WrenArcher

AppleFanboy, 2 months ago to random

Powerful ad from the Biden-Harris campaign...#BidenHarris

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wInNjr_9D28

DivineKestrel, 2 months ago to random

Goddess! Who knew "the right lipstick" would be the difference between "I hate my face!" and "Bow before me!"

WrenArcher, 2 months ago to trans

#USPol #Trans

Carolina #Gamecocks coach #DawnStaley was ambushed by a conservative content creator with the question "Do you think transgender women should be able to participate in women's basketball.", yet Freedom Caucus reps says she's pushing a left wing agenda.

Fuck you Freedom Caucus. You wouldn't know freedom if it bit you in the ass. She was asked the question at a presser and she answered. Sorry her answer wasn't to your liking. Not sorry!

And now... I'm gonna buy a Carolina Gamecocks shirt just because of her allyship.

Plus I like saying "Gamecock" too.
#GirlsWithOutiesGiveGirlsWithInniesLife

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_ixLeJxP08

DivineKestrel, 2 months ago to random

Fuck, I love being a girl!!

18+ WrenArcher, 2 months ago to random

CW: direct eye contact, mention of gender dysphoria
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Yesterday I worked in the bathroom some more. Was able to pull out the damaged drywall and cut the area into a nice clean measurement for replacing the new stuff today.

(See pic 1)

Today… I’m back in a t-shirt and ball cap to work on it some more. But fahhhhck… this dysphoria feeling sucks!

I can’t explain it. Don’t know why it’s hit me so hard recently when it’s barely registered in the past and I can’t seem to shake it. But I’m certain I got clocked by several people when I went to grab something to eat before working on the bathroom again.

So yeah… that doesn’t fucking help the gender incongruence people!
Alright back to working on drywall.

a trans girl sitting in her car. The expression on her face is one of questioning why she still is getting negative attention and smirks from the cis people

tayfonay, 2 months ago to random

Do you have people in your life, like friends or family members, who send you pictures of their friends - people you don't know engaged in some activity or on a trip somewhere? Like, you've never met them.

WrenArcher, 2 months ago to random

I mean I get it. There was an earthquake in Jersey and then the eclipse is coming but is it really the end times?

Is it? Is it.
We're not even having human sacrifices yet. Are we?

checks Fox News to see if there is a headline of transes doing human sacrifice

Yep. No human sacrifices....
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yet. 😜

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msquebanh, 2 months ago to random

Now, in waiting room & waiting for dentist.

#AsianMastodon #VictoriaBC #SpringInYYJ #Selfie #CherryBlossoms

Cherry blossom tree & walkway to dentist office.

18+ WrenArcher, 2 months ago to random

I rarely, if ever have talked here about gender harmonizing surgery I want/need.

Weird little factoid... when I started transitioning almost four years ago, I didn't think I'd get or want ANY surgery as part of transition. But lately I've been feeling the gender incongruence — and pretty damn hard. In fact, I've been feeling like shit about myself the past few months to be honest.

I've been trying to push through though with the philosophy of "fake it till you make it" but I'm not sure that's really working because I still feel like shit. Even resorted to screenshot myself in a tik tok filter... muhhhh stake.

sigh
That dysphoria is some weird stuff.
It has started to manifest more the longer I'm on hormone therapy and in different ways than it did at first. When I started transition I felt like I had little to no dysphoria at all. The only dysphoria I now know I had was around my personal scent; you know, my body chemistry... or as I often call it, my boy-smell. Hormone therapy took that away though, so yay! But yeah, I was one of those rare trans peeps who had almost non-existent dysphoria. I transitioned toward gender euphoria instead of away from gender dysphoria.

Things have changed on that front though. So I'm looking into getting consults for surgeries. It's not going well... insurance doesn't cover or out of network and/or other stuff. It won't happen this year but crossing my fingers I can do it next year because this feeling that I still look like a dude really, really sucks. And when I go in for a facial feminization consult, I'm gonna show the doc this photo of Florence Pugh and say "how close can we get to this."

RickiTarr, 2 months ago to random

I don't get the genre of T-shirts and bumper stickers that are Wives proud of their husband's jobs.

RickiTarr, 2 months ago to random

Tell me a silly/funny childhood story!

I'll start:

One time in Sunday School, the teacher was talking about the difference between humans and animals, and mentioned that Animals had Tails and humans didn't. I let her know this was not true, because my Dad had a tail, just in the front, instead of the back. The teacher was silent for several seconds, and tried to correct me in a church appropriate way, but I doubled down, and insisted that my little brothers also had front tails too. This got so heated that the teacher had to go get my parents to take me out of Sunday School.

WrenArcher, 2 months ago to random

Easter Sunday and #TransDayOfVisibility on the same day?

This seems rather appropriate.

#TDoV #LoveThyNeighbor #Easter

Skepticat, 2 months ago to random

Thought I saw Jesus in my fancy coffee foam this morning, then it morphed into Meryl Streep.
She is so versatile.

flexghost, 2 months ago to random

** IT’S HERE! FRIDAY NIGHT MUSIC THREAD ON #MastodonMusic **

Tonight’s theme is:

🎤🎧✩°｡ KARAOKE NIGHT! ⋆⸜🎶🧑‍🎤🎼♪♪

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🎵 Post the best songs for Karaoke along with what you’re drinking 🎶
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Sometime, anytime, sugar me sweet
Little miss innocent sugar me
Take a bottle, shake it up
Break the bubble, break it up
Pour some sugar on maaaaay!

