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Dremmwel

@Dremmwel@mamot.fr

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Génétique, jeux de rôle, breton et nature.
Plouque en devenir.
Navigue à vue sous pavillon neuroA.

Human health, genetics, roleplay, nature.
AuDHD.
Languages : French, brezhoneg, English

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independentpen, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic A lot of people on here talk about meltdowns as a regular, visible thing. I know we're all different, but this is so far from my experience I started feeling a little impostery. I have had melts before, ie I've completely lost control and either: fled to save myself and others from me, or sort of left my body like a blackout (while still walking/talking) ... 1/

Dremmwel,
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@independentpen @actuallyautistic I suppose I had meltdowns when I was a young child, preschool I think. Now I turned to be a control-freak so it seems that my emotions and mind are living a sort of divorce with my body as a mediator. I don't have meltdowns anymore and I can often handle stressful situations until I reach a point of anxiety so strong that my body explains to me I'm in fact in full anxiety mod through various physical symptoms.

Uair, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

Hey, i asked this the other day, but in a confusing manner. I've condensed it, and think it's really worth asking.

We can describe autism in a freudian manner. Autists are stuck in our superego.

So who are our opposites? What's the diagnosis for purely social people who are pathologically stuck in their ego?

Anyone know?

Dremmwel,
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@Uair @actuallyautistic I'm not sure Freud has anything to say about autism, and, in general, about any ND phenomenon. His manner of exploring psychologic functioning was novel and interesting at that time and opened a wide new window, but his conclusions are now out of date.

Dremmwel,
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@Uair @actuallyautistic
Well, using common vocabulary is great, using common accurate vocabulary is even better. We can use archeocortex, paleocortex and neocortex and all these neuronal circuits well described now instead of inadequate terminology.
Using freudian theory to explain autism led to rejecting the 'autism fault' on mothers until the 2000's (still the 'ol' time manner'?), and awful treatments on children, including taking them away from their parents.
https://embryo.asu.edu/pages/early-infantile-autism-and-refrigerator-mother-theory-1943-1970

Dremmwel,
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@Uair @actuallyautistic nothing good came from freudian theories for autistic ppl. Freud was obsessed with sex (and we can find famous 19th century ppl who aren't that strong, it's not a "matter of time") and most of his demonstrations were turned against women. And even if his theories could have been accurate with his century's mood, lots of medics until the late 1980's still applied absurdly his theories, against all scientific proofs.
So please, no Freud in autism.

MadameMollette, to random French
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Chacun lutte à sa façon

Photo à l'intérieur du musée avec deux photos de tirailleurs je crois

Dremmwel, (edited )
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@oschwand @MadameMollette

  1. une personne blanche n'est pas nécessairement une "française de souche" et peut être une personne immigrée
  2. les deux photos présentées par le musée sont pas vraiment des portraits de personnes blanches
  3. vu le nombre de Blancs en France, il est statistiquement très probable que 10 personnes random sur une photo soient blanches
  4. la plupart des personnes qui bitchent sur l'immigration sont blanches et donc c'est elles qui ont aussi besoin de ce tour au musée
Dremmwel, to random French
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Je quitte mon appart fin janvier, si ça intéresse qqn.
T1 (1 chb séparée) de 48m2, balcon, 1er étage avec ascenseur, place de parking couvert. Immeuble calme, récent, très bien isolé (peu de dépenses de chauffage). Chaudière gaz.
Quartier Bourg-Léveque.
Attention : aucun aménagement de cuisine (juste un évier).
Location via agence Square Habitat.
Loyer : un peu + de 600€ charges incluses.

poloniousmonk, to actuallyautistic

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Q: Would you want to be famous?

Dremmwel,
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@poloniousmonk @actuallyautistic no
Fame is meaningless

Dremmwel,
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@AlejandroP @poloniousmonk @actuallyautistic
No, fame is meaningless.

Fame is suitable for ideas, arts, facts. Not really for people.

Neko0001, to random French
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    Dremmwel,
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    @Neko0001 super nouvelle :)

    Dremmwel,
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    @Neko0001 👋 fêtez bien ce bel événement !

    poloniousmonk, to actuallyautistic

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    I've got a theory on NTs. They are total narcissists, in that tgey only can care about their own emotional state. To a NT, the problem of the coming omnicide isn't a problem because of the death and destruction already in the mail. It's a problem because it's hard to block out awareness of that, and that messes up their current emotional state, interfering with their ability to live life the way they want. 1/

    Dremmwel,
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    @axnxcamr @poloniousmonk @actuallyautistic
    I have a simple question: would you write the same message about another whole group, like, idk, "black people" or "gays" or "trans" and still find it correct ?

    Every living being care about themselves. Some so hard that they live alone and meet another individual only for mating. Others like primates chose the herd way through evolution. Saying NTs are all selfish is like saying autistics are all deprived of empathy.

    theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic

    If you're on the Left and your worldview AND praxis don't involve the liberation of disabled people, you aren't on the Left.

    You're performative.

    Gross.

    @actuallyautistic @communism

    Dremmwel,
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    @axnxcamr @theautisticcoach @CStamp @actuallyautistic @communism
    "Why do you think it’s on disabled people to educate everyone?" Hmm well bc when you aren't disabled yourself, you may find difficult, at first glance, to know precisely what disabled ppl really need?
    It's like, idk, I'm white so yes, I know that I'm favoured compared to non-white ppl, but how would I have a full understanding of the difficulties of non-white ppl if nobody take the time to explain?

