"Don't look back, that's not where you're going" is a great rational advice.
But the grief over lost time is an emotional thing for late transitioners. Logic does not cure emotions.
But personally I don't see all these years as lost time as much as I don't feel like being "born in the wrong body".
I got an opportunity only few people get: to experience the "other gender" from the inside. Not because I was a man, I've never been one and never felt like it. But because I was an explorer, disguised as a man, so I was able to see how men communicate with and act towards other (alleged) men.
And I can tell you, it's wild. It does not make sense to me how much energy, resources and emotions men put in pretending to be as high as possible on an imaginary hierarchy.
The men who taught me about a non toxic masculinity? Trans men. The self-reflection and consideration trans men put in creating their own way to be a man is incredible. 💕
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