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BernieDoesIt

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I just want to stop as much human suffering as possible. I don't think that's too much to ask. #ActuallyAutistic

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BernieDoesIt, to actuallyautistic
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It turns out that elephants are allistic.

@animalculum @actuallyautistic
https://scholar.social/@animalculum/112417052768543901

pathfinder, to Autism
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@actuallyautistic

No matter how well I learnt to mask, no matter how well I learnt to get on with people, if not in any deep and meaningful way, at least superficially. There has always been one skill that I have never mastered and that is simply the ability to not upset people and especially without having the slightest idea how.

Or that I didn't for a long time, anyway. It was only when I realised that I was autistic and that the way I looked at the world was in some ways substantively different from the way many allistics looked at the world, that I began to understand something. Allistics tend to find validation externally, through feedback from the group or the part of society that they identify with, whereas autistics tend to find it within themselves, in their own reason and sense of worth and value.

Now I must stress that in many respects this is a generalisation and obviously there will be a lot of variation and degree in how true this is. But in its more extreme forms, it could very well explain many of the experiences and difficulties that I've had.

Because if someone's self-worth, the value they see in their life and actions, is almost entirely based on their interactions with the dynamics of the group they identify with, or the society they live within and not from their own judgement, then this could lead to certain choices and reactions that are quite frankly alien to someone like me and that I could easily end up in conflict with and all without really trying to.

For example, if the value of a child reflects back on its parents. Then in the extreme case the values and behaviour expected from that child, are not those of the child, but of the parents in terms of the group the child is meant to be representing them in and how well it is doing that. So any sense of divergence from that or criticism of that child, no matter how slight that might be, could easily be seen as an attack on the parents and reacted to accordingly, irrespective of how reasonable or just it was.

Equally, of course, worth, praise, or rewards, can also become divorced from any sense of reality. All that matters is that you, whether that's through your children or not, are being valued, not whether there is any justice to it. Because the truth or validity of it, is not based on how you see yourself, but only on how others see you. And in the extreme case, it doesn't even matter how they came to this view, as long as they have it. So worth can become something to be manipulated and played for and how you really are and how you actually feel about yourself becomes almost irrelevant to this process.

That people could even be this way, that everything could become how you're being perceived and anything that effects that negatively can be something to be attacked, is still something that I struggle to understand. It is so foreign to my nature. But, it certainly explains so many of the times that I've upset people, because I wasn't playing this game, or seeing the world the way I should and didn't even realise it.


BernieDoesIt,
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@EVDHmn @pathfinder @actuallyautistic I dunno about that. I'm a lot harsher on myself than I'd ever be on anyone else. The idea that maybe I don't have to be harsh with myself is really something pretty new to me. I've only been trying for a few months.

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@pathfinder @EVDHmn @actuallyautistic I just never saw the point before. I knew I could take it.

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@pathfinder @EVDHmn @actuallyautistic For example, I was pretty blunt with myself because I knew I could've possibly offend myself. It never really occurred to me that I might be hurting myself.

FantasticalEconomics, to random
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Important question: when have large-scale student movements been on the wrong side of history?

I may be biased by my progressive leanings (no, scratch that, I'm definitely heavily biased by them) but it seems like we can reliably look to the young to see the direction we should be moving.

I don't care where you stand politically or your views on the fucked up situation in Gaza, everyone should be standing up to loudly support the rights of students across the globe to protest.

Full stop.

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@GreenFire @FantasticalEconomics @lednaBM Sometimes the rules need to be broken because people are more important than convenience of property. Cops aren't automata, and they're doing the morally wrong thing in my name and on my dime. I don't feel bad about not accepting it when they do that.

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@FantasticalEconomics @i_gvf But they did the thing that was most visible to the US, so that's what counts, right? 😉

BernieDoesIt,
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@i_gvf @FantasticalEconomics Maybe revolutions aren't the best thing to be judging student protests by. There's plenty of evidence that most revolutions don't turn out the way their supporters hope they will.

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@i_gvf @FantasticalEconomics Hmm, I'm still not convinced that pro-revolution protests by students isn't a reliable sign that the current government is terrible and a new one is needed. On the other hand, no one seems to be a good judge of who is really going to make a government that's a lot better.

BernieDoesIt, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic I did some back-of-the-envelope math, and about 50% of people with PTSD are autistic. That's really incredible when you think of how many more allistics there are.

ashleyspencer, to actuallyautistic
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I googled “autism and traumatic brain injury” hoping to find something about living with both at the same time.

