When one of them does something wrong and we don't know which one, they will both claim it wasn't them. We find that upsetting, because one of them is lying to us.
We don't want to punish. We want a conversation about what happened and why, and an apology.
But it can take days of asking before one of them admits it, and that time is horrible. How can we get whoever did it to admit it sooner?
@RPBook I can't speak to parenting children with autism and ADD but I can say what's worked in our home. We have a special object that, when held by one of the kids, they can't get in trouble for telling us the truth. All we're allowed to say is "thank you for being honest" if they tell us something while they're holding it.
@RPBook Bonus points if you use the object yourself to regularly "confess" something of your own, having forgotten the milk at the store, or losing something on the train. Having them practice being the forgiver can help them get used to the concept.
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