I’ll start off by saying that he has a bad past life. He was obviously abused by his previous owners and straight up abandoned in the woods. He has bad anxiety that he is on Prozac for, and it seems to be helping for the most part....
Hey, so I believe in a higher power but I’m not on board with any particular religion. Anyone else think it’s cool to just fly solo as a good human, no religion attached?
This was phenomenal! Thank you so much for sharing.
The sharp whit and good manners of Mr. Anderson is a great example of what “kill them by living well” means. I wish I could have seen when the old master read that letter.
I was remembering some school memories today and remembered LifeEd (Australian sexual and life advice/education). At one section we discussed suicide and we were talked about one cause (I can’t remember what exactly) of suicide and for a second we just thought and a kid silently placed his hand over his heart and looked down....
Amazing that a small gesture like putting his hand over his heart was enough to impact you like this. You are probably very empathetic. Hopefully this inspires you to reach out the next time you see a gesture like this and your conscience brings up this old memory.
About 10 years of marriage and your situation reads just like one of mine that started a few months back. I’ve even been through the same frantic spiral you described with the condoms.
I haven’t figured it out fully yet, but here are the things I’ve found have helped:
Checked out the book “Insecure in Love” by Leslie Becker-Phelps. My feelings of jealousy almost definitely stem from my insecure attachment and I needed to recognize when that fear was being activated so I could practice responding better.
Therapy with EMDR - turns out my family of origin was kinda effed up and that was bleeding over into my beliefs about relationships. It can be fixed with therapy (but you may need to shop around for a therapist that fits you — it takes time and that’d okay because you learn something useful from every therapist you try). This gave me the tools to fight when those anxiety attacks came around.
Getting my own friend group - I was like you and really didn’t NEED or WANT other friends besides my SO. That said, I took the past 6 months or so to try and branch out and I can’t tell you how great it is to have someone to call when those negative feelings hit who can talk you off the ledge (or, to my surprise, let me know that they have also had these feelings, but that it doesn’t mean anything). Being there to support someone else as they go through life is also incredibly rewarding.
Prayer. I’m a person of faith, and I believe prayer has helped calm me down and surrender as well as look at the situation through fresh eyes.
Journaling - getting into the habit of writing down your thoughts in a secure location was huge for me getting to work out those “intuitions” that were causing me some anxiety. I always thought I was an intuitive person, so when I had an intuition that led me wrong, I needed to process it.
I hope some of this helps because I know the anxiety sucks. I don’t think it will get better on its own, so if you want to stay in this relationship (and for the sake of your future relationships), decide to do the work and make moves to do it. It’s not your fault, but sometimes life shits on us and we have to go clean up the shit so it doesn’t stink so much.
The nice thing about opening up to friends about it is that they can help you baseline.
For instance: when things were really peaking my anxiety a few months ago, I was in distress because I felt like I wasn’t important to my SO anymore. I communicated my fear and the situation to a friend and he was able to give me a different perspective: that the way I was thinking about relationships was zero-sum, but that my SO’s heart may have enough room for both all the love I needed AND her new friends. I just need to communicate with my SO if I’m actually feeling neglected or not.
It was good for me to hear from another person that the way I perceived the world isn’t necessarily the way everyone does.
I want to explore this thought more and its biased to post this in antiwork however i think itll be a good insight to see what people think of employers in here
“Never fall in love with a company, because it can never love you back.”
Yes, employers suck and workers should enter into the employment relationship with the understanding that the employer is lying often and wants your labor for as cheap as possible.
There are decent managers out there, but even so, if you put your own livelihood up against theirs and they have to choose between the two, they’ll always choose their own.
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What are your thoughts on the concept of having faith in a Higher Power but choosing to distance oneself from established religious doctrines?
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Some memories today (CW: Suicide discussion)
I was remembering some school memories today and remembered LifeEd (Australian sexual and life advice/education). At one section we discussed suicide and we were talked about one cause (I can’t remember what exactly) of suicide and for a second we just thought and a kid silently placed his hand over his heart and looked down....
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Do ya'll think employers are heartless nowadays or is it just the cost of buisness?
I want to explore this thought more and its biased to post this in antiwork however i think itll be a good insight to see what people think of employers in here
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