@x00001 You have to wonder why someone felt the need to coin the phrase (no pun intended).
I'm at a loss. My 64-year-old ND brother isn't math capable, and spends all his money on various tool/toys that are crowding him out of his living space. For example, he now owns four leaf blowers. He still let's my 90-year-old mother buy his food and cook for him, pay his utilities, etc. She owns the house they live in.
He is addicted to shopping, and there's no stopping him. Ideas?
@janisf@x00001 My advice as an ND is to be very careful about projecting your own values onto someone who thinks very differently from you. The questions you should be asking yourself are what genuinely is going to make him happiest long-term, and then if he's not going in that direction, how can you convince him to change?
@BernieDoesIt@x00001 That's why I'm here. We have tried everything to convince him. We've been at it 50 years. He won't budge. I'm out of ideas about how to connect with a brain that can't multiply by 12 at all, but launches into a self-protective, really quite articulate trade about how no one can be trusted, and the world is trying to control him. There's no real paranoia, which would give us a lever to nudge him into therapy in more lucid moments. He simply doesn't shift.
@cy Although there is definitive mapping of the extreme drop in crime in the 80's and 90's directly to Roe. there really isn't a better predictor for criminality that not being wanted by your mother.\
That wasn't my brother, though, which is why mu mom is 90 and still cooking for him.
@cy :) I do appreciate the sentiment. He's pre-Roe, and my mom is Baptist. And he was a wanted baby.
Thing is, especially these days, people will scrape the world for off-handed phrases they can turn into sermon fodder. More than that, though, there is probably an tender-hearted ND who's mom spouted something similar to them, about them. It's one thing to walk through the world crushed. It's another to reckon with a crushing world.
Words speak care, and they speak the opposite, too. ☮️
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