Dremmwel

Dremmwel, 6 months ago

@hermod Hubert Reeves a fait de très bons livres de vulgarisation.
Dont "l'Univers expliqué à mes petits-enfants"

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@miaoue @apodoxus @actuallyautistic I think the point 1 is the most difficult for me. Hidden goals is basically smth I struggle to understand.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic I fear bed bugs so I freeze all my stuff when coming back home, and have a shower 😅 I convinced myself it's efficient, so the anxiety is reduced...

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic I'm a total control freak, so I understand your difficulties. Sorry not to be of better help !

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@nddev @actuallyautistic I think I understand but I still can't see how to do the difference IRL 😅
Each time I face this kind of question (especially at work), I find myself in trouble, trying to decide if it's an order or not, if I'm allowed to give my opinion or not. I struggle to understand why ppl don't say things the direct way. "I'd like you to do that" would be a bit clearer while still polite.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@caocancio @actuallyautistic I understand your point and agree. Idk if I'm clear enough however. What I meant was that answering "no" in an order disguised in a question isn't only a problem of upsetting a person: I feel it as a problem of deep misunderstanding of some kind of basic social behavior. Just as if I was, idk, putting my feet on my chief's desk. Sometimes I feel dumb in these moments, as if I missed smth very obvious, but I still can't make the difference between question and order.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@nddev @actuallyautistic I'm not sure it would be the same if written :) I think it's easier for me to deal with such questions by mail. Maybe because ppl are more direct.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@nddev @actuallyautistic thanks.
People at work don't know I'm ND. First because I had my diagnosis a few months ago. Second because I don't feel safe to explain all of that for the moment. I know I will need to, but I don't feel ready for it now.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd I suppose we can say that for every group of ppl sharing a common innate trait. I see no reasons why there would not be assholes among, idk, women / brown-haired people / elderly / autists.
We only share a common trait, we don't choose "the autistic cause" as if it was some kind of political or cultural gathering. Solidarity with other autistic ppl is an effort to be chosen, it's not mandatory by the nature of being autistic.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago (edited 7 months ago)

@Susan60 @servelan @LilyoftheRally @omegahaxors @DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd I agree with Susan. If everyone using the term Asperger (which is also not medically correct), use Weleda cosmetics, bring their child to a Steiner school or drive a Volkswagen are Nazis, well, I think I am surrounded by fascists 😅 Sadly, we are all, more and more, but most of them aren't of the "Asperger-using" type.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Dr_Obvious @Susan60 @servelan @LilyoftheRally @omegahaxors @DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd yes, ok for the Steiner example, which was a bit extreme. But others like Weleda lab hide cautiously their right-bullshit philosophy base. Other Nazi had a high success (Bayer...), bc there was a time where it was better to have a friendly Nazi neighbour than a communist (from a US point of view). Western Germany came back in the economy game based on this.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Dr_Obvious @Susan60 @servelan @LilyoftheRally @omegahaxors @DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd so my point about the "Asperger problem" is mostly that his descriptions aren't accurate and shouldn't be used nowadays, whether he was a Nazi or not ;)

Dremmwel, 7 months ago (edited 7 months ago)

@Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic well that's a pretty upsetting point of view.
It is known that genetic factors or environmental exposures etc can predispose (or cause) autism, ADHD and neurodivergence in general (or cognitive disabilities, epilepsy...). All these are a sort of spectrum and indeed most of them don't leave "traces" on brain imagery.
And disparition of symptoms means you learnt to adapt, not that they just vanished in a snap.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic I unfortunately don't understand German well, so I base my thoughts only on your summary. But if this guy said such things, obviously he doesn't know anything about neurodevelopment.
It's different to discuss the criteria for diagnosis (how to diagnose everyone without excess but without missing mild patients is the challenge for every medical test).

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic ok maybe I miss the message since I don't understand German. But I think autism is something you can learn to deal with, at least partly, but not cure. It seems dangerous to me to say you can cure autism, bc it would lead to "if you are autist, it means you refuse the cure". Except if we have scientific evidence to prove autism can be cured, and I don't think it's the case, but I may be wrong :)

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic it reminds me of this horse in the 19th century that was famous bc it was able to count. In fact, it was reacting to subtle signs of its owner and couldn't count at all.
So yes, some tests can be cheated. Thus succeeding in fulfilling a test doesn't mean everytime that you're not sick, just you can control or hide symptoms.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic to me, I understand proverbs, and I don't have trouble using them sometimes, as I found them a funny way to express a "boring" concept, or a concept I struggle to explain easily.
My favorites (literal translation from French or Breton):
"It's the tree that hide the forest" (there's smth worse behind this act)
"The one who steals and egg steals an ox" (small crimes lead to bigger ones)
"Don't sell the egg in the hen's ass" (do things step by step, no hurry)

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@dlb @Neko0001 les Hobbits ont tout compris, eux.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@dlb @bortzmeyer @Neko0001 je crois pas que le pb ce soit "les occidentaux" mais "l'idéologie". Tu files l'idéologie du profit et de la croissance à n'importe qui et tu obtiendras le même résultat.
La plupart des peuples sont ou ont été convaincus d'être meilleurs que les autres : mon ami imaginaire est le meilleur et je vais vous buter bande d'infidèles. Le monde musulman par ex a bien failli renverser la donne en Europe autrefois.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@dlb @bortzmeyer @Neko0001 s'ils avaient réussi, je vois pas de raison particulière justifiant qu'ils n'auraient pas fini dans la situation actuelle de l'Occident.
N'importe qui convaincu de sa supériorité et de la nécessité de la croissance et de l'enrichissement finira à jouer au con si tu lui offres nos technos.
Peut-être que le Japon aurait dominé la carte mondiale si son élan impérialiste avait eu 2 ou 3 siècles d'avance.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Neko0001 @dlb @bortzmeyer je l'ai lu :)
Ce que je veux dire, c'est que pour moi, il n'y a pas des gens meilleurs que les autres. Si on file une idéologie à la con à qqn et qu'il obtient certains moyens, ça finira mal, qu'il soit Anglais, Iranien ou Chinois. Il y a peut-être certaines cultures qui seraient facilitatrices et d'autres un frein à ce que ça parte en cacahuète, mais ça finira mal à la fin de l'histoire quand même je pense.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Neko0001 @dlb @bortzmeyer oui.
Mais on peut imaginer que la même idéologie ou une autre tout aussi délétère aurait pu naître ailleurs et avoir les mêmes conséquences, mais avec un autre peuple dominant. Il y a une certaine participation du hasard là dedans.
Voir "Chronique des années noires" de Kim S. Robinson, une uchronie sur 800 ans partant du postulat que l'Occident s'est effondré après la peste noire, le monde se divisant entre Chine, Islam et Confédération amérindienne.

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@Gala le jdr, cette valeur sûre

Dremmwel, 7 months ago

@shaanxilithes @MadameMollette en 69, la corne doit passer sous la queue à l'aise.
Et puis comme ça le dragon peut sucer la licorne en même temps.