Neurodivergence includes a lot of things other than autism, and I think it would sometimes be hard to tell who is neurodivergent and who isn’t. There are plenty very social people with ADHD, for example.
So it seems a bit silly to have “us vs them” in mind. Because you don’t know. Are you suddenly going to turn tables on someone and agree with them because they decide they’re ADHD?
Instead of focussing on just “I have autism this is hard,” why not look into what might help you, so you can give your mom a clearer idea of how to support you.
For me, showering is so easy not to do at all. I have things built into my schedule which require it, though. Like massage (I feel obligated to be clean for that, and have a routine getting ready for massage). Also I’ve identified things that make me feel gross about being unclean, like when my hair is greasy, and that stays on my mind now once I notice it.
Also if you’re still under 18 (or whatever the age of adulthood is there), a diagnosis is probably a good idea because there may be support available somewhere.
It’s actually much more comfortable for two people in one bed to have separate blankets. :) might be worth trying two twin blankets. Then your partner could have what they prefer and you could have weighted.
I’m partial to flax linen, even though it’s not quite as good sustainability-wise as hemp.
It’s almost as absorbent and has similar anti microbial properties. But the main thing is it’s softer.
Hemp does appear to soften up over time but it can’t match linen’s particular soft smooth suppleness in the short nor the long run.
That said, the last decade or so “linen” is being made with factory processes using fibre ends instead of full strands. So it’s getting harder and harder to find real linen material that doesn’t break down in a couple years.
They’re even weaving jersey (stretch) material from it which is ridiculous, and eschews many of the benefits of the material. -_-
I'm so lost on how to tip anymore. I remember back when 12% pre-tax was considered a really good tip, but now the kiosks recommend 20-25% (which is usually ON TOP of tax)....
It's a standard I grew up with - if anything I wonder if I should be raising it for inflation.
Much like servers, delivery drivers aren't paid properly if they aren't tipped. But, in my mind, the quantity of food matters a lot less to the delivery driver's work, unless it's a large enough order to require multiple trips from the vehicle.
For the amount of time a driver has to work to drive to me and park and bring my order to the front door, yeah I think $5 is more than reasonable. They probably spend more time on me that a server in a restaurant does, in a lot of cases.
My little one isn't even teething yet, but my wife and I were talking the other day about what we used to get from the Tooth Fairy when we were kids....
In my early 20s, I was seeing a psychologist for depression. Because of issues with my mom, she thought it’d be a good idea to have an appointment with her involved.
So my mom came to an appointment.
And right after they met, it turns out they started meeting up personally to do some kind of craft project together.
The psychologist did inform me and check if it was alright but I had no idea what to say. Trust broken and I just stopped making appointments.
One counsellor I went to see through work insurance was just awful.
Most notably, I was dealing with issues surrounding having open heart surgery, and when I brought it up she started talking about her nephew or something who had some kind of heart problem, and how that obviously means she understands completely.
Ever since my self-diagnosis, I feel a weird 'us vs. them' mentality referring to myself as neurodivergent vs. neurotypicals.
Does anyone else feel this way or did when they first self-diagnosed?
Can someone explain to my neurotypical mother who is sort of new to my self-diagnosis of asd1 that transitioning (getting showers) is hard for me?
I cannot STAND going from dry to wet.
I'm curious - Do you folks like weight on your body (people, animals, weighted blankets on top of you)
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How much do people tip?
I'm so lost on how to tip anymore. I remember back when 12% pre-tax was considered a really good tip, but now the kiosks recommend 20-25% (which is usually ON TOP of tax)....
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What's the Tooth Fairy's going rate these days?
My little one isn't even teething yet, but my wife and I were talking the other day about what we used to get from the Tooth Fairy when we were kids....
What are your horror stories from therapy?
Alright. Let's get a validating vent session going. My fellow beautiful autistic people, what are some horror from your experience with therapists?
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