elfpie

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Americans are explaining why they don't say 'you're welcome' in customer service settings after foreigners complained that 'mmhmm' comes off as rude (www.insider.com)

I was watching a video from two years ago about different social norms and this showed up. Found someone questioning the same eight years ago on reddit (when it seemed less normalized). It feels so weird not being aware of this shift, even as a foreigner.

Doctor Who is not for children, says Russell T. Davies (www.telegraph.co.uk)

I think there was an effort in the past to make sure it’s a family show and disconnect The Doctor from the more mature parts of the whoniverse. Maybe the changes in production and, maybe, the realization adults are too obsessed with it create new avenues for money making creativity.

Defeating Little Brother requires a new outlook on privacy (www.malwarebytes.com)

As far back as 2010, in a piece titled “Little Brother is Watching,” author Walter Kirn wrote for the New York Times: “As the internet proves every day, it isn’t some stern and monolithic Big Brother that we have to reckon with as we go about our daily lives, it’s a vast cohort of prankish Little Brothers equipped with...

Vale Night (2022) (imdb.com)

If for nothing else, I needed this movie just for how the camera moved. It followed the characters and the action without dozens of jump cuts. I thought the long take during the opening was just a nice way of presenting the players and the incident that would affect their lives, but it became the norm throughout....

'Not of faculty quality': How Penn mistreated Nobel Prize-winning researcher Katalin Karikó (www.thedp.com)

In the discussion I read elsewhere, people wondered if the way funds are granted would change and advocated for it. I don’t think a system that can say they profit greatly from the status quo will ever care. I also remember how public funding were denied to researchers and then cut without all of it being used.

How do you understand federation?

I don’t really want a definition of what the fediverse should be or was initially envisioned to be. I just want to understand how people actually use it. I started wondering because I felt the talks about its current state and growth stumble in invisible misunderstandings about the basic nature of what we are using or how we...

When you have other tools, but are too used to the hammer

Lip balms here usually have a cap that you just pull to open, and that’s what I had been doing with the latest one I bought. Several times in the several weeks since I first opened it, I thought it’s really too hard an action. Today, maybe because I’m sick and weaker, I stopped to consider my repeated internal criticism...

elfpie,

I read it as being at least one of the three. If it’s not kind, is it a relevant fact? If it’s only your opinion, does that contribute to the discussion?

I think the questions are a tool to make us aware of our behavior. People have issues and can get triggered without noticing and engage in a conversation to their own detriment. Be kind is generic. Do you really want to attack and cause harm to someone else (someone might, BTW)? Are you using facts as a weapon? Is it in your best interest to say something, or in the interest of something positive?

Also, if the reason is to distract yourself, that’s a reason. It’s not a good reason all the time though.

elfpie,

I don’t know your friend, but he may feel like he’s losing you as well. The world is burning and cishet men have trouble finding a place to be safe. We assume they don’t need one, but most of the space they have is not good.

It’s hard to do what I’m going to suggest when you are suffering as well, so put yourself first. Forget any groups, treat you two as your community and ask what exactly is bothering him. What happens that make him feel oppressed? How does you supporting another community harm him? If anything else, his pain is real, he can’t put it into words and end up invalidated. That’s actually a point you have in common, you may start there.

How bisexuality changed video games (www.youtube.com)

It’s a video about sexuality as a gaming mechanic. The same way you might play as a mage or a warrior, you can choose who your character is interested in. Except you don’t realize you have an option until someone else that played the game in a different way tells you. There’s a focus on bisexual erasure as well....

Tildes, Beehaw and the nature of safe spaces

This is not a comparison between Tildes and Beehaw. The question really is what constitutes a safe space, but looking at them side by side was at made me think about this issue. I’m new in both communities and I’m aware that they are in a state of adaptation with all the newcomers, something to keep in mind. Another detail...

Having Fun Cycling – I’m An Explorer

I went for a ride this morning expecting to get a feel of my new tires. It was a thick fog day with all the people that think they don’t need lights (drivers and riders) getting invisible too fast for comfort, so no full speed downhill. I also missed my exit and the (dirt) roads look mostly the same for long stretches,...

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