today a stranger woman said to me "you're so pretty" and I'm still trying to figure out how women can say things like that in non creepy and really sweet ways
@lzg I once wondered, after the fact, if maybe I could have said to someone "I just texted my wife about how cool your outfit is." That's the closest I can think of to a workable scenario, and I still don't think I would actually do it if the opportunity came back around. The "oh now this unfamiliar man is talking to me about my appearance" barrier is very high.
@lzg Ok, a few American books that are, will, or should be classics (in chronological order):
Joseph Heller - Catch-22
Kurt Vonnegut - Slaughterhouse-Five
Ursula K. Le Guin - Always Coming Home
Barbara Kingsolver - The Poisonwood Bible
Marilynne Robinson - Gilead
@lzg I have the phrase "body autonomy is in the constitution" in my head, but, tragically, that's referring to the UN constitution in The Expanse. Not much help here and now.
@lzg This was me! Not officially, and on a small product so it was just one of many roles I filled simultaneously, but I absolutely did archeology. Every onboarding took the form of "gather round, young'uns, and I'll tell you the tale..." and most feature discussions started with some stratigraphy.
@lzg all my clothes are in compliance but we have some blankets to which I say "oh hell no" when they touch my skin, to the confusion of my non-fiber-snob family.
@lzg Don't despair, I'm sure you'll still find some wells to fall in on your way. Like how my normally-reliable Ubuntu Thinkpad went to sleep while I was reading these posts on my phone and now it won't wake up...
