ooh yeah I am a woman and thankfully I don’t drink alcohol ever, and if I did I could see how my mouth would get very ascerbic. I have so many bitter, cutting, scathing opinions about people, and I learn to keep them to myself, but if I ever had alcohol, I’m pretty sure I would let it all go and probably would have been murdered in a bar a long time ago
From what I hear it’s usually more about back-handed compliments than outright insults, like “wow, you must have a lot of confidence in yourself to wear that, go you!”
Usually, they say it, but not directly to you. The attacking woman will tell another person in the group, and that person will usually tell the target woman what was said by the first woman just “because I thought you should know.” Very, very rarely is it said directly.
I also have seen a lot of people pull the move of talking too loud about things they hate about the target woman on purpose so that the target woman hears it, but can’t really confont the attacking woman because she “should mind her own business.”
I feel like these clothes are the prefect match for the body type on the right. There are many clothes that might not fit the person the the right (also many wouldn’t fit the person on the left), but the ones in the comics are not these clothes.
I would have been that boyfriend. I always saw women like the right as more attractive and sexual than women like the left. It would infuriate a couple of my friends because I was a pretty boy who had the attention of women they found more appropriate, but I could never get them to understand that those women were like background extras to me in dating terms. It’s not even something I willfully do, it just feels natural and correct to want a bbw vixen.
“body type” has always been a general term to express the entire shape, size and proportions of a person, including excess weight and obesity.
When I was obese I couldn’t pull off crop tops because of my body size, it was incredibly unflattering, and now that I’m a healthy weight I still can’t pull off crop tops because of my body proportions, I have a short torso.
Body type encompasses both scenarios, so it’s often thought of as a polite way to tell someone something is unflattering without singling out specific “flaws” in their body.
That makes a bit more sense. I was initially reminded of the various pseudo-scientific attempts to classify variations in human body shapes, which usually don’t factor in great variations in body fat content. The way it’s used in the image made me think this was an attempt to frame an unhealthy lifestyle as something inherent that can’t be changed.
I’m aware that any of the past attempts to classify body types are extremely pseudo-scientific and I’ve explained as much in a different comment in this thread. The point is that “body type” isn’t just necessarily just a generic way to refer to someone’s body shape. Plenty of people still believe in that made up nonsense.
Yeah it’s a bummer. When I left twitter for mastodon there was a full 180° from the attitudes people had. Unfortunately it seems that the outrage/negativity algorithm has trained Redditors too well to break those bad habits.
Oh yeah, absolutely. I’m not saying that obesity is good, but I also don’t think we can judge people for it. If someone is learning how to love themselves, who are we to stand in their way for it?
Maybe they need that self love to push them forward and lose that weight? Maybe not. Regardless I don’t think telling people how they should or shouldn’t dress will bring anyone any sort of good.
It’s that old saying “if you don’t have anything good to say, perhaps don’t say anything at all.”
Most of the negative comments are from Lemmy.world users, which is the instance that recieves the bulk of the Reddit crowd before the users find a more fitting instance.
Lemmy.world tends to attract people from Reddit that are too ideological to stay, but want the same thing as Reddit without the enshittification, so they go to the largest generalist instance first. Over time, some leave for more specialized instances, like Beehaw, Lemmy.ml, programming.dev, or blahaj.zone, so that leaves .world usually with newer accounts, or people who just want Reddit 2 before it went to shit.
Not saying everyone from .world is bad, of course not, but what drives users to .world over more niche instances is usually coming straight from Reddit.
Wait I am in this comment I left reddit and joined world then wanted to switch to a different one so just joined .ee arbitrarily. Is there a short reference somewhere of how these are all different from each other?
Here is a good spot to pick an Instance. You can stay with .ee if you want, but I recommend picking a new instance that fits what you personally prefer! You can also check what instances are federated with which other instances. For example, .world isn’t federated with Lemmygrad or Hexbear, but .ml is federated with all 3, so you may wish to change your instance accordingly.
You can find it in the server list at the bottom of the website. Lemm.ee is pretty broad, as are most of the top instances.
Defederation isn’t a bad thing. .world isn’t federated with Hexbear and Lemmygrad because .world doesn’t like Marxist-Leninists, for example, so it can help keep an audience curated. Lemmy.ml liked Marxist-Leninists, so it is federated with them.
