Adderall 2 days in a row now makes me paranoid, and I’ve never really been able to get a doc to prescribe vyvance or anything else, and frankly at this point, I’m afraid to do stimulants. Strattera made me feel weird....
I was recently diagnosed as an adult. I tried for a few years to explain my difficulties to my primary doc, but was always told to try x,y,z organizational app. She was great and listened to me for everything else. Oh well. I decided I’d try getting a diagnosis from a LPC. After finding one that I clicked with, he told me that since we had had many sessions treating my depression, he felt the professional ethics would be murky for him to test me for ADHD (he wouldn’t be independent as he has knowledge of many of my issues). This was despite me telling him on day 1 that I’m here to get tested for ADHD and to do something about my depression. Oh well. A few more false starts with other providers happened. Then my husband encouraged me to try again in a new city, but I got there and got the diagnosis. Yay!
I decided I wanted to pursue medication via telehealth (the Done! marketing campaign got to me). But Done is a membership, and reading about the 15 minute follow up visits turned me off. That lead me to Klarity where you pay a reasonable price per visit and no monthly membership fee on top. Here’s where I bang my head on the desk…Klarity had me basically retest for ADHD. I did not have an option to send them my 3rd party diagnosis report and skip their own test. But their test is very straightforward and uncomplicated. If I had known about Klarity before my other testing, I could have saved months of following up with my scatter-brained psychiatrist and money.
Anyhow, if you want to give meds another shot, look into Klarity. After the initial screen they will give you a list of family nurse practitioners to choose from who can do the prescribing. And you can get your Rx filled at your local pharmacy or at your insurance’s mail-order service.
My difficulty has been in finding a therapist that can help me with ongoing coping strategies. I can’t find anyone who specializes in ADHD in my area. They mention ADHD as an “also treats…” but it’s not their primary specialty. I’ve built up a number of coping strategies myself since I’ve tackled 40+ years of life before diagnosis, but some aren’t exactly healthy or sustainable. I was hoping for some a-ha! moments. But it seems that forums like this are where I find those kind of tips - from people going through it.
tl;dr > try Klarity for meds if you’ve been turned down by old-fashioned doctors.
My therapist recently had me (mid 40’s) reconsider everything that has worked for me in the past and to list it all out in my journal (or something visual that I can keep relatively handy). I do forget to keep looking at it and choosing a tool from the toolbox so I probably need to rethink what I write it on and how I display it. She also advised that when I notice the helpfulness of the list falling off, that I REWRITE IT and change up the order.
The tools in my toolbox evolve all the time. Some of them work better for some tasks vs others. Some of them have lost their punch over time and need to be benched for a while. My current favorite tool on the list is to plop headphones on and crank some EDM or anything karaoke-worthy. This doesn’t work for work-work where I need to concentrate, but it works fantastically for anything physical like DIY projects or non-thinking things like laundry or dishes. For work-work, I still haven’t found one that is no-fail, but playing lo-fi instrumental hiphop like the study girl video does ok to keep me on task once I can get myself kickstarted. Oh and ChatGPT is my new work bestie for writing anything, especially emails. Sometimes it hits the target where I can just copy/paste, but usually it gives me enough material to edit into something intelligible. I also have to keep reminding myself to add a sensory something when I start getting off track. I have bicycle pedals that fit under my desk. They worked great when I first got them. They’ve been benched for a while now, and maybe it’s time to bump them back up the roster. I have an accupressure mat, back massage cushion, will light candles or incense, chew gum, just basically try to layer not-too-distracting sensory things on top of what I HAVE to do, and that usually gets me through it where I can then go be a potato for a while.
Do you want something living and verdant? Thatch? Fired tiles? Mined slate? Some sort of house mullet where you have solar panels in the front and wildflower garden in sod on the back? What is your dream? What is most practical? What is most sustainable? Any and all answers are welcome!
When I was a kid, it'd have to be Memorial Day. All the extended family would convene at the old family cemetery to decorate the graves. That isn't the weird thing... the weird thing was we treated it as a family reunion and picnicked together among the head stones.
Yes, I found out from my Filipino friends that picnicking among ones ancestors was a thing. Or at least for their family, it was. I kind of like the idea now as a sentimental activity, but kid me thought it was macabre.
My MIL gives us all presents from "Santa". I'm pushing 50. She thought it was hilarious when I started doing it back to her ("why is Santa's handwriting different on this tag??")
I wish my in laws were game players. My grandmother used to get us all to play Rook together. It's like Gin Rummy but acceptable for Southern Baptists to yell out! ... it was a dry county...