    Dremmwel,
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    @axnxcamr @theautisticcoach @CStamp @actuallyautistic @communism and it's not only bc of autism (which isn't of help btw), but I think it's dangerous to let ppl assess one's needs to be a good leftist.
    No, to be a good leftist, you accept to be teached by others (disabled, non-white, whatever minority) and then you try your best to help or at least not to be an ennemy.
    Let disabled ppl speak in their own name! ;)

    Dremmwel,
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    @quietmarc @axnxcamr @theautisticcoach @CStamp @actuallyautistic @communism I don't remember asking anyone to "do more". I'm just saying that the ppl most able to communicate about difficulties encountered by a minority are ppl from this minority themselves.
    It remembers me feminists discussing if yes or no men can fight with feminists. Some said yes but as friends/support but not as speakers bc feminism is women empowerment thus women will speak for themselves. Same idea here.

    Dremmwel,
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    @theautisticcoach @axnxcamr @quietmarc @CStamp @actuallyautistic @communism at least, can you insult me in a language everyone can understand ?

    tine_schreibt, to actuallyautistic
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    @actuallyautistic

    This explains so much o.o

    Does anybody else here feel the same?

    https://neuroclastic.com/the-identity-theory-of-autism-how-autistic-identity-is-experienced-differently/

    Dremmwel,
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    @tine_schreibt @actuallyautistic I suppose, yes. To the question "who are you ?" I answer with what is expected (country of residence, job etc) by imitation. But in fact, I don't really know what to say. Most people are interested in knowing things I don't consider as identifying (where I live, what is my job, if I have children), all those things found in small talk. But it has nothing to do with identity! Thinking about it, idk how ppl can find these answers satisfying.

    Dremmwel,
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    @tine_schreibt @actuallyautistic I mean, I feel like ppl don't really want the real answer to "who are you". This question sounds like a sort of ritual without purpose, just like when a colleague asks "how are you today?" but doesn't expect you to answer "I'm so bad". It's like parroting conventional sentences. Ppl seem to feel as interactions are a obligation and we have to create a code for interacting without any engagement. Well, maybe just "hello" would be enough ?

    theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic

    Do you use the word "Neurodivergent"?

    Why or why not?

    Do you think it's ableist?

    If you don't use it, what word do you use?

    @actuallyautistic

    Dremmwel,
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    @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic to be more precise: even in the most inclusive and kindest society, I would still have short attention span and nonverbal communication misunderstanding. So even if it wouldn't lead to any social csq for me, I still wouldn't be able to perform like most members of my species: it's disability.
    Thus, I try to insist on the 'spectrum' part of normality and ADHD/ASD, but I try not to refer to variant or diversity.

    Dremmwel,
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    @nddev @Vincarsi @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I know both models and I suppose 'neurodivergence' (let's use it ^^) mostly fit in the social disability model. But I don't think any kind of disability is 100% social-based. Some are mostly, some are less, but I think insisting only on the social part (which is important, I agree) may lead to the risk of denying someone's difficulties and finally doing nothing to help.
    1/...

    Dremmwel,
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    @nddev @Vincarsi @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic some of our behaviors are situational differences (the 'tasting' example). Some are disabilities: I can really struggle with nonverbal things. Even in the perfect society, I'll still miss this part of communication, not bc of ableism but bc our species communicates like that. In a world where everyone says 100% of the thoughts, I wouldn't be disabled, but humans don't perform like this ^^
    So, if we stay on a mostly social-based model...
    2/3

    Dremmwel,
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    @nddev @Vincarsi @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic ...there is no real place to consider that difficulty. It's not correct to assess that a good society would erase it.
    It's easier to figure out with chronic pain for ex: you can't walk a long distance bc of 1) pain and 2) streets aren't wheelchair-friendly. Point 2 is social-based and can be corrected but pain and shorter walking distance will always remain. Focusing on point 2 is denying the remaining limitations of (1).
    3/3

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    @ginsterbusch @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic it's interesting to consider such different points of view in the same group.
    To me, it's the opposite: to reach an almost "normal" life, I need different (or special) things than NT people. And it sounds strange, almost ableist to me, not to talk about that by saying we have the same needs as everyone. I'm not sure NTs would need methylphenidate :)

    Dremmwel,
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    @ginsterbusch @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic thanks for the thread. I understand your point but still don't agree :) bc in fact, I don't see how you can enjoy equality without expressing your needs (call them special or not, I'm not sure it changes anything).
    I'm more prone to the concept of equity, i.e. everyone is given the tools to play their role in society (whatever the society you imagine, in fact).

    Dremmwel,
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    @ginsterbusch @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic well, if the fact that I don't agree with you is telling things "that don't mean anything", please stop mentionning me, bc I don't see the interest in expressing my opinion to see someone answer that I'm talking nonsense. Thanks :)

    Dremmwel,
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    @ginsterbusch @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic ok sorry, it seems that I was far from understanding your point in your thread!
    I'm not sure I still fully understand the difference, but things are clearer to me now. English isn't my native language either :)

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