I’m a cis man. I only watch this community because I feel for y’all and understand the discrimination you’re going through.
I’m autistic and severely ADHD. It’s hard to live when everyone hates you for just being you. So while I’m not an egg or anything I take comfort in being around others who know how it feels to be rejected and fought against.
I reach for agender/neutrois. I interpret it under the non-binary umbrella and use that too. Though I also still consider myself ‘transfem’, or at least ‘transfem-ish’.
If you had asked me a year ago what my gender identity was, my answer would have been rather different than if you asked me now. I tend to be skeptical that I have the appropriate epistemic vantage point to have a certain answer to such a question. I’m not even sure there is such a thing as a persistent, innate, or essential gender identity.
Philosophical problems aside, assuming this is a census or something, I would be considered a trans woman.
I’m just a standard issue guy; always have been. Was raised conservative and flipped to progressive as an adult.
I’m here out of benevolent curiosity. I want to know how to interact with trans folks respectfully. I believe that learning about their thoughts and experiences will foster a perspective that makes it easier to understand how to do that.
I care about trans rights even though it doesn’t affect me personally. The same way that I care about abortion rights even though I can’t get pregnant.
I’m generally okay with and at ease with my birth gender, though I would definitely say that my inner self isn’t inherently gendered and more picked up the qualities of my birth gender along the way but isn’t inextricably linked to it.
I tend to think of it like how light when absorbed and reemitted takes on the frequency of the thing which absorbed it, but that coloring of the light isn’t really describing the original nature or quality of the light so much as the journey it took and what was picked up along the way.
So cis gendered but not particularly committed to my gender one way or another. Would rank a host of other qualities above my gender in how important it is to my identity.
I guess I’m a trans tomboy? I’m new to all this so I don’t have the lingo down yet. I have two ex-wives and I think I want an ex-husband too. But it’ll have to wait. I recently realized I need someone who sees me as a woman and that’s likely not happening anytime soon. Right now it feels like I want to wait until after bottom surgery. It’ll be a long wait, but I’ve decided not to let old hang ups and preconceived notions dictate my life any longer so it might change if I meet the right person. I’m not sweating it, though.
I tend to just lurk because this isn’t a space for me, but it’s a good way to keep connected to the community outside of my local area, and stay aware of ongoing social changes and such.
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