I was a manager, and another guy was a more senior manager in another division. We both did IT. For some reason he didn’t like me and/or was trying to get our services moved to him, so he went to our director every week for over a year to tell him made-up stories about me.
He eventually left after a lot of people realized he was a highly manipulative, but I still hear things that he told people as part of an explanation about why I was passed up “for this” or why I wasn’t right “for that.” It cost me a lot of raises, especially in cases where things were gossiped to other people and the source was lost. Now I’m only a manager in title, but my management responsibilities were taken away.
Unfortunately, I’m caught in a ticking trap – another 1.5 years and I retire with a full pension for the rest of my life. Losing that by leaving isn’t worth it (assuming I live long enough afterwards).
I guess it depends, different people would consider different ones more damning than others. Many of these come from aspects about me. Where I currently live, the worst thing you can be accused of, and which plagues everyone close to me, isendangerment,thebadkind. Earlier in my childhood though when I was in another setting, people were more spiritually in-tune and believed me being a seventh daughter of a seventh daughter with a medical condition and heathenic traits meant I was bewitched.
A girl told a bunch of people I beat her up. She was eventually caught telling other lies about other people and I haven’t heard anything about it in years. But now I feel betrayed by friends that ostracized me for something I didn’t do and I don’t hang out with anyone any more. :/
Same. My ex told everyone that I was abusing her so that they wouldn’t believe me when I started coming out about how she was abusing me. I’m so happy to have gotten her out of my life. I feel bad for the two guys married to her sisters. They’re nothing but punching bags for those monsters.
I honestly couldn’t tell you any rumor ever spread about me. If there ever were any when I was in school they didn’t make an impression on me. People would generally just tell me to my face that they thought I was annoying or weird. And like, yeah, undiagnosed autistic teenager, that was pretty spot on 🤷♂️
normal is a fantasy honestly. When your young you wish your family was normal and you get older and realize that no one was (or ones that were are actually the outliers) and the same pretty much goes for people. We are all unique and have things we do well and don't.
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