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Not surprised the state responsible for Mitch McConnell is really good at voting counter to its best interests.

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Got a refurbished steelcase for ~300 with no regrets.

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Probably by design, to be honest. Jobs tend to be very anti-parent, especially in US states where FMLA is legally protected.

I’m fortunate to work for a company that has a culture of prioritizing real life so you can do your best work. Sadly, that’s antithetical to next quarter thinking, so it’s not the norm.

The dumb thing is (in my experience) parents seem to work harder and stay at companies for longer than childless folks. They’re just shorter on free time and need some basic flexibility to address emergent issues. Not to mention being better at teaching and managing in general.

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Really hope there will be follow-up call to action and education on civic engagement and organizing. But not counting on it.

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Don’t get sequenced and encourage your relatives to avoid as well. It’s not worth risking your genome getting leaked.

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  • Facebook groups, unfortunately 😬
  • independent booksellers
  • meetup.com
  • Unitarian church
  • drag shows and gay bars
  • pride
  • dating apps
  • hormone clinics sometimes have info for support groups
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It was a really rough time after I got the cPTSD diagnosis because it really changed the context of my life. So my brain, being so very helpful, decided to do a 24/7 stream of my past for reconciliation. Probably not a unique experience so here’s tips I could have used earlier on:

  • mindfulness practice is paramount so that you’re not just like dissociating into oblivion or getting consumed by flashbacks. James Gordon’s “The Transformation” (also printed as “Transforming Trauma”) is pretty solid on the mindfulness stuff, though some of it needs to be taken with like a fistful of salt.
  • sleep hygiene is everything since without it, symptoms are worse and you’re less equipped to cope. Do not be afraid to get psychiatric help if nothing is working. The last thing you want is to be in urgent care after being awake for four days straight.
  • get on some anxiety medication. Helps with the sleep and with having more mental space when flashbacks hit
  • weekly therapy
  • lean on supportive humans in your life. DBT might help stand in if you don’t have those, but you need to be careful that it’s not a group dominated by cluster B personality disorders (I.e. people like your abuser(s))
  • schedule time for soothing activities that you enjoy
  • exercise. Doesn’t have to be extreme, but like try and at least walk for half an hour a day.

Tl;dr - sleep, mindfulness, therapist, psychiatrist, support of loved ones, self-care, exercise

A new global gender divide is emerging (archive.ph)

One of the most well-established patterns in measuring public opinion is that every generation tends to move as one in terms of its politics and general ideology. Its members share the same formative experiences, reach life’s big milestones at the same time and intermingle in the same spaces. So how should we make sense of...

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Seems intuitive that those that benefit from the patriarchy would defend the status quo. Good on Gen Z for not settling for chauvinists.

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Honestly, most goods and services are a scam. Companies don’t care about workers, customers, or even their own longevity. Shareholders and next quarter profits reign supreme. If there is something that is not yet a scam, it will be co-opted and enshittified by a more powerful rent-seeker.

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You can set a prompt on Poe with GPT-4 that allows for lewd RP. Will still occasionally throw “I’m sorry, I can’t”s but you just gotta remind it to follow the prompt and stay in character after deleting the message.

I’m not posting the copy pasta for it. Easy enough to find.

Worth $20 dollars on a Privacy card to try out, IMHO.

‘I’m not ready, brother’: US man to be put to death months after botched execution attempt (www.theguardian.com)

Kenneth Smith, 58, is facing execution by an untested method that has never before been used in capital punishment in the US. It’s a technique that has been rejected on ethical grounds by veterinarians for the euthanasia of most animals other than pigs: death by nitrogen gas.

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I used to be a researcher in hypoxia and wanted to clarify this for folks.

The way your brain and body detect low oxygen is indirectly via the drop in pH, or increase in acidity, that high carbon dioxide causes. They call this hypercapnia. Without hypercapnia, there’s none of the pain or distress of asphyxiation because your body can’t actually detect oxygen or its displacement directly.

At 78%, nitrogen is the overwhelming majority of air you breathe.

After 1-2 breaths of 100% nitrogen, humans lose consciousness.

This is why working with inert gases is so dangerous - you’ll asphyxiate without even knowing you entered a room without enough oxygen to sustain life. Had to do a whole training to get our liquid nitrogen tank into a smaller animal isolation room for our study for this exact reason.

If I had to choose a way to die, I’d choose nitrogen displacement without question.

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An alarming number of trans men think testosterone is sufficient to prevent pregnancy so hopefully this goes a long way to clarifying that particular point.

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To be fair, we do have the benefit that comes with being invisible. It’s an easier life to fly under the radar than to have to fight for common decency with every waking breath.

That said, male pregnancy is seems taboo even among trans men. Not much out there in terms of resources or shared experience. Not a lot of clinical data out there other than like a case study of a Japanese guy who got pregnant on T and delivered an apparently healthy girl and a trend of postpartum depression.

