Yes. If you are ever in a shared space, public or otherwise, it is common courtesy to use headphones. You don’t need to have $100+ BT headphones, they still make the wired $5-10 versions and you won’t get looks anymore.
Maybe not exactly an asshole, but everyone around you is without a doubt at least moderately annoyed by you for doing something so blatantly inconsiderate.
You’re not an asshole, you’re just inconsiderate. If you were an asshole, you wouldn’t be asking for the advice of strangers and even considering that you’re in the wrong.
Wear headphones, or watch the vids on mute. You can imagine the “Mrrreow” and “Prrph?” noises they make
#LemmyWorld is in Cloudflare’s access-restricted walled garden. It’s an asshole instance that not only excludes some people from access but it hoards people who are in the included group, creating a perversely centralized power imbalance that rewards elitists. To non-assholes, Lemmy World communities are parasitic because they rob the fedi of the decentralized balance it needs. To participate in Lemmy World communities is to either be uninformed/out of touch OR to be an informed asshole.
That said, lemmy.ml is not a great place either. At least it’s not excluding people on the basis of IP address, but it’s still disproportionately large and has a history of political baggage by admins who are very trigger-happy with the censor button. You could have chosen a better instance, like Sopuli, but then your sidebar acknowledges the apparent past existence of a Sopuli AITA community.
NTA for giving refuge from a destructive instance. If it were reversed, and you were to create a community on Lemmy World that already exists in the free world, it would be a YTA case. Poaching users from a bad instance is a good semaritan move.
How to fix this
Promote the most digital rights respecting venue in the sidebar, which is !amitheasshole. Encourage cross-posts to and from discuss.tchncs.de. Make no mention of Lemmy World and other centralized nodes.
I would not normally post in lemmy.ml but thought this thread was worthy of an exception.
In a public setting, the only people who should be able to hear a video are the people who agreed to watch it.
If you are the only one watching something you need to use headphones so only you can hear it.
If you are showing it to a friend then you use the speakers with low volume so two people seated closely can hear it but someone at the next table cannot.
Remember the people working there serving the food and the others eating there did not ask to watch the video and should not need to hear it because they cannot or do not want to watch it with you.
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