I think the intention of that statement is that you are an adult, but often won’t have the full responsibilities of adulthood until later. So it’s kinda like having the most freedom to do what you want before you get settled, and while you are at or near your physical peak.
(Obviously this varies a lot between individuals, and I don’t really agree with the sentiment anyhow)
I know you might need to hear this. The things you’re doing right now, they aren’t a mistake. There is no answer, no perfect life to live. You’re doing okay. Your life will always be a work in progress. Please don’t feel like your life needs to become something to be worthy of respect. Think back to a time in your life that you regret wasting time. Was the past you content in that moment? Then why regret it?
To everyone who sat on the couch too long. Who stayed in that broken relationship. Who dropped out of school. Who betrayed someone close to them. Or who missed an opportunity. Or who made a minor social error. Forgive yourself for those things. For everything. That thing you’re holding on to. Forgive yourself for that too.
I want you to know that the world is a better place with you in it. You don’t need to be important in your world. Just to yourself.
It’s going even more downhill from there, believe you me. Enjoy your shitty food, video games and young loneliness. It’ll only develop into old person eats shitty food and regrets it instantly, plays video games that are no longer interesting to you and old person loneliness. Ask me how I know…
That’s the worst part of being 30+ for me. Not enjoying anything anymore. Being able to afford a 4090, but video games just aren’t fun anymore like they used to be. And the few high school friends I had all disappeared and moved on with their lives before I even reached 25. So now the only form of enjoyment I get comes from my car. If I didn’t have something that was fun to drive, I’d have nothing.
At first I thought it was just depression. But I went to several psychologists; tried various anti-depresssnts and mood stabilizers but none of them do anything for me. So I don’t think I have depression. The body simply does not want to enjoy anything anymore once you get older. Sucks, man.
Reach out to the high school contacts who weren’t your friends, chances are there’s a large% of them also feeling isolated, and you will have shared experiences.
And don’t give up on therapy/therapeutics. Everyone’s isolated right now, despite what their screen tells them
But I went to several psychologists; tried various anti-depresssnts and mood stabilizers but none of them do anything for me.
Just want to point out that the efficacy of treatments isn’t an indication of whether you actually have depression or not. Took me many years to find a working combination of meds and therapy, and it’s still a struggle.
If I were to play “internet therapist” here (which is totally always a great idea) I would suggest to try spontaneity. Shake things up, go outside your not-so-comfort-zone, because it sounds to me like what you’ve been doing isn’t working. And logic dictates the only way to find something that does work is by trying something different.
I’m almost 30 and I stopped enjoying video games long ago… probably late teens into early twenties. It kin dof stinks because it’s a great solo activity, get I just can’t get into it. People say I should find a hobby, but everything just feels like “work” to me. When I get home at the end of the day, I only have the motivation and mental capacity to veg out on the couch or online. Mine isn’t depression either. It’s just like I don’t have the mental capacity to do stuff like that for whatever reason. I actually enjoy watching people play video games, just not playing them myself.
Find a sport you really love. You’ll make new friends, feel healthier, and life wont feel like a waste so much anymore. Its not a cure-all but it sure makes life better.
Yeah, that’s right. Do yoga. Eat good. Exercise daily. Smile and dance once a day. Embrace the sun and a tree here and there. NOPE. I say: find a drug you really love, something reasonably natural, you’ll make new friends, feel good every day, when you buy it and can go home at last, all other problems are just disappearing, no more taxes, career, consume, all gone. No more pain. It’s not a cure, but it’ll sure make life different. Oh, and cultivate your sarcasm, THAT can be a cure.
NGL, 30s are where it’s at. All my 20s people shit on people over 30 acting like they were old and out of touch. Maybe I am but tbh I have loved my 30s like I lived my 20s except I have more money, know what I like and don’t like, and feel zero pressure to do anything I don’t want to. It owns, highly recommend.
You know what, you’re right. My 20s have been mostly like the photo in the OP…but chilling out yourself in your own time is still a lot better than the whole growing up through puberty thing.
Hate when people say a certain time period of your life should be the best time of your life. Childhood, teenage years, 20s… High school, college… It doesn’t matter. Your life is yours and it’s different than anyone else’s. You’re allowed to have different points in your life when it’s good and bad. Don’t feel like you’re missing out because of some pointless, arbitrary rule that says this is supposed to be the best point in your life.
They meant back in the day when a 20 year old could get a bullshit job, and still be paid enough to party, travel, buy nice things and save for a bit for a house.
My 20s were a bit of a shitshow, actually. Had that partially developed brain making a lot of stupid choices and I had no clue who I really was or what I wanted. My 30s have been a lot better, even accounting for the fact that I got divorced. I turn 40 soon and I’m hopeful for the next decade. I fully expect to give my last fuck sometime soon.
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