mattwilcox, (edited ) Heard and respected. Personally never have used that word.
However; here is another take on that word and who gets to use it - as a conversation between a Black person and an Indonesian. https://youtu.be/dbcidd8CuYs?si=-p53J-cf0Jl4xdgT
The TL:DR is - white people: just don’t. Some Black people are fine with it and some aren’t (peoples are not monoliths); intent matters a lot. (But again, white people, we are assumed to have a certain context whether or not we individually do. So don’t.) https://mastodon.online/