🍷 Pour Some Sugar on Me - Def Leppard + G’n’T🍸

Post often • share • make some friends

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Waitnwallflower, 2 months ago to random

My mom told me I was a great catch

🙄
🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️
#ReasonsIAmSingle
#StillSingle

WrenArcher, 2 months ago to Woman

My friend Wallflower wore a dress to work today.
She doesn’t wear dresses…

like,

ever.

But she found a dress of hers she wore in her late teens early 20s, it survived the wash and it actually still fits. And she decided she wanted to wear it.

Yeah. Let that soak in y’all. Wallflower is a beast. A dress from 30yrs ago still fits her.

Earlier today, I asked her how it was going at work… you know, to ask what the reception was like of people seeing her in a dress. Her response was awesome. Something to the effect of “no one has said anything. I think they’re scared of me.”

That got me to thinking… what kind of energy is she giving off today compared to her already “get shit done” attitude she has at work. Like is it (n x 3) where n=her typical energy? You know is it like “don’t mess with me today cuz I am feelin’ this dress, these combat boots and I will cut you” type of energy.

So, yeah. To see a #woman feel more confident than normal and in a dress?… friggin’ awesome. So cool to see her just exude it, like confidence is flowing out of her pores and you can taste it in the air as she runway-walks past you. In doing so, confidence is spilling over onto the floor, even when she’s dropped some of her armor and is showing her softer side… when she shows a more feminine aspect of who she is. I wanna be like that!

sigh
So many of the women i’ve met here, cis and trans, are so damn strong. They are so bad ass, intelligent, articulate, funny, witty and yes… gorgeous as well. And if you’re wondering who those women are I’m talking about…

You. I’m talking about you. Yes, you, girlfriend who is reading this.

I feel really fortunate to have met these women and have then welcome me into the sorority of women. I guess this post is rather apropos as we near the end of #WomensHistoryMonth.

Y’all are so damn awesome.
Thanks for the lesson @Waitnwallflower
You’re a bad ass.

oldladyplays, 2 months ago to random

Got a hard physical day today. Had a two and a half hour education session this morning, which went well but was tiring, and this afternoon I have an in-person two-hour meeting across town. So I have to take a cab to get there, spend two hours, then another cab to get home (thankfully someone else is paying for the cabs). So I'll be busy from 16h to 19h with my "two-hour" meeting. All in all, it amounts to six hours of working today, half of it paid.

That's too many hours in a single day for me. I'm going through CBD gummies like a woodpecker through soft pine.

It's days like these that I really feel the being disabled thing. It's humbling knowing that a six-hour day can lay me out, when most of my friends can work an eight-hour day, day after day.

So yeah, that's my day. Class this morning was excellent - it's our third-level class, so it's for the people who've already done the basics, and are talking about some of the advanced topics: polyamoury, drag, the AIDS crisis, conversion therapy, trans health care, and so on.

This class was engaged and interested, had lots of good questions, and spontaneously and voluntarily put together a reflections session for themselves after we left. A real pleasure to teach.

RickiTarr, 2 months ago to random

I'm not here to yuck anyone's yum. I fully support whatever two consenting adults want to do, but please don't rub your vanilla heterosexual sex in my face.

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portugeek, 2 months ago to random

I have been silent the last few days here, because the last few days have been intense, and what lies ahead will only be more so. Friday was a massive milestone: it was the last day of my probation period at my job. One of the main reasons for me to still be in the closet was the fact that I was terrified of coming out during this period, where it would be much easier for any company to ditch me without justification. It doesn't mean I can't be fired now, but it needs to have a proper reason behind it. So, that was a big moment to overcome. On Friday afternoon, I sent an email to HR's diversity and inclusion officer, but she was out of office, so I will probably hear back from her tomorrow.

On Saturday, I got the keys to my new place. I spent most of the day hopping from store to store, looking for kitchen supplies and all the little things that you never realise you need until the moment they are missing. Today, I cleaned the new place up (the previous tenants left it in less-than-stellar conditions) and started organising the stuff I have already bought.

And over the next 2 weeks, this is only going to ramp up. On Wednesday I will come out to my boss. On Friday, I will get a bunch of the big items in the new place: furniture, TV, washing machine, the first groceries batch. Over the weekend, I will start assembling the furniture, moving my clothes, all my tech stuff, my books. The following Wednesday I will come out to my team. And on Thursday I will move the last of my stuff over.

Most importantly, today we told the 6-year-old we are divorcing. I had been dreading this moment for so long. He has a bit of an anger management problem, and can be really hard to read. Sometimes the most meaningless of things can trigger him into a rage. We didn't want to tell him that my transition was the reason for the divorce precisely because of this; since he has accepted my transition so well, we didn't want him to react badly to it now that it was so close.

Overall, it went well. He cried, and we with him, and we hugged a lot, but after half an hour he was already excited about having a new room. "Can I have toys there?" The kids came along today to see the new place and he seemed genuinely happy about it. I know kids tend to be more adaptive and resilient than we think, but even so it was surprising to see him settle so quickly. I would imagine there will be issues at some point, but for now I am happy at where we are. That was one hell of a big box to tick. Just keep swimming…