When one of them does something wrong and we don't know which one, they will both claim it wasn't them. We find that upsetting, because one of them is lying to us.
We don't want to punish. We want a conversation about what happened and why, and an apology.
But it can take days of asking before one of them admits it, and that time is horrible. How can we get whoever did it to admit it sooner?
