What are your core values?

  • authenticity -> real and genuine
  • autonomy -> seperate individual (not enmeshed)
  • curiosity -> growth mindset and learning constantly
  • growth -> improving functioning and increased awareness of change and adapting to new circumstances
  • peace -> absence of conflict and abnegation of other people’s drama/entitlements
  • pleasure -> enjoying or benefitting from the actions I take and consequences of those I maintain relationships with
  • respect -> genuine care for recognizing and upholding other’s needs where it is safe and not incompatible with your own
  • reciprocity -> balanced approach to give/take and being mutually-attentive to signs of imbalance
  • safety -> avoiding things, people, places, situations that hurt you or cause you to be unable to enforce the protections you need to accomodate yourself in the context
  • stabillity -> expectation of consistency and balance and sustainabillity in one’s relationship with anything/anyone.

These are sort of a rough outline of mine, how about yours Lemmings? Mine aren’t exhaustive but these are the core simplest profile I could break down. Feel free to steal anything and add to your collection ;)

spittingimage,
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I’ve never really thought about it. I may be a philosophical zombie.

cheese_greater,

Neither did I till I had the time till recently. I believe they are important to understanding problematic relationships and dynamics and yourself by extension

DantesFreezer,

What would you pick as your top 3? Top 2?

I see autonomy sorta winding through this one, any thoughts on why that’s a big deal for you?

Curious as I’ve done this exercise before but only in short lists. I think I did it in couples therapy once as well, and, yeah, autonomy probably not a good one in the setting.

Birdie,

Add integrity

cheese_greater,

What would you say the difference is between authenticity and integrity?

Or do they more or less both boil down to honesty 🤔

Krudler,

In a general sense (edit lack of) integrity involves compromising/adjusting your values for convenience, expedience, or personal gain.

A very common shape this takes is people who have a standard of behavior for others in the world, but they somehow cannot apply that standard to themselves.

GluWu,
  • Horny -> I need to cum
  • Happy -> I just came
  • Healthy -> I have cummed
NegativeInf,

Do the least harm while doing the most good.

Ends do not justify means.

That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.

Never attribute to malice what can be explained adequately by ignorance.

When confronting and assessing any system of belief one must always ask one self, what are the facts?

killeronthecorner,
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  1. Big beats are the best
  2. Get high all the time
Bizarroland,
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My core values are:

Learn everything you can

Share the knowledge you have gained

Don't be a dick

Help out

Don't be afraid to roll up your sleeves

Work until the job is done

And don't fucking take yourself seriously.

somnuz,

venerate the mindful discernment with grace

PanoptiDon,

Integrity, autonomy, and the scientific method

PlasterAnalyst,

Mistakes are ok, and if you can't accept that, then fuck yourself.

Lifecoach5000,
  1. Serve the public trust
  2. Protect the innocent
  3. Uphold the law
Septimaeus,
inb4_FoundTheVegan,
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Autonomy - The same core reason that sexism, racism, transphobia, classism and ableism is wrong, is also the reason I am vegan. A creatures birth does not dictate what it is “meant” for. So long as your desires so not cause suffering in another you are free to determine your own life’s purpose, and when you do intentionally cause legitimate suffering in another, you are ethically required to stop.

Fiivemacs,

creatures birth does not dictate what it is “meant” for

Tell that to hungry predetors.

Also, Ethics = subjective…so have fun with that

inb4_FoundTheVegan,
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A bear or tiger has no concept of morality or ethics so they have no obligation to abide by it. Humans do, which is why it would be wrong to hurt that animal for your own meat/skin/trophy pleasure.

Take a step back and realize how silly it is to object to human morality because tigers don’t.

tygerprints,

Mine are: treat others as you want to be treated, and have respect for other people's opinions. But those seem to go right out the window when I'm on this forum.

Lath,

I am whatever the day wants me to be.

oxjox, (edited )
@oxjox@lemmy.ml avatar

How do I want to be treated?

Probably most other people want the same.

How do I feel when I’m not treated with kindness or respect?

How do I feel when I’m misunderstood or wrongly accused?

Probably most other people feel the same.

I know I’m not perfect at this. But at the end of the day, when I’m reflecting on my day’s interactions, I’m thinking of how I could have done things better. And hopefully over time I’ll be the kind of person I’d like to encounter and maybe even be friends with. That’s all we can hope for, to leave tiny breadcrumbs of positivity and to be remembered fondly.

There’s a lot of divisiveness and hostility and cognitive biases in the world today. I don’t think it needs to be this way but I also think it’s largely outside our ease to control. Holding onto and constantly reflecting upon our core values, values I believe most other people share, may help regain our control and our humanity.

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