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@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

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No thanks. We’re an instance focused on the queer and gender diverse community. Not a convenient generic login proxy for the entire Fediverse.

HRT has changed my perception of my own gender

I’ve been admittedly struggling with my identity as a whole, especially as I approach my 1 year mark on Estrogen. So far it’s the right call for me, but I’ve discovered that I’m becoming more comfortable with my masculine traits and even find myself binding my breasts that I’ve waited so many years to have, while the...

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Why is there so much pressure on trans people to put themselves into one box or another?

Many reasons, some or all of which play in to any individual trans person’s experience

  • Trans people are punished more harshly for not adhering to gender norms than cis people are.
  • There is a long legacy of denying trans folk access to transition and health care if they don’t fit in to a binary gender. So a non binary trans person often knows that they’re not cis, and consciously or unconsciously tries to force themself to be binary, because that’s the only path available to them.
  • Gender performance, gender identity and dysphoria overlap and interplay with each other. Whilst they are all distinct, when you’re trying to tease apart your own experiences with them, it’s often hard to tell where one ends and the other begins, which in turn creates confusion and pressure. For example, you talk about gender fluidity freeing us from sex based boxes and norms. I’m a trans woman, but I’m not gender fluid. My experience of gender has been consistent my whole life, even before I understood it. I have zero desire to be constrained by sex based norms, and I have little time for gendered restrictions on expression, but that doesn’t mean my gender is fluid. Yet it’s hard to distinguish those concepts sometimes…

What's something you used to do/see/say but don't anymore because you don't feel it's right?

Me personally? I’ve become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women’s expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I’ve matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I’ve come to see how exclusionarly and...

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Putting people down and using ableism as the punchline in a joke/retort/comment

What perfectly normal thing can't you be around anymore due to something you experienced?

Mine is a pretty tame example: I never minded the smell of garlic was fine around it… but I took a job for DHL and they had these large tubs of garlic for horses that had to go out to people. There were about 10 of them coming down the belt....

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I’ve lived without a car my whole life, but only by sticking to big cities that make it possible.

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Honestly, I just love the heat. I strip down to as few layers as possible, put a fan on, and that’s pretty much it. Even when it gets really hot, I still find that easier than the cold. The question I really want to know is how do people deal with the cold!

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I can’t stand layers of clothing or stuffy indoor air, so both of those are worse than being hot for me

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I mean, I prefer dry heat over humid, but I’ll take either over the cold

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The good old you can always add more layers

This is the main reason I don’t like cold weather. I hate layers! :)

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30 to 33 is my happy place when it comes to heat. 35 is a bit warmer than I like, but manageable. It’s not until around 38 or so that I really start to struggle.

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Rallyman GT, Rhino Hero: Super Battle and Space Base

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after Matildas malfunction

So the whole football team malfuctioned?

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The brutal truth is that Lemmy as a platform isn’t mature and probably wasn’t ready for the scale of growth.

I’m trying to put out fires for an app I didn’t develop and have no input in to. I wish there was an oops button!

What I’ll get you to do is DM me the email address of the account that’s locked. I’ll confirm the email address and then send you an email at that address

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Takaido.

The base mechanic of the game is beautiful, elegant and zen like, and suits the game perfectly

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I’m so tempted to get myself a cargo bike

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If you’re still active and this hasn’t been fixed, let me know. I’ll remove you from the database manually, and can then re-add you

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