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dyani, to random
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Help!

How can I explain to someone that making their webpage harder to skim, in order to force people to read it thoroughly, will have the opposite effect?

edit: trying to resist reactively replying to this person with OMG that is so ableist, please just no

edit 2: i'll reply to this with what i actually sent them

edit 3: i am now trying to find ways to make their page MORE skimmable 😈 as retaliation lol

dyani,
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@MsHearthWitch yes!! literally every human brain works this way. i am willing to bet my whole bank account that this person has had that experience online on some other website in their personal life. so idk why they think it's a good idea here. ugggh!

MsHearthWitch,
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@dyani People always think they're the exception. That the information on THEIR page is so important and special that SURELY ppl will read it carefully and thoroughly.

dyani, to random
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Maybe I would like to be the kind of person who wakes up early and does puzzmo puzzles at the kitchen table for a half hour while drinking tea 🫖

masukomi,
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@dyani I dunno if you are going out and interacting with humans in real life these days but if so, I would try and find a local tea importer and see if they have any scheduled black tea tastings. If there are local tea shops, they might have them too.

in those cases people are trying to give you high-quality stuff (because they want your future business) AND you can explain what you’re tasting & have them guide you towards something you might like. Much like a cheesemonger.

masukomi,
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@dyani re country: almost all tea comes from China or India and both countries produce excellent stuff if you’re willing to pay for it. A lot like fancy coffee.

dyani, to random
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Problem: cats walk all over my skeleton when I'm in bed

Solution: put heating pad next to me as a cat attractant, cats lay on that instead

EDIT: this also rhymes! how neat

masukomi,
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@dyani we have a heated cat/pet pad on the corner of our bedroom specifically for this reason. Alas, she ignores it from spring until early winter.

Although for reasons we can’t explain she’s been choosing to spend the night in the dog crate lately 🤔

dyani, to actuallyautistic
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Any other autistic kin struggle with speech and articulation when they were little?

I'm recording an instructional voice-over today and my mom just told me I used to have a lisp when I was little. That's news to me!

I definitely notice sludgy articulation around L and S sound as an adult. Outside of voice over recording, I could not care less about my articulation. But it is interesting!

@actuallyautistic

Mux,
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@dyani
As someone who invested a lot of time in improving their enunciation when singing, I think that's a human universal, rather than an autistic thing.

I also have a lisp, and that's probably the 'tism, but proper singing enunciation is taught in every singing or vocal class and is usually only improved with lots of practice.
@benjamincox @dave @actuallyautistic

dyani,
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@Mux

ah that's reassuring and good to know!

@benjamincox @dave @actuallyautistic

dyani, to random
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Save me! My attention-hoarding cuddly cat has developed a new annoying routine because i reinforced it only 3 different times 😩

The routine: extreme snuggling and purring and hugging at my desk for 15 minutes straight every morning when I sit down to work.

MsHearthWitch,
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@dyani I mean, this doesn't sound like the WORST, if you can like, adjust your own routine for it.

dyani, to random
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At the park today I saw another girl sitting having a snack and drink while reading on her own. But she didn't have any earbuds or headphones. And there were TWO DUELING ICE CREAM TRUCKS driving around the park. How was she coping??? 🫡

masukomi,
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@dyani allistic people are weird yo.

masukomi,
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@dyani this is the wisdom

dyani, to random
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I am feeling stronger as a person, from this whole divorce thing.

But it's because I have lifted a very heavy weight of grief and pain, and I'm still lifting it.

It's a very weird feeling to feel strong and sad at the same time.

MsHearthWitch,
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@dyani When I look at my life I frequently view my strength with both sadness and regret.

Like, I'm glad I was strong. I wish to FUCK I hadn't had to be.

dyani,
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@MsHearthWitch yeah! I think that's why I have been angry. Because he caused a harmful situation in which I had to become this way, with no choice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

dyani, to random
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Is there a website where I can see which shows are streaming in which countries on which platforms?! So I can know what to switch my VPN to?

dyani, to random
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In light of covid, I wish my city (or any city really) had outdoor event spaces for medium-big sized cons. With built-in shade, pre-planned layouts with trash cans, maybe some counter tops, maybe half walls to create rows, drinking fountains, bathrooms, electrical outlets, etc.

Not just a big park where they shove a bunch of tents!

MsHearthWitch,
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@dyani Oh that would be a DREAM.

dyani, to macos
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Best free screenshot and annotation tool for mac?? I need text, shapes, drawing, arrows, etc.

It's time for an upgrade or at least a jailbreak from this shitty old paid Snaggit software I'm using.

snaptophobic,
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@dyani

It can be a bit clumsy, but you can copy/paste and duplicate objects.

Of course, another option with a bit more finesse might be Pages.

ramsey,
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@dyani @sindarina I use the built-in macOS screenshot and annotation tools. They provide everything you’ve listed. Shift+Cmd+5

dyani, to random
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Having a rough body pain day.

I realized in a moment of crisis that I have no ice packs. So now... I am holding a tube of frozen meat to my neck. This is my life now.

dyani,
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@MsHearthWitch OHHH that's even better!! i am upgrading my dream to that!

MsHearthWitch,
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@dyani I had a regular hot tub when I was growing up and I miss it SO much. Really really nice for the back. And in the summer we'd kill the heat and just have a nice jet room-temp tub.

dyani, to random
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I am absolutely savoring the last few cold weather days. Opening all the windows to make it as cold as possible inside, putting on my comfy sweatshirt and leggings, making hot tea. I don't want it to end 😭

jtheseamstress,
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@MsHearthWitch @dyani 🤝 I hate summer, too 😭 It last used to be okay and tolerable like, 20-25+ years ago? Now, I'm just feeling more miserable every year. Also reverse SAD?? Is this a thing?? Because d*mn yeah. I feel best in colder weather, and I don't even mind the darkness so much these days. Autumn can't come soon enough 😭

MsHearthWitch,
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@jtheseamstress @dyani Oh reverse SAD is definitely a thing. I mean the core of it is that some seasons can exacerbate depression.

Well, summer and all the things that come along with it make my depression worse.

I agree, summer used to be less crummy. But as it gets hotter and hotter, and the smoke from the wildfires here too... it's just shit now.

dyani, to random
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Unfold, always

dyani, to pixelart
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dyani,
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@pixel highly recommend having little people! i take them out in public and leave them in funny places in restaurants and such

pixel,
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@dyani just ordered some 1:100 scale ones. this will be fun.

dyani, to actuallyautistic
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I can tell when I need to lower the volume of something I'm listening to when I feel a kind of tightening in my ear muscles, and/or ringing in my ears, or a slight feeling of stress coming in from my environment.

I also just try to remember to always proactively lower the volume a couple ticks from what i first set it at, to prevent all those sensations.

What are the signs for you that things are a little too loud?

@actuallyautistic
#actuallyAutistic

dyani,
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@Thebratdragon @dave @actuallyautistic wow that's so smart!!

Thebratdragon,
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@dyani @dave @actuallyautistic a good example of working smart to me.

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