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CharlotteEowyn

@CharlotteEowyn@chaosfem.tw

Trans woman, 41, HRT: 3/31/2022. Physics degree I don't use. Enjoy Tabletop, reading (everything), I'm autistic, live in NW PA. I don't know many other trans people. Happily married. Maybe Bi, definitely demi.

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JoscelynTransient, to trans
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Something i'm pondering today: are there any popular or mainstream-ish TV shows or hollywood movies depicting a t4t couple? Are there any that even show a queer romance between a trans person and a cis person? Are there any that show trans women as capable of being dated and loved in long-term relationships as themselves?

I'll admit, I am unaware of a single t4t couple in mainstream entertainment media (maybe there's like a single episode sidestory somewhere?). That might have more to do with me not watching that many new shows and movies though, not sure.

In terms of trans characters being dated and loved as themselves, i think all of those are in queer-centered media like the L Word, Pose, and Transparent, i'm guessing? (Also haven't watched those shows because i'm a bad queer 😅) but a mainstream show? Definitely can't name one, especially where a transfem or trans woman is seen as having a long-term relationship as herself.

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient @RoseRaven the mythical transfem top lol

Also I read that devil emoji as a meow for some reason....

CharlotteEowyn, to random
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Funny how trans women are expected to routinely shrug off shit that would be blatantly sexual harassment if it was done to any other group.

This occurred to me when I went to get dinner from a pizza place earlier (I didn't buy pizza but did buy several other things) - and realized that, though they don't play music in there, the past several times in a row when I walked in, the prep employees vanished and 'DUDE LOOKS LIKE A LADY' started blaring at max volume.

And because I'd already paid when this happened, and wanted my food and didn't want a confrontation, I casually said "funny how this song seems to play everytime I walk in there" and the cashier stuttered and kinda shrugged that he didn't notice what was playing.

And when I went back in to get my food, it was only half-prepared (like not in big enough ways I could raise a fuss; but some of it wasn't cut, and the salad wasn't prepared properly or the way they usually do) and no music was playing.

CharlotteEowyn,
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And like I'm supposed to shrug that off. And I'm supposed to shrug off, at work, continued blatant harassment, including targeted harassment.

And its interesting because like...nothing like this would ever happen if I was a man. I know that from when I presented as one. They may feel however they feel about me, but they all treat me the way misogynists treat women.

And at the same time I have INCREDIBLE self esteem issues. I feel like I'm ugly, like I'm a monster, like my transition has failed, like I'm lonely and can't make friends.

And how much of that is me or my trauma, and how much of that is the constant, neverending, ceaseless harassment?

JoscelynTransient, to random
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So, i did a thing....and I feel very cute!

Photo of me smiling with my new haircut. An undercut pokes out from the shorter side of the asymmetrical shag bob hairstyle

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient because you are very cute :)

CharlotteEowyn, to random
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I have an autistic nephew, and I just found out that apparently he's not allowed to own or use any computing devices "in case he ends up like <deadname>".

I. Hate. The. Cis.

CharlotteEowyn,
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@cohomologyisFUN

Afaik:

Indefinitely. They are homeschooling him too.

JoscelynTransient, to TransJoy
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I...um...I just got a mother's day card from my adopted nephew? 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🥰🥰🥰🥰😭😭🥰😭🥰😭

I never even conceived i could ever receive a mother's day card...I just...i'm crying again 🥹😭

A purple greeting card that says "you're loved" on the front.

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient awwwwwww! That's ...your heart must be so full.

JoscelynTransient, to TransJoy
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Unrelated to anything else going on in the fediverse today....i feel kinda like a freaking babe today

#TransJoy

Photo of me in a proper bisexual sprawl, completely unaware of how to properly sit in a chair
A selfie of me looking downward at the camera in a blue ribbed tanktop, curves and tattoos wonderfully visible

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient because you ARE a goddamn babe

CharlotteEowyn, to random
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Someone needs to write a queer novel about some Isekai'd closeted trans girl who ends up in a polycule with a vampire, a werewolf and a dryad.

