I’ve got a good memory, but talking with my partner he will often say “I told you this before” and it’s just completely gone over my head cause I’ve been slightly distracted. I’ll be listening but things don’t seem to register and it’s worse when I’m distracted by the fact that I am having to put so much effort into listening. Edit: typo
I enjoy washing dishes, but only once I’ve started or when I don’t have to do it… So I try and trick myself into thinking I’ll just wash a few things, half-assing something is better than not doing it at all, right? I end up usually washing most or all of it anyway. I can do it scatterbrained, like wash some, dry some, put some away, wash a few more. I don’t have to focus on just washing. And I’ll sing along to the radio and look through the kitchen window and see what the dog is doing.
I also put the dish washing liquid into a pump dispenser and inside the handle of the dish sponge to make the process easier.
That’s true, best to use it in oxy-powder/stain-remover form that’s been formulated for fabrics and so you can get one for whites and one for colours. Should work for pretty much all of these stains.
I’ve heard good things about thundershirts (weighted coats to make them feel cuddled) and happy hoodies (tube hat to cover their ears). My sister tried a thundershirt for her puppy that was afraid of thunder and it helped quite a bit.
I am managing and kind of not managing really. Recently quit smoking and vaping and went off coffee so my brain has been a bit frazzled. But it’s getting back to normal.
Biggest help is working longer hours but fewer days and having my shift segmented so that I get downtime between busy hours. I do three days a week and on a workday don’t pressure myself to do any housework. On my days off I’ll catch up on sleep and housework.
I also have a diagnosis for autism so to me it seems like I can manage some symptoms of my ADHD easier thanks to ASD. But I also then seek a simple life and don’t do anything much besides work and looking after my dog and my partner. I’ll go out when I’m on holiday.
We have our arguments as well but we’ve gotten a lot better at arguing, now we can sort of pull back and express how we feel about the issue, not that the other person must be wrong for disagreeing.
And you’re right, I would’ve had a lot bigger dent on that confidence before and now instead of wallowing in it for ages I’ve grown angry cause I know I’ve not been treated right.
I’ve slowly built up confidence working with people and being more social and felt like my feelings and opinions were respected, but then had them outright ignored. I don’t know if I’m still bitter thinking that a coworker I thought of as a friend is less so a friend but at the same time it’s given me a push to apply for jobs higher up in my career since I don’t need to feel like I’m leaving my friends behind. I’ve been thinking I need another year before I’d feel confident enough to train to be a nurse rather than a carer but I might just find out if I can start sooner.
Hmm, struggling to think of the biggest positive at the moment since I’m feeling quite low. I guess the connection I have with my autistic partner feels so much more rewarding when I get misunderstood so often.
The worst part for me has to do with the combination of rejection sensitivity, the anxiety it causes and how it’s given me low confidence that I’m trying to build up. After feeling confident for quite awhile I’ve had a bit of dent on it and now it feels so much harder to get up again.
Mie ku asun ulkomailla nii varmaa laittaa juhannustoivotuksia viestillä Suomeen. Ei ny mitää erikoisempii suunnitelmii kuitenkaa. Lämmintä säätä luvannu loppuviikolle eikä töitäkää sit lauantaiaamun jälkeen nii varmaan tossa takapihalla tulee istuttua auringossa, koiraa jos veis lenkille ennenku tulee liian kuuma.
Then sometimes you just wanted to ask what something means and your partner is so used to you asking them to repeat they repeat what they said and no w everyone is confused.