I wonder if this is why the Grimm's fairy tales and Aesop's fables have been so popular. Don't be the boy who cried wolf, lying too much means others won't believe you, the Tortise and the Hare about being careful to make time work for you.
It's only reasonable that children mirror and insert themselves, so it makes sense for these stories about children to give some lessons for the kids in a way that they gravitate towards learning from already.
Hey weird question - but I can't see this post on the main page of kbin/parenting. It shows all the posts are 4 months old. I tried posting to Daddit too but got a ton of errors each time I tried. How are you viewing it?
I can't even see my own post when I click on it. I wonder if there is either a mod filter malfunctioning or a kbin issue stopping posts from showing. I'll try msging @calcifer
It seems like Kbin does not have this feature, sorry I wasn’t sure whether that was implemented on that side of things, so I was suggesting based on what I have seen happen to other users on lemmy.
I suffered with this too (my son just turned 2 and didn’t start mostly sleeping through the night until a couple of months ago) and sometimes it can creep back when my little one has a bout of sickness or teething and I know he’s going to be fussy in the night.
First of all, the other advice in this thread to ask for help from a doctor is absolutely valid, however there are things you can do yourself at home too and I personally found I felt completely different once I got some actual sleep!! Sleep deprivation is awful on your mind, body and soul, and it spirals and becomes a vicious cycle.
What really helps me is listening to guided meditations once I get into bed. Having an external voice to focus on instead of my internal voice worrying away is a game changer. An added bonus if you leave the playlist auto playing as you drift off, is that they’re so positive and motivating as they seep into your subconscious that I was waking up the next day full of renewed spirit. :)
This is the deep sleep one I start with and then I queue more from the same series:
Secondly, even though it was the last thing I wanted to do when I was so knackered, I committed myself to exercising more. I started going for longer walks during the day and doing a short 10-20 min workout before going to bed (growwithjo on YouTube is fantastic for finding a workout for whatever time you have that night). After a while I upped the time or difficulty of the workouts. Getting into bed physically tired enough to need sleep would win more and more against my overactive brain.
I believe our babies pick up on our anxiety too. I was getting anxious which was making my son more unsettled which then in turn was making me worse, repeat ad nauseum. Getting just a few hours extra sleep over a couple of days made such a positive impact on my mental fortitude that it had an impact on my son too, and he started to sleep better and settle quicker. I noticed a positive cycle instead where a little bit of improvement snowballed into better nights for us both.
Another factor for me was realising that my son is neurodivergent and has extra support needs. This can often include difficulties with sleeping and self settling. Approaching night times with that in mind and trying specific advice for settling autistic infants helped a ton. Not sure if that is applicable for your situation but thought it was worth mentioning.
Take a deep breath. I know it seems endless and overwhelming right now, but this is not going to carry on forever. I promise. I was in your shoes a couple of months ago and now I feel more like my old self again. You’ve got this! If you ever need to talk or vent to someone who went through the same, please do message me.
Oh man im so sorry :( my son also doesn’t sleep, he’s 10 months old and only just got the wake-ups down to 7 or so a night. It’s a struggle and the sleep deprivation is real!! I applaud you for managing 2!
I do think that laying awake full of anxiety goes beyond just normal parenting anxiety, I know my former Reddit parent group would have asked about post partum depression/anxiety, especially since it got worse after the birth of your second. Untreated it can go on a long time! Maybe something to bring up with your doctor?
I’m a super anxious person and if my son was sick I’d probably have trouble sleeping but if it’s like that even on a regular night I would worry that you’re struggling with something that should be treated so you can enjoy life and get some sleep!
16 months is s long time to go without sleeping through the night. What does your pediatrician say?
You're probably suffering from sleep debt, and that kind of thing can build on itself in a feedback loop, causing stress that makes it harder to sleep, etc etc. You should speak to someone about that yourself, but like the other poster said, getting your youngest to sleep through the night is an all-hands-on-deck situation. If you're pediatrician doesn't have anything new for you to try, then you should try consulting other professionals. Good luck my friend!!
Man I’m just happy that our two year old is now sleeping through the night. Next step is to get him out of our bed so he stops taking my pillow by the time I get to bed.
My son (3) went through some late bedtime weeks mainly after the last time change and because it was not getting dark as earlier. We've gotten him back to 7pm thank goodness, because he wakes up around 6:30 no matter when he goes to bed. We've been having a good few weeks after some unpleasant behavior changes right before he turned 3.
My 2.5 year old has mastered opening doors in the last few weeks and is now at the stage where we have to spend an hour or so putting her back to bed at night. Then she comes to wake us up in our room in the morning. And I have a 2 month old who is still up once a night. At least he's a pretty good sleeper! This too shall pass I guess.
my almost-9yo demonspawn of a son has his last day of school for the term today and has organised sleepovers during the break. that means that i have to go with him and sleep on the floor as well. did i mention that it's the middle of winter?
uhm, probably by him asking to arrange a sleepover and the other person saying yes. it's hard to imagine when they can't talk yet, but eventually children develop quite sophisticated reasoning abilities, and by "eventually" i mean before they are 8 years of age. all you gotta do to encourage it is accept whatever answers they come up with for questions that they face.
Did you try some type of baby monitor system?
We got us a camera that we can access by app on our phones and for the night we also put on a little sock like thing that allows the app to also monitor his pulse and oxygen levels.
This helps us so much to not be anxious all the time when he naps/sleeps!
My youngest is going to be 18 in 9 months. And now it's summer vacation, his bed time is apparently 8 a.m. But at least he can entertain himself and be left unsupervised while I sleep.
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