ALL the results were studies done to see if TBIs cause autism. 😒

Not one article, reddit post, quora post, was about living with both. Ugh.

@actuallyautistic

BernieDoesIt,
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@ScruffyDux @Tooden @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic It's well known that Peter Pan was autistic.

BernieDoesIt,
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@Tooden @ScruffyDux @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic Oh, was that the one that ended up blaming everything on a meltdown? I was lurking occasionally back then.

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@janisf @x00001 My advice as an ND is to be very careful about projecting your own values onto someone who thinks very differently from you. The questions you should be asking yourself are what genuinely is going to make him happiest long-term, and then if he's not going in that direction, how can you convince him to change?

LehtoriTuomo, to actuallyautistic Finnish
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My previous actually autistic posts gave me some excellent answers and furthered my processing a lot. Thanks to everyone involved! 💜

I self-diagnosed very late. Some big reasons have been a) not having certain stereotypical qualities such as aversion of eye contact, and b) scoring between NT and autistic in many online tests. Interestingly, the realization that I'm autistic wasn't that big identity-wise. I've understood I have certain qualities ages ago. Instead of a change in my identity, it's been a big relief to understand why I'm this and that.

There's still lots to process though. I'm only now coming to grips with how my memory works, for instance.

Ordered two books on autism, Neurotribes and the Devon Price book. Really looking forward to reading those.

@actuallyautistic

BernieDoesIt,
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@LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic Have you taken an alexithymia test? I've noticed that autistics that aren't alexithymic often score in that gray zone because a lot of things that were thought to be autistic were actually alexithymic traits.

seachanger, to random
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once an alaska economist on twitter unfollowed me because I disagreed that “construct more houses” was the only way out of this housing crisis and suggested we may have some regulatory leverage as well

https://www.businessinsider.com/nar-settlement-antitrust-lawsuits-agent-commissions-affect-home-prices-2024-3?amp

BernieDoesIt,
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@seachanger But building makes Line Go Up so it has to be good and solve all problems.

BernieDoesIt, to actuallyautistic
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My Autistic Pony: Friendship is Overrated

@actuallyautistic

BernieDoesIt,
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@actuallyautistic I've had that stuck in my head for hours.

BernieDoesIt,
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@actuallyautistic Most episodes are just 24 minutes of Twilight Sparkle playing with stim toys.

BernieDoesIt,
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@actuallyautistic Seriously, though, I'd be willing to pay money for quality children's shows that feature autistic major characters for my little ones to watch.

BernieDoesIt, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic I just realized I thought about one of my triggers and then didn't immediately chastise myself for thinking about it. I'm making progress.

BernieDoesIt,
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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic No flashbacks or other CPTSD symptoms either.

dgar, to random
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I have a joke about trickle down economics, but 99 percent of you won’t get it.

BernieDoesIt,
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@dgar I have a joke about alexithymia, but I'm not feeling it.

futurebird, to random
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This MR segment on MAGA demographics is important.

When people say "why do they vote against their own interests?" (assuming MAGA folk are poor, rural) I'm just like "they aren't!"

Planned retirement communities with restrictions on who can move in are... questionable.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZ3svFXdkL8

BernieDoesIt,
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@futurebird I've always found the "voting against their own best interests" framing to be patronizing. Like, who is the speaker to be telling someone else what they should be most concerned about.

GottaLaff, to Arizona
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GOP Fascist party has a lust for violence.

“ GOP Senate hopeful told supporters they can "strap on a Glock" to be prepared for the intensity of the 2024 campaign and urged military and law enforcement veterans to be "ready," as her race heats up in a key battleground state.”
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/2024-election/kari-lake-suggests-supporters-strap-glock-ready-2024-rcna147902

BernieDoesIt,
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@GottaLaff Why hasn't Scary Lake realized that Arizona voters just aren't that into her yet?

RickiTarr, to random
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What if the weird thoughts I have popping into my head are animals trying to telepathically communicate with me?

BernieDoesIt,
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@RickiTarr Great, now I have to set my "days without an annoying intrusive thought" counter back down to zero. Thanks a lot, Ricki!

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    @noellemitchell Imagine being so dumb you think that people that run bots wouldn't be willing to pay a small fee.

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