I can talk all day as long as you’re all way over there, on the other side of the Internet. It’s only exhausting dealing with people in person, personally. I like talking. Just look how much time I spend here. I just don’t want to be in the same room as anyone else.
I went to an introvert munch once. It was at a library. We all sat separately and read books. It was awful, but it was still better than the regular munch.
Starbucks, hortons; any super chain like that… all have terrible coffee.
Like. I normally use a number of local, single-store places for those kinds of meetings. The last time I tried a Starbucks it was disgusting; and the meeting sucked cuz it was too loud.
I don’t want to speak for all introverts, but by god I wish someone would gather a bunch of us with similar interests and invited us to a nice quiet place to hang out.
Wouldn’t it still be true then cause you wouldn’t want to go to something that’s boring and draining? I mean at least personally I don’t feel anxious about going out to events and stuff but I more just don’t feel motivated to cause staying home by myself sounds nice. Especially if it’s something that doesn’t sound that fun. But once I actually go I’m fine except for it being tiring after a while. I mean at the end of the day it does probably vary from person to person cause humans are complex.
The person I replied to said social outings made them bored and tired after a while. But like I said even among introverts it probably varies exactly how people feel about going out and socializing.
The guy suggested something stupid. She pointed that out.
While social anxiety and introversion are commonly confused, I don’t think they are confusing them here.
I don’t like large (10+) parties. Doesn’t mean I don’t occasionally go, and it doesn’t mean I have social anxiety. And if some one suggests “fixing” it with as ignorant a solution as group therapy; yeah, I’m pointing that out to them.
I’d also argue that the two can be related, a big reason I find social interaction draining is having to fight my anxiety at all times. The few ppl I’m truly comfortable around I can interact with for much longer.
This is exactly me. I’m constantly judging myself and how I come off, every word is chosen carefully and it’s just draining. That and I’ve had a disproportionate amount of people in my life that love nothing more than talking at people that the thought of just about any social interaction just leaves me feeling irritated.
How on earth did you convince yourself that support groups are only for extraverts? Support groups aren’t about enjoying yourself, it’s about talking about issues with people who share a similar experience so they understand what you are going through, can empathize with you, and share strategies for dealing with it.
If you think you have unique challenges to your group, having a support group is not a dumb idea. It’s only sounds like a dumb idea if you have social anxiety. I even think a support group for people with social anxiety would be a good thing.
Depends strongly on what you mean by support group.
But frankly; I don’t need a specific support group. I have friends. Real friends that I can talk to; who are mutually supportive; and whom I actually trust.
In the context of the comic, they’re talking about a style of therapy that usually involves medium to large groups of people. Like in Alcoholics Anonymous.
And like all forms of therapy, it heavily depends on the individual if it’s helpful or not. One thing that’s usually not, though, is creating stressful situations to “get over” being stressed by those situations. Certainly not without extensive work prior to that.
And you’re still ignoring the core issue that being an introvert is not something that needs to be fixed.
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“Oh! You have BLONDE hair! Reading your comic, I see blondes have unique challenges! Why don’t you go dye your hair brunette!”
Such a statement would get a guy slapped. And rightfully so. Intro- or extro-version is a part of who we are, and it’s not a problem like addiction or social anxiety is. It’s patently stupid to and offensive to suggest any form of therapy to “fix that.
I’m an introvert and I don’t think it’s needs to be fixed. The obvious joke in the comic is that introverts don’t like groups, so group therapy is a bad idea. Which is what you addressed and what I responded to.
However, that being said, support groups aren’t necessarily about fixing things. AA is notorious for making sure everyone knows they are always a alcoholic and it doesn’t get cured. Support groups are about being with and learning from people who face similar challenges. And spend any time in threads here about introverts, and you’ll see how common it is that we are victims of an extrovert’s world. So those people would absolutely think we have common challenges.
I am an introverted and have social anxiety. Developing people skills is unavoidable.
You might not recognize them because the way I use my people skills is to minimize forced social interactions and reassure people I like them fine but just prefer to be to myself.
I am an “introvert”, I need alone time to reenergize. my field is mental health. I have a decently strong understanding of introverts and extroverts and understand it’s more of a spectrum than some either or type of thing. I said it fairly Blasé to be fair, though I do see a lot of socially awkward or social anxious use introversion as an excuse of avoiding development. Obviously I’m not saying everyone, if you feel you aren’t that then I’m likely not pointing to you.
But introversion just means that talking decreases someone’s energy. Does it also mean that introverts don’t want to talk with others about topics that interest them? I thought, that this isn’t the case.
PS: Yes I get it. It’s meant to be paradox/ absurd by contrasting the two contradictory statements with each other. :)
As an introvert, I don’t like large group anything. They do nothing for me. The way I see it, I’m giving up meaningful interactions for inane small talk.
Do I go to parties? Sometimes. Because I understand that extroverts get pissy if I don’t meet their needs. I just wish the extroverts in my life would give me the same consideration.
We’ve been doing it for a long time too when you really think about it.
A person on their own can be rather suspicious but once they have others around them they seem rather normal. This sadly goes for everything in life, from being the quiet kid in school to even something like a single politician running. Ironically, people are often times at their worse when they’re in groups though.
Funny thing is that I don’t think I’ve ever seen introversion demonized, just misunderstood. But spending time on reddit and lemmy, you see plenty of attacks on extroverts. Like this comment, for instance, implying that extroverts are dumb or clueless.
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