Dani

DivineKestrel, 18 days ago to random

It is so wild when you think "everyone sees me as a man" just because people are constantly deferring to you.

…then you realize oh, no, seriously nobody sees me that way in this sundress. I'm the hot older chic without fucks they are afraid of.

Dani, 19 days ago to random

Happy Saturday! Quiet one here; a little yard work, making some things, etc.

DivineKestrel, 19 days ago to random

Braless in an underbust corset to go grocery shopping and I legit feel like a fucking warrior queen.

terraboops, 19 days ago to random

also just going to drop this here
https://www.forbes.com/sites/michelleking/2023/08/02/whats-really-holding-women-back-at-work/

"research finds managers prioritize kindness more when giving feedback to women than to men, which reduces the usefulness of the feedback provided.

Women are more likely to receive inflated and less actionable feedback than men, which can limit women's development and effectiveness at work."

oldladyplays, 20 days ago to random

One thing transition brought me was relief from the rage. I often wonder how many of you had this too. In part, this is because in the fight/flight/et c. response, I'm pretty much always ready for the fight. Or I was.

I once had a car cut across four lanes to cut me off so he could turn left off the one-way street at the next light. I honked, he flipped me off. When he pulled up at the light, I bumped his car. Just a little. Not enough to set off airbags. Just a wee tappy-tap.

That one cost me CAD500 to square away.

Cut to five years later, post-transition, I'm in a gas station in downtown Toronto. We pulled up behind someone and started working the pump. The person in front drove off.

Someone pulled up behind us and honked that we should get out of the way, and go use the other pump. We waved them around. They declined, with a prominent showing of middle fingers to accompany it. My two friends, a lesbian couple, both got out of their front seats to challenge these other women to a fight. I jumped out even quicker, and got my biggest-body-on-the-site between the two groups, arms out. And they start trying to take pokes at each other, around me. I'm blocking these. They all got frustrated, but I stayed there until everyone calmed down and got back in their cars. I finished pumping the gas, went to pay, and we drove off.

What happened between incident A and incident B? Estrogen, baby. I had transitioned, and finally gotten on hormones. And when I did, the rage just...floated away like a soap bubble on the breeze. Pop! I had lived with that rage, I hadn't realized, for all the previous 27 years of my life.

And transition made it go "poof".

I thought that was all of it. I would still get angry occasionally, but the daily undercurrent of rage at the world that I'd felt since I realised I was a girl at 4...that went.

Then I had my bottom surgery. And found out what a life without T would be like. I lost almost all aggression. The rage fuel tank was empty.

thejessiekirk, 20 days ago to random

I wonder if John Cleese has realised he's become the very person the old Fawlty Towers was satirising?

Impossible_PhD, 20 days ago to random

I was seasoning my new corset today and accidentally created A Look that I will ABSOLUTELY be reproducing.

Dani, 20 days ago to random

Oh yeah, 2 years hrt today!

Dani, 21 days ago to random

A very unassuming and non-suspicious work selfie. 🤭

Reborn_Cat_Mom, 21 days ago to random

That lovely feeling when one is asked to attend a dinner/gala on behalf of a organization due to the work one does for LGBTQ+ in a certain capacity, then to be uninvited so those who are not members of the community can attend to make themselves feel good, and not be told one was uninvited until one asked when details / ticket was being provided 🫠

And event is in less than 2 weeks, hair appointment made, and one has connections to other orgs attending.

terraboops, 21 days ago to random

good morning fedi folk 😚

DivineKestrel, 21 days ago to random

All right, lesbians I'm gonna need y'all to start coming out of the woodwork and hitting on me more than the dudes are please

DivineKestrel, 21 days ago to random

Breaking: Trans woman buys collar and after a minor amount of hyperventilation, enters restaurant.

terraboops, 22 days ago to random

new followers are probably all "oh i shouldn't like her followers only titty pic she posted a while ago that would be creepy" - but like, why do you think i posted a titty pic?

Dani, 22 days ago to random

Went to bed at 9 last night as a kind of extreme "I'm tired what if I actually got more sleep?" experiment.

Holy hell. How much of what's been wrong with my thinking has just been that?

Like I don't think that fixes everything but wow.

Impossible_PhD, 28 days ago to random

Okay, so, odd question:

I've been struggle-bussing a bit over the last few days about struggling to find a home for my novel, and a lot of people have expressed interest. Obviously, since I'm trying to publish it, I can't share.

I started a different novel shortly after finishing it. About 10,000 words done, but shelved indefinitely because I've got SGW and other stuff to write. I like it a lot, but I don't and won't have time in the foreseeable future to keep working on it.

So... Wanna read?