Family meals can be overwhelming, and even traumatic depending on the family. After I got married, I could at least take every other year off. It's now really just me and my dad who are left, and he doesn't really put much effort into relationships. I miss them all so so much. I don't really miss the chaos at family gatherings, but I'd deal with it again. Just make the most of your time with the ones you care for.
haha, that sounds awesome! I recently set up an Echo for my aunt, her first Alexa device. I told her she could ask it to play music. I expected her to ask for Andrea Bocelli or something, but she asked for Abba and then the Beegees. I've never heard her listen to disco in all my life, and then she started dancing. So of course I'm not gonna leave her hanging; I got up and boogied down with her.
This is the classic party/ tailgate meatball recipe. I, too, thought grape jelly was offputting combined with chili sauce and mustard, but it is really good. Yes it can get pretty sweet, but that's easily adjusted. Also a crockpot doesn't put out nearly as much heat as turning on the oven. And I consider this as low cooking because it's basically dump it all in, turn it on, and ignore it the rest of the time.
I camp in a travel trailer, and have done 2 road trips so far with the hubby. First trip was Savannah>St. Augustine>Charleston. We were short on choice in Savannah and stuck with a KOA sandwiched between Hwy 17 and 95. It... was a safe place to park and the showers were decent, I'll give it that. The campground in St Augustine...
I've been wanting to give Maine a try since I met a couple friends that would spend their summers there. I don't know why I think of it as so far away when I just basically drove that far to FL and back. But we'd have to set aside a good chunk of time because there is so much to see there. I didn't even know bioluminescent kayak tours were a thing, and now that's on the list!
I live across the street from protected wetlands, so I totally get the bug nuisance! We can't turn the porch light on, and frogs hang out on our windows aka the bug buffet, lol.
You won't be very far from Fossil Butte National Monument. We stopped there and at a fossil quarry 2 years ago on our way up to Yellowstone. I had the best time splitting rocks looking for fossils! We came back with some nice specimens.
We used to be in the DC area as well (the back side of IAD) but escaped and moved closer to family. I miss things like Clydes and the 930 Club but now we're so much less stressed, I don't know how we stood it for as long as we did.
I hope to get up your way the next time we do a trip to Australia. Darwin and Perth are two major areas that we haven't explored yet. I would not be one of the ones to brave swimming, and I've done some pretty risky dumb shit. I loved camping in Tassie though (Cradle Mtn). Fewer crocs up on the mountain but the Park's bus drivers are hella cranky! 😂
There's that point in one's life where you go from thinking "I'd never wear a bug net, they look so derpy" to "gimme that thing, I can't take the bugs in my eyes any longer!" For me it was the midges on Isle of Skye that did it. And I've lived in the Keys, currently live in a swamp, and visited the red centre of Australia and Alaska during summer. Unashamed bug net believer right here.
That sounds really lovely! Some of the smoke made its way here. Not as bad as NYC or even DC, but enough that I felt it. You were really lucky to have a little oasis!
Please don't tangle my rope.
It’s knot funny.
Everyone is sharing pics of dogs, cats and other pets. So let me present to you my parrot from Wish. (beehaw.org)
What is the craziest thing that's ever happened in your life?
Curious to know what people have encountered in their lives.
For those unmedicated, how do you manage?
Adderall 2 days in a row now makes me paranoid, and I’ve never really been able to get a doc to prescribe vyvance or anything else, and frankly at this point, I’m afraid to do stimulants. Strattera made me feel weird....
Had to stop taking meds, looking for advice.
I'm posting this simply because I didn't have any other place to post it, and I'm hoping I'll get some sort of cathartic relief by doing so....
Friday night frogging session (cdn.masto.host)
Send cake.
What is the best cottage roof?
Do you want something living and verdant? Thatch? Fired tiles? Mined slate? Some sort of house mullet where you have solar panels in the front and wildflower garden in sod on the back? What is your dream? What is most practical? What is most sustainable? Any and all answers are welcome!
I need to survive for 3 days without pooping, and eating as little as possible. I can pee, but not very often. It can't take up too much space. What food do I pack?
Please don't ask why I need this....
There is a turtle in my yard (beehaw.org)
It likes digging holes. It hides in it's shell when I get close, but otherwise isn't bothered by us.
What is the weirdest thing that your family does together?
When I was a kid, it'd have to be Memorial Day. All the extended family would convene at the old family cemetery to decorate the graves. That isn't the weird thing... the weird thing was we treated it as a family reunion and picnicked together among the head stones.
What are your favorite no-cook/low-cook recipes for summer? (beehaw.org)
I'm looking for your best meals that require little to no cooking for days when turning on any kind of heat source sounds miserable....
Where have you been camping so far this summer?
I camp in a travel trailer, and have done 2 road trips so far with the hubby. First trip was Savannah>St. Augustine>Charleston. We were short on choice in Savannah and stuck with a KOA sandwiched between Hwy 17 and 95. It... was a safe place to park and the showers were decent, I'll give it that. The campground in St Augustine...