These past 3 years, I've made some difficult choices. The hardest ones are always important choices between things that are both good -- or both bad.
But: when I clearly lay out what I value, the decision-making is easier.
I learned as a coach: when choices align with what matters to me I sleep well, I don't second-guess myself. (I used to be a worrier! It's astonishing, now that I think about it)
@deborahh I gave a presentation a few years ago which forced me to think about what the word "value" means. I identified 4 or 5 different meanings and another came up in a question I was asked. What you 'value'(/prioritise) is decided by reference to what your fundamental 'values' are. It's a very bad word for communicating. Values are very often relative and we like to pretend they aren't.
@woo thinking about: "values are very often relative" …
I've observed that core values tend to be stable over time, and we want all of them at 100%.
What's relative is how we balance them.
When I went back to uni, I cut back on shoes, fiction books, & dining out. My value of beautiful things didn't change, but I temporarily held it in abeyance, to honour a value of *ever learning".
These tensions keep us honest. Beautiful things will eventually yell for attention! 😉 #values
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