You say that there are plenty of instances, can you point me in the right direction?
No, I can't, because the instance I'm a member of is very pro-trans, and we tend not to federate with instances that make the opposing viewpoint as large a part of their discourse as you seem to want to.
If you simply can't find a conservatively aligned instance to join, though, the beauty of the Fediverse is that you can create one. Create an instance that caters to the crowd you want to associate with. Let them come to you, then nobody can ban you for your views. (You will likely face defederation from a number of other instances, though, so be aware of that possibility.)