Just sayin'

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CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient omfg

Y E S

JoscelynTransient, to queer
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Warning to all: I am a bicanthrope. Yes, my bisexuality is a phase...like the moon. I become horny for plethoras of genders as the full moon waxes and will randomly thirst over thembos, hunks, and adorable dudes that I was nonplussed about the week before.

BEWARE: If I bite you, you too will become cursed with bicanthropy and become a libidinous disaster. I suggest polyamory and attending an orgy or two. 😉​

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient omg I was bit

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient um

Yes please

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient @peachfiend

I'm getting faint just reading this

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient yes werewolves are definitely poly

CharlotteEowyn, to random
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This might be a controversial hot take but, when I say I'm bi, it is honestly 100% not in any way shape or form about cis men. There are a lot of genders out there, there are people who are gender fluid, nonbinary (which is a spectrum, but also NOT man lite or woman lite) there are dual gendered people and agendered people and third genders from across the world.

And like I did have a point where I was like "could I occasionally be bi for like, a day a month" and a point where I was like "I would definitely stay with someone who turned out to be a transmasc, because more authenticity always increases hotness," or like, date a he/him lesbian.

And eventually I realized that I didn't really care how I thought about cis men. And I didn't think that sexuality needed to center them. And while I spent all this time thinking about if X was possible or Y was possible, or who I maybe liked once....

And I was ignoring that I've already had attraction to a nonbinary person who isn't a woman.

CharlotteEowyn,
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So like I was hesitant because people ANGRILY debate this. With vitriol. Especially on Reddit but everywhere there's queer community.

But at the end of the day, if I've always only thought women were hot, and now I also think enbys and a variety of genderqueers are hot, to me that feels new, and I don't think I need to center cis men in how I approach sexuality.

I'm primarily emotionally perceiving attraction anyways? So like I don't even need to really center what one temporarily looks like, I don't care. Change happens. Health is temporary. Gender shifts. Weight comes and goes.

I'm just me.

CharlotteEowyn,
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@Impossible_PhD I dunno but I've seen reddit flame wars.

CharlotteEowyn,
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@Impossible_PhD I wish I could bake you cookies.

CharlotteEowyn,
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@Impossible_PhD God I need to move and get that.

Anyways I probably should have asked you like, literally a year ago but your always busy and do so much emotional work for the community I didn't want to bother you. I only started hesitantly asking bi people a week or so ago, but got a um.... range of definitions in response.

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient omfg yes

CharlotteEowyn,
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@JoscelynTransient

My wife was like "your having trouble with this because it changes you know" lololol

CharlotteEowyn, to random
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Also,😎😅😬😮😱 .... apparently I'm bi. That's a mind fuck. I strongly prefer women and enbys though, and like different genders in different queer ways....but ... apparently I am bi. Still kinda.... processing my feelings on that. Still demi though, which made it hard to figure out.

.....might not be demi for enbys sometimes though. Omg this stuff is going to take my entire life to figure out roflol omg.

video/mp4

CharlotteEowyn, to random
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CharlotteEowyn,
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I'm kinda tempted to get this as my first tattoo, but I'm not sure how I'd have it look.

CharlotteEowyn, to random
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What I got from this week's Stained Glass Woman, by @Impossible_PhD

Part 1/???

CharlotteEowyn,
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Why the HELL am I concerned with whats too much for an area filled with people who want to unalive me? This is a 94% trump area. (I think it actually dropped to like 70-something in 2020, but whatever.) I'm ALWAYS too much, there is never a flattened, thin, normal, vanilla, pretty version of me that will be ONE IOTA more accepted then whatever the hell I want to present as.

  1. We need to stop politely asking they leave us alone, we need to demand that every single fucking one of us get whats 'good enough' for EVERY LAST ONE OF US. When facist antiabortionists and facist racists look at us and together see us as a threat to what they believe in, they are relying on a centuries-old formulae that says they are right.

Good. They should be afraid.

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