I can relate with this. Its a balance imo. Depending on your state of mind, you might want comiseration or advice.
In this particular community I‘d like to go in a third direction. Not only venting or asking for advice but active sharing of techniques, mobilization focusing on group effort and efficiency instead of individual progress.
Because what a lot of people dont get is that one person cant do anything to change the system by themselves but can very well change the world by pushing in a concerted effort.
Its like the circles theory. You have close proximity: things you can directly change, far proximity: things you can only influence, weather: things you cant change at all.
They teach you to take care about the first and foremost, if you have time to spare you use it on the second and leave the third alone.
In here the second helps with the third. You can influence people to help you change the weather (quite literally, might I add). Its not fast but it does good so I keep at it.