I am surprised that there’s not a single source for gender neutral pregnancy attire. That’s a gripe I’ve heard a handful of times.

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I’ve been really surprised by urban high schoolers and college kids - their sense of style and affect is much more unisex and there’s a distinct apathy toward gender norms. Plenty of ostensibly “straight” young couples wearing clothes and behaving in ways what would have coded millennial youth as queer.

Most of the openly nonbinary people (they/thems) I’ve met are much younger than me.

Groovy. Gender roles are dead. Guess this might help explain why trans folk are seen as the big bad by boomer conservatives and rural folks.

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There appears to be a punctuated rejection of more traditional gender roles in current youth. With the concurrent increased visibility of trans people, I can sort of see how someone who is under-informed and fearful of change might blame trans folks for this or perceive them as a threat. There’s no actual reason to think these are causal, but I can kind of see how one could end up seeing it that way.

Just spitballing, I’ve been trying to wrap my head around where the vitriol toward trans* folks comes from lately. Like yeah, bigotry and lack of understanding, but that kind of dismissal doesn’t lead to understanding or dialogue. Still not sure what is so scary about cultural changes, but there seem to be people who strongly feel that “the way things are/have been” is somehow sacred or important regardless of whether there’s objective rationale?

As far as whether trans* people necessarily follow gender roles, I haven’t really seen that to be the case in the circles I orbit. Especially since trans and nonbinary aren’t, like, mutually exclusive.

There is a lot of pressure to conform with gendered expectations in order to “pass” and receive medical treatment, but there’s also lot of exposure to how arbitrary and unimportant gender is as a social construct.

Does any of that help clarify?

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How is existing as a transgender person pornographic or obscene? Is it not well-known that trans people are generally more private about their bodies and sex lives than the general population?

There isn’t even a cogent reason provided for what problem is being caused by trans folks. Presumably it’s the threat to the patriarchy gender variance poses, but idk why they don’t say that part out loud.

How much does a creator's worldview influence whether you use their tech or consume their media?

Watching the drama around kagi unfold and it has me wondering how much you take into consideration a creator’s view on things like homophobia, sexism, racism, etc. when deciding to use a product. I think most of us have a bar somewhere (I would imagine very few on this website would ever consider registering on an altright...

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As much as I resent it being the way of things, money is power under capitalism. Where possible, I try not to cede mine to people looking to do nefarious things or disseminate shitty ideals. While I don’t have much personally and Kant was a pretentious douche canoe, I’m still idealistically partial to the universal maxim.

Yeah, no ethical consumption under capitalism or whatever but we can try not to prop up people who are brazenly making the world shittier. Thinking our actions don’t matter is how we get complacency.

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Shit like this is so heinous. Gender dysphoria hits hard enough it’s really hard to establish a career (or even function) without transitioning. Heart really goes out to trans youth - it’s never been more likely to find out you’re trans while young and now it’s fucking politicized.

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Here’s the opinion piece for the morbidly curious.

Goes without saying that it’s uncouth to speculate on anyone’s sexuality. Period. It’s their story to tell if they choose.

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Ah yes, the classic “paying nothing to sustain and support a service, then declaring it hopeless because ‘the poors fucked it up’.”

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Can just we skip to the part where gender is impertinent and we just lead our lives in ways that fulfill ourselves and others? Support and adore your partners, communicate and productively work through unmet expectations, etc. It really shouldn’t matter much what’s between one’s legs.

At some level, men just need to stop giving a shit about what maladjusted men think and focus on what actually matters - living a good life for one’s self and those around them. If we’re actually interested in flourishing beyond our critter origins, anyway.

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There’s no disagreement here. Just venting frustrations about the cis-hets. I don’t think I need to discard idealistic dreams and exclusively operate in praxis mode in all places and contexts. It’s too heckin’ stressful.

Yeah, I’m well aware that sex =/= gender as a person as trans experience. But that’s how the world at large treats it and it would be awesome if there were just no preconceptions or expectations on the basis of assigned sex.

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Not sure things would look much different if Twitter was intentionally destroyed.

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Red Hot Chili Peppers - By the Way

It’s not intrinsically emotionally gripping, but my dad loved the heck out of that album and it evokes memories of him singing along and dancing to it.

For me, it’s a song about missing him.

UW-LaCrosse Chancellor Fired After Appearing in Adult Videos (www.insidehighered.com)

In the same statement, Board of Regents President Karen Walsh accused Gow of showing a “reckless disregard for the role he was entrusted with at UW-La Crosse to serve students, faculty and staff, and the campus community,” adding that the board was “alarmed, and disgusted, by his actions, which were wholly and undeniably...

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This really shouldn’t be grounds for termination. What people do off the clock is their business.

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