Pedophilia (alternatively spelled paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.
Having sex with a minor doesn't automatically mean that you are a pedophile.
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Many people do it for other reasons, such as an act of showing power and supremacy over someone else while not having any (other) tendencies showing signs of pedophilia.
While a pedophile can live their whole life without meddling in with minors at all.
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So I want to argue that pedophilia and molesting a child are two different things.
That being said - it is wrong to have sex with a child as an adult, no matter the reason (excluding those cases where a couple plead in court to have a relationship if the other person is mature enough when compared to their age).
You’re arguing for nuance in a thread about a grown woman raping a 14 year old child. You’ve left several comments saying how lucky the kid is. You are fucking disgusting.
Anyone who doesn't want to know more about something their passionate about seems suspect to me.
Knowing these kinds of things can help discover the reasons for why they happen, and thus help prevent it in the future. Saying there's no point in discussing it is saying you don't actually want to do anything about it, you just want to be angry about it.
If the discussion is around getting help to prevent thoughts regarding sexualized children, then the conversation can happily continue.
If the conversation is about how it’s ok as long as you keep it to yourself, that’s an idiotic viewpoint as it disregards the fact that the content you seek is created by harming innocent victims.
Ideally you’ll find help, but I’ll be happy if you get brutalized daily in prison until you’re broken and comatose.
Ideally you’ll find help, but I’ll be happy if you get brutalized daily in prison until you’re broken and comatose.
Point proven. You care more about proving moral superiority than actually fixing issues. Why would someone come forward to find help if all they're met with is threats of violence and torture?
Knowledge can be pain.
Knowledge can also lead to learning something (new) and to make something better.
I'd say it's difficult to solve problems if you don't know, what is what or what is going on in the first place.
It's easier to help people overcome problems and to possibly treat deficiencies or non-normal behavior when you learn their story and when you start working on it together 🙂
I disapprove sexual acts of any kind towards underaged people.
I don't seek to defend people who do such acts.
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That being said -
Acts and speech can harm people.
Thoughts that you keep to yourself and that will never make you do harm to anyone, no matter what kind of thoughts they are, should have no negative consequences to anybody else than you. What about you then? Well, it might depend... (and is another story)
I'd say it's (much) better to delve in ones fantasies while minding your own business and through that cope with whatever is going on in your mind than to mindlessly go and act on whatever you want to do without any consideration. Being it stealing cars or blowing up places or...flirt with a kid.
People need ways and tools to deal with whatever in a constructive way.
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Have you ever experienced a thought that someone might consider not being normal, or might even judge you about?
For instance - it's better to let steam off aggressiveness through violent games than to go out there and - well, I'm sure you understand my point by now.
Why should a lewd fictional story written on a paper be any different?
I hope the police find you before you decide that imagination isn’t enough one day. The entertainment of the thoughts isn’t controlled by everyone, and the content you claim is innocent leads many onto actual acts.
Get help, or remove yourself from society, before you hurt someone that has nothing to do with your illness.
...and the content you claim is innocent leads many onto actual acts.
Of course some people still go onto the path of no return and end up doing something sinister to somebody.
I would argue though that they already have (extra) challenges with their minds that push them over the edge to act on ill-adviced decisions.
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I am not suggesting anyone here to take advantage of kids. Or to do anything else harmful to anyone. I am merely trying to bring other points of views in here and say that thoughts alone should not incriminate anyone. Is that really punishable? I have already said in another comment that I don't defend people who act to hurt others.
Again - I define acts punishable only if they harm people. What's it to you whatever everybody is thinking or dreaming about when there is no evidence of nobody getting harmed from it?
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Hmm. You sound like you are referring to me with your accusations, accusing me of being a pedophile. Do my opinions and thoughts on the subject alone make you think that way?
I understand how you may feel about this. This is a difficult topic and many people are sensitive about it. The common, public opinion easily is to want to lock up everyone who even thinks towards a way many deem wrong, or even straight kill them. To strike down even the ones who never harmed anyone.
But I have the right to speak my mind, and I want to do that in a civilized, polite way without judging anybody (I only judge the actions, and the actions can be punishable). Not even you.
You also have your right of speaking up your mind, as you did.
But - at the end of the day, you can believe in whatever you make out of this conversation. I don't think I can affect your decisions once you're chosen in what to believe. And I won't try neither.
I wish you a good day 🙂Look after your loved ones, mate!
Sorry, are you saying it’s ok for a 22 year old to have sex with a 14 year old? I don’t really think there’s a big different in a 31 year old doing it vs a 22 year old, so I’m not sure that’s really the issue you should have with this article.
Never said that. I said that the title is wrong. Really shows a lack of quality of writing when the title of the article contradicts the article itself
The title doesn’t mention their ages. The subtitle is awkwardly phrased because it gives the student’s age at the time and her age now, but it’s not wrong, and again, I don’t really get why you’re quibbling about that when the point that it was an adult sexually abusing a child stands regardless.
Right after the age of the boy when she did, though. It's awkwardly phrased and misleading. Just because you can justify something by saying "it's not technically wrong" doesn't change that.
Lots of reasons but it’s generally by women who lack a partner or don’t have thier emotional needs met. They don’t feel threatened by the child and confuse thier mentor/pupil relationship as love and as such doesn’t see thier abuse for what it is.
Source? I’m sorry, but that kind of sounds like you’re letting female sexual abusers off the hook a bit by arguing their actions are innocent in their own minds. I don’t think these women are that stupid or deluded. I agree they find boys non-threatening, but I don’t think they construe their own manipulation of a young, naïve teenager as completely innocent. They know they’re taking advantage, they just don’t care.
But for female teachers, other motives may come into play: the desire to “care for” a male child from a broken home, which then de-evolves into sex; a need to feel attractive, wanted, and sexually desired by a young man, who may not have the capacity to understand or give real love, but certainly has the testosterone to provide sex; or even as revenge against a husband who is no longer emotionally supportive.
"Heterosexual nurturers” are women who develop sexual relationships with children and adolescents on the basis of feelings of love or a desire for intimacy. These women also often mistakenly assert that their behavior is not abusive.
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