What separates a “tankie” from a Marxist-Leninist? Is it just vibes? I got called a tankie for recommending a “leftist” to read Marx, specifically Critique of the Gotha Programme. Said leftist thought that the biggest factor of Capitalism is the employee-employer relationship, which is of course ridiculous, as that would mean feudalism is Capitalist, or even Market Socialism.
Since I get to see a lot of hexbear posts and comments as a lemmy.ml account, I can genuinely say that the biggest distinction between hexbear and lemmy.world, besides the fact that hexbear is explicitly leftist, is that hexbear users love to combat liberals and liberalism, often dogpiling on anti-communist takes, which .world sees as disruptive.
Marxism predicted a temporary dictatorship of the proletariat during the proletariat revolution. Marxist-Leninism took the temporary dictatorship prediction and ran with it, establishing a permanent dictatorship of the communist party, which Lenin called the Vanguard Party.
There are Marxists that disagree with the idea of the Leninists’ Vanguard Party and authoritarianism. Tankies, on the other hand, are the communists that support this idea of a permanent communist dictatorship and its authoritarianism, at least in a nutshell.
So I would say that most ML Commies are technically ‘tankies’, but not all commies are ML. A lot of commies are just M.
I’m aware of the allegations, I just think people who believe Marxism-Leninism is in contrast to Marxism are “anarchist-washing” Marx’s actual writings and beliefs. See Critique of the Gotha Programme.
What separates Lenin from Marxism is the idea of a vanguard party, the concept of Democraric Centralism, and Lenin’s analysis of Imperialism, not how long the dictatorship of the Proletariat might last. Additionally, Marxism-Leninism wants the DoP to last until there is no more Bourgeoisie, same as traditional Marxism, it doesn’t mean that after that happens there is no government, just no means by which one class oppresses the other. Same as Marxism.
Marx, after all, refers to any Capitalist state as a Bourgeois dictatorship, regardless of the presence of Liberal Democracy. The dictatorship of the Proletariat just refers to the presence of a worker-state, a state democratically run by the workers, and that’s what Marxism-Leninism proposes.
Basically, my point is that people that oppose Marxism-Leninism should usually also oppose Marxism itself, because they aren’t really different. It’s completely fine to be an Anarchist who accepts the analysis of Capitalism done by Marx and Lenin but rejects the statist nature of Marxism, but I do think that the idea of Lenin somehow going against Marxism is “anarchist-washing” of the statist nature of Marx himself.
I’m aware of the dictionary definition, I want to know why you think Marxism is fine while Marxism-Leninism isn’t. How is Marxism-Leninism authoritarian, when Marxism isn’t? Have you read Critique of the Gotha Programme? You’re “anarchist-washing” Marx, who advocated for a democratically run Worker-State, just like Marxism-Leninism does. All Lenin adds is a critique of Imperialism, the concept of Democratic Centralism (which is already the de-facto form of democratic decision making in the world), and the idea of a Vanguard Party being necessary.
That’s why I’m saying you’re purely operating off vibes. It’s 100% okay to be an Anarchist that appreciates Marx’s critique of Capitalism, and even Lenin’s critique of Imperialism, while instead preferring Anarchism in action, or even Reformist Socialism, but don’t pretend Marx was some hero of anarchism or something.
On what grounds? They read Marx and Lenin, discuss their works, and personally claim to be Marxist-Leninists. If you aren’t referring to Marxism-Leninism, then what are you referring to?
To be honest, I don’t really think you’re engaging in good faith.
I think being demonstrably pro-Russian anti-Ukraine is one such example. I think they coddled the Chinese government too much. The allies they have do not align with true communist values.
I am engaging in good faith, you’ve been disengaging and dodging questions, which is frustrating.
I understand that you don’t have much exposure to hexbear with a .world account, but I see them a lot. It isn’t sufficient to say “pro-russia” or “anti-ukraine,” it’s more accurate to say that they oppose NATO as the largest coalition of Imperialist states in the world, presently, following Lenin’s analysis of Imperialism.
Same with China, China is currently the largest actually existing Socialist state, so they have critical support for what the CPC does. This is with the notion that people are driven by Material Conditions and Material Reality with respect to Mode of Production drives history.
Hexbear is largely Marxist-Leninist, and you’ll find that Marxist-Leninists largely agree with Hexbear, regardless of where you find them.
