when self-hating people who’ve learned a little about genetics and evolution pipe up with “why are we even still in the gene pool” sadposts … this is why. overall, this style of thinking is a net positive to the proliferation of Homo sapiens, and every now and then even a net positive to the people who embody it.
I’m not sure where else to vent. I don’t want to seem like I’m playing the victim as everyone else in this community is having the same executive functioning issues I’m having and I don’t mean to distract from those things but having to navigate these issues while being constantly reminded of my race is exhausting....
Not the guy you’re responding to but I made a comment upthread that I found success by developing interlocking habits, or in some cases it’s fair to say rituals rather than habits … little sub-habits that guide you to the main one you want to develop, or briefly reward you when you’ve completed it. Items or processes in your environment which cue you and remind you that the habits you want to do even exist.
For example, 2 sub-components of what finally got me to remember to meditate (or skip, but intentionally 😒) were writing a brief journal entry of my observations after each sit with a piece of chocolate, and having a couple little succulents with a light on a timer by my altar, so that every time I’m in the room during the day the altar area, with a couple plants I need to keep an eye on for their health, is lit up to draw me in if I’m ready.
Doing things this way is very intentional and thus exhausting, and it requires a lot of trial and error to figure out the little sub-habits that all work together and that actually work for you (since some inevitably won’t), and hell as somebody explaining it I’ve only had a couple big successes with it because I often don’t have the energy/brainpower to figure all this out … but man when I can pull it off, it works sooo well.
I’m a huge believer in “prosthetic environments” which I believe is a concept Dr. Russell Barkley came up with, he annoys me a little but as an ADHD research he’s like 85% dead on target about this stuff, and thinks deeply about it.
The reason bullet journaling can work so well for ADHD/ExecDys types who take to it, is because bullet journaling is a structure of interlocking habits with an element of ritual to it, while “remember to look at the important list crumpled in my back pocket” is not.
The really fucked up situation is when you’re stuck in this mode to the point of severe burnout because of your environment which you cannot escape in any reasonable amount of time.
I think in my case this is a combination of 2 factors: having very self-absorbed parents (I would classify one as non-N and one as N) who really just didn’t give a crap about my interests or inner life most of the time, plus one symptom of my being on the spectrum is that one very specific input wire is pulled and I have...
you place an overdue library book on the floor in front of the front door. the library book merges seamlessly with the environment. six weeks later, you trip over it on your way out the house to go to the library.
so many people with executive dysfunction have come to this realization thru memes ❤️
I would add: beyond executive dysfunction, people who also have low intrinsic motivation (ability to “just do it”) and/or difficulty initiating, are also not bad people!
while it is our responsibility to always work on and improve our weak points, these aspects of temperament exist as they are, no matter how much moralizing busybodies insist otherwise.
I remember when I joined here that tchncs did not federate with Lemmygrad. Is there a reason why it is now? I don’t think it’s a good instance, since it full of (roleplaying) communists hating on the western world… and I wouldn’t want that shit in my “All” feed. Thank you.
People need to stop agitating for defederation on the basis of politics.
If you want a safe space for one or another “team,” start one yourself. I’m not interested in participating on instances which engage in this type of petty behavior.
How does one even live like this? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
Being Black and autistic is awful
I’m not sure where else to vent. I don’t want to seem like I’m playing the victim as everyone else in this community is having the same executive functioning issues I’m having and I don’t mean to distract from those things but having to navigate these issues while being constantly reminded of my race is exhausting....
“No Way Out Except From External Intervention”: First-Hand Accounts of Autistic Inertia (www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov)
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Oh boy! (media.hachyderm.io)
shout out to anybody facing homelessness due to neurodivergence
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consensus/discussion driven to a fault?
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v thoughtful suggestion, I had not considered (discuss.tchncs.de)
Advices. (lemmy.world)
I just need to focus. (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
wish there was more traffic??
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anybody else realize decades later you can't tell whether people like you or are just pretending?
I think in my case this is a combination of 2 factors: having very self-absorbed parents (I would classify one as non-N and one as N) who really just didn’t give a crap about my interests or inner life most of the time, plus one symptom of my being on the spectrum is that one very specific input wire is pulled and I have...
Is it a common autistic experience that just the presence of another human being puts your nervous system on alert? (old.reddit.com)
literally me (discuss.tchncs.de)
Perspective (discuss.tchncs.de)
adhd gothic (discuss.tchncs.de)
a tumblr classic!
Why is lemmygrad not a banned instance anymore?
I remember when I joined here that tchncs did not federate with Lemmygrad. Is there a reason why it is now? I don’t think it’s a good instance, since it full of (roleplaying) communists hating on the western world… and I wouldn’t want that shit in my “All” feed. Thank you.