"I'm not a materialist. Love and friendship is reward enough."
Oh, wait, I don't have much of those things either...
I have had some good times as an adult but it was always money that facilitated it, indirectly. I paid for travel to see people or to have them come see me. One of my exes lived with me for free while I worked. Another I wouldn't have met without travelling abroad. I'm also losing contact with old friends because I can't afford to be where they are.
It's not so interesting to own things, but experiences often cost money, and I do want those. You can also use money to improve your health and looks.
It would make more sense to be non-materialistic if I had many non-material assets, such as confidence, a great personality, good looks, a loving family, or a good contact network.
My main non-material asset is just my intellect though, and the main reward you can get in return for that alone is money and status.
One big reason is because they know they're important to their families, and they receive love and support in return. Maybe there is also a reputation to maintain.
How do you motivate a lone man who has none of that, though?
My theory: His job must make him feel important and his wage must be high enough to make up for the rest.
@Furgar Not happening right now. Maybe not ever. Can't count on that. Prospects of finding a dynamic job that I can succeed in are better is what I'm saying.
@thor when i worked the shop floor i maintained motivation by the line keep going and i wanted to help it moving so the guys after me had something to do. In my office job now, nothing.
Despite being unhappy with singleness, I thought you were able to get into a relationship last year, albeit a short-lived one. I’m guessing that what’s hurting you most is a good contact network; with enough good connects and access to third places, I’m sure you could make something work.
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