I dunno. I feel like if you're asking your 11 year old kid to call the cops for you and shit gets fucked up, is it a you problem not a police problem if they're responding to a situation where they apply an appropriate level of response not knowing who is who in that hot moment.
It's horrible that the kid was in the middle of it - - but where was the parent?
This seems to me that police need better domestic dispute training, but tragic as it is ,things move so quickly in a situation like that.
Too bad the boyfriend doesn't have unlimited funds but really I don't think the police department is at fault.