That’s why I am asking why you claim Hexbear is authoritarian, but Marx isn’t. Hexbear doesn’t simply support authoritarianism, but opposes Imperialist countries along Lenin’s analysis. Marx additionally wasn’t a Utopian, but a Scientific Socialist.
I have ample experience with these people. That’s why I created an account here. They bullied me with mod supported targeted harassment because I wasn’t communist enough or something.
That was in response to me telling you how they operate and aren’t simply “authoritarian supporters”, to which you said you have “ample experience.”
Support for the CPC is still Marxist, and opposing NATO is also Marxist. Hexbear does not support the Kremlin from what I have seen. You say you’re a Marxist but disagree with this, which is why I am asking what you think Marx wanted that Hexbear doesn’t, or vice-versa.
Marx didint even believe in an established government. Much less one that invades a soveriegn nation such as Ukraine. Are you implying imperialism is compatible with the views of Marx?
There’s a differnece in being anti NATO and pro Ukraine invasion.
Marx absolutely believed in an established government, read Critique of the Gotha Programme. Marx advocated for a worker-state until class was abolished, then the instruments used to opress one class by another would be abolished. The government would remain. Read Engels’ On Authority for more information. You’re “anarchist-washing” Marx.
Marx wouldn’t support the invasion of Ukraine, and neither does Hexbear. Hexbear supports a ceasefire.
From my experience Hexbear isn’t as much full of tankies as it is full of anti-west people. Depending on who you end up interacting with you might not even call them explicitly leftist. I don’t see supporting Russian invasion of Ukraine as leftist, but you can find people in Hexbear supporting just that.
Hexbear isn’t simply anti-west, but anti-imperialism. As in, Lenin’s definition. As extreme shorthand, Lenin defines Imperialism as the point at which Capital has concentrated to the point of near monopoly so as to impact the state’s decisions, a merging of bank and industrial Capital, export of Capital (not commodities), formation of international monopolies, and territorial division amongst the greatest Capitalist monopolies.
Following this, Russia does not hold the same extreme economic power internationally that NATO countries do, so while hexbear condemns Putin as a bourgeois dictatoraship and seeks an immediate end to the conflict, they also believe NATO as an imperialist power cornered Russia into making a move, provoking it.
Hexbear is usually anti-west because the West absolutely fits Lenin’s definitions.
That’s pretty much it, if you are familiar with Lenin and agree that opposing the strongest Capitalist powers is a good thing, you’ll agree with some part of hexbear.
It’s also worth noting that hexbear isn’t simply Putin supporting, they would rather the Communist party rule Russia, but if they have to pick sides, they would rather support the anti-Imperialist side (again, Lenin’s definitions) than the Imperialist side (yet again, Lenin’s definitions).
It’s not that .world doesn’t like Marxist-Leninists, it’s that Hexbear likes to doglike over everything and well you can tell a lot about Lemmygrad by its name.
Someone once posted a graphic showing how each instance leaned politically and I thought it was pretty useful. Some more important distinctions between them are censorship, many will censor bad words or content they find objectionable and I just couldn’t tolerate how dumb that was so I picked a fairly anarchist anything goes instance.
Unfortunately you only get a good overview by being here a long time and paying a bit of attention to the seasonal drama. The biggest pointers, to my knowledge, would be that a lot of instances are defederated with lemmygrad and hexbear (but not all), because otherwise the bad faith campism and trolling gets unbearable, world is defederated with the piracy instance, and virtually every large server is defederated with “free speech absolutists” who let their instances fester with far right types.
I joined Lemmy.ml because it looked like the largest generalist instance plus apparently ran by Lemmy developers. Here you list it as a specialist one. Well, I couldn’t have known at the time. :D
It’s a bit of both! It’s an older instance, but it is focused on FOSS and Privacy. It isn’t extremely specialized, of course, but it is not a pure generalist instance either.
Being fat is unhealthy, and generally seen as unattractive. It is preferable to share constructive feedback with overweight people to motivate them to improve themselves and be happier people. Fat acceptance is the opposite of compassion, because it makes it harder for overweight people to improve themselves by denying that they have a problem, which destroys their motivation to solve it.
Jeezum fuck you’re gross. There is zero motivation to take care of a body you hate. It has been scientifically shown that shaming pepple does NOT make them lose weight but that doesnt matter to people who only want to feel superior to others.This is a comic about a chubby woman wearing clothes she feels good in and existing in society, and makes no comment about what she’s doing to take care of her health. The only trash here is you. Fuck off, loser.
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