You donât have limited memory, you have limited attention span. Stop telling yourself you have bad memory and force yourself to put more effort into taking in info and not just passing over it. Things like names are a good example. I used to always say âIâm terrible at remembering namesâ. But I also wasnât really trying. I was leaning on that phrase as a crutch. When I started putting concentrated effort in, I found that suddenly I was able to learn and remember tons of names.
Another trick is to keep constant To-Do lists of various time frames. Like one for today, this week, this month. Put things in the appropriate list based on urgency and then check the list whenever youâre unsure of what you need to do. Always put things on the list immediately. Use tools to make youâre life more manageable. Donât lean on âwell I have ADHD so this is just how I am, oh shucksâ. You can manage these things, it just takes time and effort to learn how.
I mean, I was only officially diagnosed at age 9 and have received numerous forms of treatment and therapy my whole life. But sure, shit on the guy trying to give you some advice that they learned themselves.
This is why I hate all you self-diagnosed twats. You donât want solutions, you just want something to lean on and point to as justification for your treatable and manageable behaviours. But nope âlol Iâm just quirky!â
Grow up and take responsibility for your own actions and stop acting like some mysterious hand is hovering above you controlling you instead. Youâll actually find that many of the things you âcouldnâtâ do, you in fact, can. Youâre your own worst enemy and you donât see it.