I think one of the worst things that happened to internet culture was when "I'm a fellow nerd and I am happy if you made me some free nerd stuff, thank you" got replaced with "I'm a customer and you are making a product for me" mentality. It's like someone is doing you a favor by joining your Lemmy instance, or running your free software, and it gives you the right to complain to them and demand features or things you want, and you'll threaten to leave and not bless them with your presence anymore if you don't.
I see this all the time with Lemmy: People pressuring the devs to do some thing in some particular manner, and them constantly explaining "hey, our time's not unlimited and we have a large number of priorities, we'll get to it when we get to it, if you feel strongly about it please do it yourself or hire someone" which is 100% reasonable, and then for some reason that's a problem.