But his partner helped him to approach it with an open mind and to be supportive. Overall, it was way easier and more inconsequential than I thought; at the same time, I’m thrilled to be able to talk about my life authentically, with him and around him, and not worry about every word.
If you want my advice on difficult conversations like this? If it’s safe, do it during a long car ride. It’s a situation where the other person really has to sit with what you’re saying and work through it. Obviously it can cut both ways - they’re stuck with you, but you’re also stuck with them - but in my experience, it’s been great.
FB now 90% ads and promos?
I still check facebook somehow (I hate it)....
Clothes Knitting Patterns for Blahaj?
Hej all! I’ve gotten into knitting lately but don’t always have ideas for what to make. My partner suggested making a little sweater or something like that for our haj son and I love it! Has anyone done something like this? I’m a total beginner so don’t know anything about making my own patterns (or reading them tbh -...
Richest 1% account for more carbon emissions than poorest 66%, report says (www.theguardian.com)
For those who have regrown bok choy from scraps in water - is it normal for parts to get mushy? Is she a lost cause? (beehaw.org)
This is my first attempt at regrowing (baby) bok choy from kitchen scraps. The growth is great but the outside is super wet and mushy. Is there any fixing this, or is this stalk a total goner?
Where To Ethically Get Clothes?
I don’t know if this topic is appropriate for this community but there is a lot of waste generated with the clothing industry so I hope it fits....
Lomi "composter" & methane emissions question
Not sure if this is the right space for this question, but gonna try anyway - please forgive me if it isn’t!...
Our son's first day at the beach!! (beehaw.org)
He had so much fun 😊
What's an equivalent replacement for the word "lame"?
I don’t know if I’m just becoming overly sensitive to my own language or if this is an actual issue, so feel free to let me know if it seems that I just need to grow thicker skin, but still....
Recommendations on getting my wisdom teeth removed
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Utopia or dystopia? In these books, it’s complicated. (wapo.st)
These new science fiction and fantasy novels from S.L. Huang, Temi Oh, Kiersten White and others challenge our understanding of what the good life entails...
(Mis)representation of language in Hollywood movies
Through the years I’ve noticed that quite a few Hollywood films play fast and loose with any other language than English....
See no evil: why have baddies vanished from our cinema screens? (www.theguardian.com)
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Blåhaj recovering from SRS (Stuffing Replacement Surgery) (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
Description: A small Blåhaj in a hospital bed. He is drinking from a glass of water on a bedside table though a straw.
CW HOMOPHOBIA: My mother said I was too young to be gay, and now I don't have the motivation to come out again.
Hello, The 4 people in my family who I was considering telling my truth have previously shown acceptance of LGBTQ+ people. They are my mother, father, grandpa (mother’s side, probably the most vocal ally I know), grandma (father’s side). I recently came out to my mother. She stated that I was too young to be gay, too young...
informal PSA: i am (and have been) on indefinite break
the details aren’t super important and i’m not going to go into particular depth here but, in summary: i am on break. the burnout is quite bad. the “avalanche analogy” is pretty apt for what i’m dealing with here....
my friend got me a blahaj
yipi :33
Coming out stories / support
Hi all. I am an adult non-binary person. I plan on coming out to both of my parents individually soon (they are separated) and would really love to hear some stories of people who have done this before. I am in a situation where I think one parent will be accepting and one will not. Hope you are all well ♥