i dont know if anyone is out there that needs to hear this, but...
do not let pressure or gaslighting make you enter into or "try out" a poly dynamic if you're monogamous. you may very well end up with extensive emotional damage like i did. i was open minded enough to try it and see if it worked out, but it almost destroyed my relationship of 6 years and left me with an extra & extensive layer of trauma to deal with.
there's nothing wrong with you if you're monogamous. it's ok to be that way.
like i feel you brother, shit sucks and it's tough out here. but when you blame obese people on welfare for problems instead of endless wars, capitalist-owned politicians, and oil imperialism, you've lost your point
i don't get paid enough to work 9 hours a day. you couldn't pay me enough to do that because that would require payment in lost years of my life and that's something no capitalist can afford or provide.
omg hey guys whats up youtube today we're going to talk about how to set up kali linux server in the network DMZ with permissive SSH and 65,535 open ports to access and manage your home lab no matter where you are
@wrentreeco youre welcome!! docker swag for auto TLS cert management and revproxy, slack nebula for truly decentralized overlay networking, and headscale for easy VPN back home when im out and about for w/e i need or just to use pihole for DNS sinking on the move
@mattcen you read correctly! nebula solves a decentralization problem for me. i have multiple machines across multiple environments and want them to all be on a network together, so that makes my own little private "cloud" possible from a deeper infra perspective. tail/headscale can do that too with limitations, but my use case is having client apps on less pliable systems, iOS for example, that i can simply flip a switch and be connected back to home with all the local pihole DNS benefits.
@mattcen so tl;dr is: nebula is my virtual private cloud network that keeps my trust boundaries a lot tighter and exposure extremely minimal, and headscale is the VPN tunnel back to the home network on my mobile devices.
there are probably more optimized ways of doing all this, but that's where i'm currently at!
as for ADHD meds i have no idea, this is my first try ever and i went many many years without ever being diagnosed
@mattcen np! i like having more control over what IP ranges i can use, what machines are assigned what IP, generating the certs myself. there is a lot of overlap with *scale but i like the simplicity of nebula AND i wanted to run the control plane for *scale on my local network instead of on a public-facing VPS. did that so docker swag can automatically manage/renew my TLS certs. either way this is fun to talk about! im gonna look into using it as more than just a VPN tunnel.
