I agree with every single one of these issues you noted - and yet I have a polar opposite overall opinion of kbin.
Somehow, with every issue you just stated, I have enjoyed all of my “wasted” time that I would have spent scrolling Reddit, instead I was here. And in all of that time I found my time was more enriched, more valuable, and more rewarding.
I’m a passionate NYJets fan (if you know, you know) so I probably just have it built into me to be able to deal with annoying and frustrating situations and still somehow love a “team.” To me, the best part about being in a community (sports or otherwise) is being there even when it was a fraction of its potential. Intuition is the only guide to know when shit is ‘trash’ or shit is fertilizer.