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Admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

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Please do not generalise trans folk like that. Not only is it inaccurate to group the desire of all trans men as being unified, the generalisation itself feeds in to all sort of unspoken implications around trans women actively seeking attention, and those sort, often subconscious ideas, are a part of why trans women are hyper visible and trans men are under represented by the media

ada,
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That’s not lemmy world, that’s the bot configuration for a specific community, chosen by the moderators of that community.

Often we say infinite growth (capitalism) is not sustainable and reasonable. Can we also say infinite progressivism is also not sustainable and reasonable?

This question is social/political, and meant to trigger a nice debate on the negatives of imbalanced infinite progressivism we seem to be heading in social and technological spheres, ignoring science, practicality and reason....

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They’re opposite. One is about everyone trying to get larger pieces of pie. The pie is only so big though, so it means people miss out, and it only ends when one person has the entire pie to themselves.

“Progressivism” is about ensuring everyone gets as close to the same amount of pie as possible. Once everyone has equal access to the pie, there’s nothing more be done.

It should be pretty clear why one is more sustainable than the other

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The pie is everything. Economic equality, social equality, it’s all in scope

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Something isn’t bad if people have genuine consent as to whether they participate in it.

The very idea of something being traditional though exists precisely to pressure people in to certain ways of doing things. Ways that work for some, but not others.

Get rid of the pressure, let everyone choose for themselves, and we’re all good

ada,
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It’s my name, so I guess I’ll do ok?

ada,
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Mostly I’ve been dealing with the fediverse spam wave. It’s been an interesting week

[CW: Transphobia] Thoughts on online prejudice of "signs" and tea parties

There was a thread I saw recently, that really struck me as a growing trend I have been seeing online. It has been bothering me and I felt the need to write my thoughts about it. The post in question is about a trans woman joking about being in denial and having tea parties because they are awesome....

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The way I see it, many cis people that don’t understand trans folk (even if they’re supportive) and think that being trans is about femininity or masculinity. That’s it. So the supportive ones, they’re happy to see people challenging those norms, often, precisely because they believe that masculinity and femininity need to be deconstructed. And the non supportive ones, they see trans people “getting it wrong” by focusing on gender (which they don’t think is real) instead of breaking down the social norms (despite many of them not wanting those norms broken down).

And then you have trans folk maybe talking about when they were still in self denial or maybe celebrating an aspect of life that society previously denied them, and to the phobic folk, it looks exactly like what they want to believe, which is that trans identity is simply about masculinity and femininity.

Of course, gender diverse identities are far more complex than simply our relationships with masculinity and femininity, but the reality of that experience is something that very few cis people will ever understand, which makes for an uphill battle in trying to get it across to them, and makes for an easy opportunity for the phobes to drive a wedge in.

It’s why we won’t ever argue cis folk out of transphobia by appealing to their reason and by trying to explain our experiences. We avoid transphobia by appealing to empathy and by normalising our existence

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They won’t add them back. If they do, it’s a safe bet that the transphobes will come at them with a court case about “protecting the rights of women” under transphobic UK law. A case that parkrun has no desire to fight and can’t afford to lose if they do fight it.

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Can we maybe be a little bit less explicit in our headlines? That’s a pretty harsh thing to read in your timeline without warning…

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Not Ada apparently. Every other Ada I meet is either 5 or 85

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Transmed = If you don’t medically transition you’re not trans

Truscum = If you’re not crippled by dysphoria, you’re not trans

They’re both gatekeepers that have latched on to whichever particular form of gatekeeping aligns with their own experience of being trans, and decided that that is the only way to be trans.

ada,
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It’s an intermittent time out issue. We’re not quite sure what’s causing it, but thankfully it’s not impacting everyone/every image.

It’s also not just us. Some other lemmy instances are experiencing similar issues. It might be a version related issue, but we don’t know for sure yet.

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/cc5dca38-f622-4435-8888-89834e31d3ac.jpeg

ada,
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I tried, but I couldn’t do it. I feel like I need to hand in my trans fem card or something…

ada,
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I think you’re on to something there. I’m not American and I’m a lot older than the protagonist. Her life felt very removed from mine, so I didn’t get the feeling of resonating with her experiences the way many people seem to. But you make a good point about coming back to it at some point! I should do that

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