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What I mean by aggressively is, without caveats, without “but…”'s, without ambiguity. Your support needs to be clearly on the support side.

You don’t need to be an activist. You don’t need to be out marching or even commenting on trans stuff, but your opinion on trans folks should be unambiguously on the “support” side of things.

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There was some transphobia that came crawling out like usually happens when a trans topic starts getting active

That is what prompted this post. It happens every single time trans stuff comes up. There is no space for it here.

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That linked to post was a response to an existing ongoing discussion that brought transphobes out of the woodwork. That post also had transphobic replies, and there were multiple discussions going on at once with active transphobes.

It was the ongoing transphobia that occurred around the initial discussion that prompted my post, not any specific single post.

Don't feel bad for the Moderators of Reddit

I should begin by mentioning that I am (was) a moderator of three subreddits: one large subreddit, one NSFW subreddit and a medical-related subreddit. After u/spez’s calamitous AMA, I joined Lemmy and haven’t looked back. I am really enjoying the Lemmy/KBin vibe. It is very much an alpha (almost beta) product and the ad...

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I don’t do it for free thank you very much! I pay to do it :P

Gender Identity Scale

I’ve recently begun going through a bit of a personal renaissance regarding my gender, and I realized my numbers-focused brain needs something to quantify gender identity, both for myself and so I can better understand others. I also just don’t like socially-constructed labels, at least for myself....

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Hmm, I really don’t want to make it too complicated, though.

I mean, we’re talking about gender. Complicated is unavoidable :)

ada,
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without resorting to gender stereotypes

How do you figure that?

Gender stereotypes aren’t related to my own experience of my identity or how I talk about it

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And I’m a trans woman, yet I have no connection to femininity.

It’s a performance I can do, and sometimes even enjoy, but I have no sense of it being related to who I am

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Have you tried doing the exercise, including the part where you have to explain to others why you have positioned yourself where you did?

I have. And it boils down to women/girls are “like me”.

If I were in a room with a group of men and a group of women, it’s the women that I feel the sense of “sameness” with.

At a minimum, you have to talk about other people’s understanding of gender stereotypes and how it relates to your presentation.

Sure, but that’s presentation, not identity. I perform what I call “practical femininity”. It’s the femininity that I have to perform to minimise social pushback. I have no sense of it connecting to who I am, or my identity however.

I think ultimately, I’m being nitpicky here. We all have to navigate stereotypes, and we all have some sort of relationship with them. I just don’t agree that we all need them to talk about out sense of self and our own identities, because my sample size of 1 shows me that it’s not the case for me

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For me, yeah, that would help, but it would need to tell me what it wants me to run as well. Not just that I need to get out there

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Oh, I’ll have to have a look!

Edit - Ah, so they do running as in they’re aware of your runs and start to build data from them, but they don’t use the predictive/plan generation stuff they do with cycling for runs. And I’m a runner more than a cyclist, so it’s specifically the generative abilities related to running I’m interested in.

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